they are really dedicated in me and not a cheater or anything. that's really all that matters. martha: my next guest is a mom and a princeton alum. she wrote a controversial piece in ph-r to urge women to find their husbands while they were on campus. she cites the cornerstone of our newt and happiness will be linked to the man that you maryanne you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you than the ones you meet on campus. susan patton joins me now. that has a lot of women saying, what i have to find my husband while on campus? that seems to be a long way away from that compared to these girls. >> it's not a long ways from that. it would be wise for young women on college campuses to think about fulfilling their dreams, their personal happiness in the same way they looking to fulfill their professional happiness. it's tragic that hookup sex has become the default relationship