the same, and only because of sexist societies that causes boys and girls to behave differently, if we stop doing that there would be equal numbers of female race car drivers and male ballet dancers. i believed that, i did. until i had children. and woke up and then did a report on abc news that got me in trouble. i said, boys and girls are not the same. >> oh. >> we treated them the same but they were so different. i don't just mean my kids, their friends took the girls were more civilized. they looked you in the eye, talked to you, they cared about your feelings, the boys -- >> bang! >> the boys wanted to go to war. >> bang, bang! >> the girls cared about playing