live. he said, "oh, i know." he was busy baking at the time. he said, "i know, son. boy, you've had a bad life, huh? really hard." i'm like yeah, see, you get it! he said, "i tell you what, i got bread in the oven. would you do me a favor, he said make a list of all the things that are bad in your life, all the horrible things that have happened and call me tonight. we'll talk about it." i called him back in ten minutes and i said you don't even have bread in the oven, do you, dad? he laughed and said, "you figured it out that fast?" i said yeah, as i started making a list of all the things that were bad that happened in my life, i realized those things, if that hadn't have happened and that wouldn't have happened and i wouldn't be where i am today. things are bad? no. things may be tough, but they're exactly the way they're supposed to be. for you and for me.