there. we have a lot of ears listening. a lot of moms are panicking this time of year. break down the survival guide. >> the overall rule is you have a sense of humor because nothing is going to go as planned. >> but it doesn't feel funny sometimes, right? >> you have to have that perspective. you can either laugh about it or cry about it in the closet by yourself. so it's lighten up. >> let's start with the first thing that everyone tries to crank out. that's the holiday card, the christmas card, and the perfect picture. you say? >> there is no perfect picture. with kids, it's impossible. the pictures where somebody is crying, they're funny and refreshing when you're look for these glossy, smiley faces. so lighten up. >> you have three kids? >> i do. >> so we've been there with the kids? , you don't even try at all. >> so there is a sense of humor for you. what about when people say, can i help you? but you really want to do it yourself? >> no. accept the help. whatever the help is. just accept it. somebody wants to bake something, take it. cook something, clean something, delegate.