ted's dad was a good provider but had violent mood swings. >> your dad spanked you with a razor strap. >> a razor strap and a wire coat hanger. >> he would hit you like that? >> yeah. but on the behind. i mean, it wasn't dangerous or anything like that. it just hurt like the devil. >> but it hurt. >> yeah. >> i was aware that he was treated harshly intermittently. and i had no idea what to do about it or what to make of it. it is that age. but i was sort of troubled by it. >> when his dad joined the navy, ted was shipped off to boarding school at the age of four. >> well, ill never forget, it was our second date. he told me about his childhood. he turned and looked at me and he said, why are you crying? because tears were pouring down my face.