in this country. and we don't know why. >> so when people come to you and are seeking answers and guidance, how can i help, what can i do if it is their loved one that may see something, may see a problem or may see them struggling. what do you say? >> if there are signs, i refer and say you need to seek medical professional help, psychological help. encourage others to do that. if there is signs, addiction, alcoholism, you need to report it. if they can't reach out themselves, you need to help them reach out. it is the other mysterious ones where there aren't those tell-tale signs that are complexing. people who come to me deal with that sort of guilt. i would tell them, it is not