instances of, in his own words, church hurts. >> we're joined by steven mans field, author of "research" feeling your way back to the people of god. good morning to you, steven. >> good morning, rechurching yourself because of church hurts. >> there's a lot of people that have tried church and been offended in some way. we tend to think church is supposed to be the perfect place, a piece of heaven so we go thinking we're going to be thinner and better looking and our marriage is going to instantly improve. when those things don't happen or other things happen that we've heard about or read about in the press, we're hurt and offended. people leave church and don't go back. they're embittered and i think there's a reason for that. >> which is? >> why you went to church, what you were expecting, what the wound was, what you contributed to it and i think there has to be forgiveness and healing on the other side but the sad thing is the folks sitting around starbucks and bars griping about the church and not realizing they need the church and part of