because we laugh at ourselves. we have to half at ourselves. otherwise, how would we have survived? >> mike: that's true. one thing i find in the book, this is a book a lot about traditional family ties. and the importance of maintaining close family relationships. which you have done with your mother. j yes. >> mike: and with each other. >> yes. >> mike: you collaborated on this book. what caused you to say let's write a book about being jewish women? >> what happened, mom gave advice on the real housewife show that resonated with fans and from that advice column ensued in the daily news and then bravotv.com and it came to me in the shower, "secrets of a jewish mother." you know what it was, governor? the reputation of jewish mothers is a little bit shall we say maligned a little bit? a little bit? i thought it was time to set the record straight. >> mike: so you did it in this book. one thing you said, four basic rules of friendship. be there, apologize when