Captioning by captionmax www. Captionmax. Com from comedy centrals world news headquarters in new york, this is the daily show with trevor noah cheers and applause trevor welcome to the daily show, everybody thank you so much im trevor noah our guest tonight expert in sex and gender relations esther perel is joining us, everybody going to be a really, really fascinating conversation. But first, big news for anyone, who lives in the universe . All right, a new Miss University has officially won the crown. Our judges are weighed in and fans worldwide have voted. The new Miss Universe is south Africa Trevor yeah yeah thats right south africa rules the universe now yeah first the daily show, now the universe theres no middle, we just went straight there i tell you, south africans, we are really excited but deep down i feel like were waiting for steve harvey to be like, im so sorry, theres been a mistake, and its, like, dammit, steve, she didnt win . Oh, no, she won, i just looked at the card and said apartheid never ended. There was a mistake. You guys need to go back. laughter she looks happier than a nazi that just got interviewed by the New York Times. Look at that face audience reacts prince harry and Meghan Markle are getting married cheers and applause wow and you know, i know as a diverse couple, there was originally some controversy about them being together but, hey, its 2017, people. Shouldnt matter one of them is a ginger. Get over it laughter obviously Meghan Markle is half white, half black and, im not gonna lou, im a little disa pointed because i thought if hair which was looking to marry a beautiful mixedrace foreigner, could have looked a a little bit harder, but i guess that night in morocco didnt mean neg to you, harry. I called you my royal e ed sher laughter there ease always one uncle that is sink your relationship oh, queeny, that you . Oh, those real diamonds . Oh no, no, im just messing with you. I went to harvard. Nice to meet you. laughter moving on the u. S. News. Today President Trump met with native American World war ii heros and met with them to apologize for americas history and the way it has treated no, just messing with you. He made it worse. I just want to thank you because you are very, very special people. You were here long before any of us were here, although we have a representative in congress who they say was here a long time ago. They call her pocahontas. But you know what . I like you because you are special. You are special people. You are really incredible people. Trevor okay. Now no, no, i know your first instinct is to be disgusted, but we have to give credit to the president because at least he did the right racism, okay . Yeah, he could have easily mixed up his end yans and been, like, thank you, come again, come again indian accent but he didnt and went with the right racism. And behind them, andrew jackson. Bad hosting. Thats what it is. I wish these subsequentmen had given trump a native american name. He call you dances with putin. laughter applause as embarrassing as this thing is, this is far from the worst thing trump has said recently because, even though most prominent republicans have come out against Alabama Senate candidates and creepy guy at build a bear workshop roy moore. Donald trump is not most republicans. When they zig, he endorses are pedophile. President trump making clear late today he is standing by Alabama Republican Senate candidate roy moore. Mr. President , is an accused child molester better than a democrat . He totally denies it. He says it didnt happen and, you know, you have to listen to him also. He said, 40 years ago, this did not happen, so, you know. Trevor yeah, so roy moore just says he didnt do it and trump believeshome. You know what i feel like . I feel like trump doesnt know that other people can also lie, you know . Like its a super power only he has. laughter look in the sky, its a bird, its a plane theres no bird, theres no plane laughter its either that or hes willing to win at all costs. Trump tweeted for more support over the weekend and blasted democrat doug jones. The last thing we need in alabama and the u. S. Senate is a Schumer Pelosi puppet weak on crime and the border. Jones would be a disaster. Trevor trumps dangerrer ranking system is democrat then alleged pedophile. Okay, like in his world, parents will be at the park grabbing their kids, sarah, stay away from that man, hes a democrat. Go get candy from the man in the van. Ill handle this. Go on. Go on. Go on applause by the way, this whole week on crime weak on crime thing, doug jones was literally a federal prosecutor who prosecuted the k. K. K. In alabama. Thats hardly weak on crime. I guess for trump weak on crime is an insult for anything. Probably has it on yelp when hes reviewing stuff pink berry, weak on crime also they threw me out for eating straight out of the machine. One star. laughter you know whats crazy is we live in a world where thats possible. Thats crazy. laughter now as a democrat, you would be loving this, because going after trump for siding with a sex offender is like shooting fish in a barrel. The only problem is that democrats are in a barrel of their own, and the last ten days, four women have accused senator al franken of sexual misconduct. Now michigan representative john conyers, longest serving member on capitol hill. He voted for the original Voting Rights act. While he was making history, he was doing it all without pants. John conyers has been accused of rubbing and touching former staffers and admitted a 27,000 settlement to one staffer. And now a third woman accuses michigans john conyers of wrong doing. Melanie sloan a high profile washington lawyer said she was harassed and verbally ab abused when she worked for the congressman in the 1990s. There was the time i walked into his office and he was in a shirt and underwear. Yep, turns out even congressional icons have gone to the school of weinstein. What makes it weirder in this story is hes not wearing pants but hes still wearing his shirt. Like a civil rights winnie the pooh. Its just weird to me. He cant decide if he wants to be professional or perve in that moment. This is a look i call the dick mullet, business up top, party down below. laughter i find it particularly interesting isnt that al franken and conyers are having these issues, its only one republican in Congress Asked