like the conversation that we don't have great conversation all the time. i believe and i learned this from somebody who was married for several years. they say you have to have great communications, finances nord and great sex for relationships really work out. >> i want to talk to the expert on all three of those areas. what do you think is the priority for a woman? is it security and money? is it friendship and communication? or sit great sex? >> i think it has something to do with where they are in their life curve. i think the older a woman, and i have seen this with my c contemporarie contemporaries, finances and security just become your lifeli lifeline. women make this mistake, they meet a man, he'll be a great provider, he's a nice guy. but the passion is not there. you have to start with the passion. it's going to kind of fade a little bit, but at least you're