themselves, nobody stands up to anybody else and they need to learn to do that. >>steve: we've all become victims. if we're not a victim we're going to talk ourselves into it. take this test at home. are you a victim? do people take advantage of you? do friends talk back to you? do you allow your children to talk back to you? those were some of the things we talked about a moment ago. a lot of people out there now are saying i guess my kids do talk back to me and my neighbors do disrespect me. what do i do? >> you grow a pair. >>elisabeth: what do you do? >> first of all, stop whining. most people complain this is how bad my life is and they don't do a darned thing about it. then you take action on what you know is right. you also get real clear about what your priorities are and what you believe in and what you are never going to be willing to compromise. you have something you're not going to compromise on, don't you? i won't be lied to. will you? >>steve: i hate that. >> i will not be lied to. you lie to me, we will