Dear Care and Feeding,
Is there ever a time when telling a preteen about a parent’s lack of child support/refusal to get a decent job is appropriate? My ex and I share an 11-year-old daughter. My husband and I moved halfway across the country a year and a half ago for a rare and great job opportunity. I have paid to fly us back to visit her dad about every three months, with one longer span when I took her on a holiday trip instead. As my ex only ever had minimal visitation rights, the transition was not super difficult, with the exception of when he cries to her about not seeing her.