marriage. advocates felt betrayed. >> many suspected obama's reluctance was a political decision. reflecting his sense of just how much change the country could digest. >> what do we want? >> instead of pushing gay marriage he had steadily but quietly made smaller strides. first, obama signed a hate law against gays. then, he signed a bill allowing gays and lesbians to serve openly in the military. >> never been more proud to wear my uniform and represent this country than today. >> it was not obama but joe biden who forced the issue of gay marriage out of the political closet. >> as more and more americans come to understand what this is all about, is a simple proposition, who do you love? who do you love?