started disappearing one pair after another and we nover could find them. we didn't know what happened to the glasses. sheena was remodelling, and she came up and said, look what i found. crist mer had hid a brand new pair of his glasses, when he was 11, 12 years old, back behind the panelling in his bedroom. they're brand new. it's awesome. >> well, i understand that hundreds and hundreds of people showed up to his funeral and it was overwhelming to you, and i know you want to get a message out to all other parents that have to deal with this kind of grief. what is that? >> accept help, be gentle with yourself, be patient, go slow. don't expect too much from yourself and let others help you, and just take your time. it's going to get better. it just takes time. let god help you, and let people rally around you, lift you up