the most popular way of learning about sex is mainstream porn where the woman has to be subjugated. it starts with the woman giving head. and then eventually sex and it comes with the guy having [ bleep ]. >> that is mainstream? >> yes, and this is how men think that it is to be had and they do very little to accommodate the men's needs. >> yes. >> it is terrible? >> yes, the men don't like to give head. >> the penis is the center of attention. >> in this culture they have seen a woman as a function of their needs and roles. >> so certain men in india have a bad reputation. >> it is not necessarily an indian thing as against a patriarchy thing. this kind of stuff happens on american campuses but you wouldn't go so far as to say white frat boys have a rapy problem happening over there. while rape by itself is endemic, gang rape i wouldn't say is as endemic, there's a lot of media focus on it. >> and yet women like me are always looking at their watch and going it's too dark, i need to go home. >> because it is too dangerous to go home in the dark. >> yes, and no amount of privilege can help you, because it is in the fiber of how the