I’m deeply in love with my fiancée, we’re looking at houses together, but I’m very worried our relationship is doomed. I have children from a past relationship who adore her and she’s wonderful with them. She is kind, caring, so funny, gentle, honest and playful. She is also absolutely gorgeous and desirable. But sex is a major problem for us.
When we first met, we were instantly, strongly attracted to one another. We went to bed very quickly with no inhibitions or insecurities.
Fast forward a few months. She admitted to me she’s faked some orgasms. I was shocked and ashamed, thinking it’s my fault. Talking it through with her, and separately with my counsellor, we came to realise she sometimes has difficulty fully relaxing. Her mind gets distracted. She pressures herself into trying to enjoy it which I tell her is just making it harder for her.