either of them to step down. You would think republicans would be all over. This you have your political opponents caught with their pants down and not going to go after them . Its like the moment where your opponent is dizzy, finish him no, its fine, say republicans. It could be because they dont know the finishing move or it could be they know men like conyers are just the tip of the dickberg. laughter because remember, congress has paid out 15 million in harassment settlements or as bill oreilly calls it, a bargain. I could have gotten two for that didnt realize it was cybermonday in Congress Laughter i believe the colleagues arent calling out people because more accusations could come out at anytime. They will be in a press conference, like, what conyers has done is despicable breaking news guy talking right now totally did the same thing i will thoroughly investigate myself. If you will excuse me, i have pants to put on. Thank you very much. Well be right back. cheers and applause there was an old woman who lived in a shoe. She had so many children she had to buy lots of groceries. 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Or something no one wants like super gonorrhea . And the answer depends on what kind of person you are, human or corporate. Corporations and the wealthy will see the biggest tax cuts. While the Corporate Tax cuts would be permanent the tax cuts for american taxpayers would expire after ten years. Lowincome americans would start to see their taxes go up in 202 is, and by 2027, all individuals making 75,000 or less would pay more than under current law. Trevor makes sense, corporations get to pay less forever and poor people get to pay less for four years then more, which sounds bad but its fine because once obamacare is repealed poor people will all be dead so works out. I think thats the logic. I dont know how this works. laughter pretty convenient average americans wont see the tax hikes until after the next elections. Really slick. How can they expect people to vote before people know what theyre getting . Like having to rate your uber driver before you get in the car. Give me five stars, man can you unlock the door . Hey, theres no puke in the back seat, just give me the five stars laughter those numbers are reality. What do they say will happen . This bill will spur Economic Growth in our country. If we lower the highest Corporate Tax rate in the world from 35 to 20 and make it permanent the jobs of the future will be created here at home. This is about making the business tax system competitive which is about creating jobs off. Trevor and the first new job will be prying my jaw open so i can speak normally, rrrrrr laughter this is weird to me they want to help ordinary people so theyre giving money to corporations because eventually it will get down to ordinary people . Thats roundabout. Like saying youre mung ri, why go to a restaurant when you can sew yourself to the back of a Human Centipede . laughter the republican tax bill will add 1. 4 trillion to the national debt. You may remember when obama was president , republicans constantly accused him of increasing the debt, like he was spending americas money on jordans. The transcendent issue of our era which is deficit and debt. Until we fix that problem, we cant fix america. Washingtons unsustainable spending is driving the nations permanent plunge into debt. We face a crushing burden of debt which will take down our economy. Trevor ooh, it must be real because of the music laughter every single time this happens. Every single time they say they hate something, then they go and do the thing they said they hate because turns out theyre secretly deficit freaks . Its almost like when you hear a conservative going hard against gay people, you know, and then it turns out he was going hard against gay people. Its the same thing over and over again. applause you know what it makes me wonder . What else have republicans just been pretending to hate . 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Please welcome esther perel cheers and applause trevor welcome to the show. My pleasure. Trevor there are so many people who have seen your ted talks about relationships. There are so many people who have read your articles about sex and the way we see sex in the world and how it applies to our daily lives. When you look at everything that has happened postharvey weinstein, what do you think were learning about sex and power . Sex and power are interdependent. They are interconnected. There is power in sex and power can be sexy, but theres a difference between power to which can be liberating and enhancing and affirming, and power over which can be oppressive and hurtful and demeaning. Trevor right. What we are seeing today are abuses of power. You know. Thats a very different situation. When i write about infidelity i write about a consensual story. When i look at assault and harassment, im looking at a criminal story. Trevor right. Those are very different realities. Whats changed is less the accused and for the power of the accuser. Whenever people, children, women have been violated, they have worried they wouldnt be believed, and what it takes is people who have enough power to withstand the forces of denial. Trevor wow. You know, some people would say sex is a subculture of what we do as human beings. You have an interesting view in that is you see our cultures and our societies through the lens of sex. What does that mean . It means every culture, its most rooted, traditional archaic values are surrounding sexuality and its beliefs and attitudes about sex and the most progressive, radical changes also take place around sex. Every civilization tries to control sexuality. License and abstinence. You need some sex or there wont be a species. Trevor right. You cant have too much of it, or nobody shows up for work. laughter trevor you speak about how, in many ways, infidelity and the issues were learning about now display to us the power dynamic and the way women have been oppressed for so long. How do we learn that or see that . So the first thing is infidelity has never been a genderequal proposition. Men have practically had a license to cheat, with all kinds of theories that justify it why its in their nature to roam, and women have faced dire consequences and still have Nine Countries where they can be killed. So this is about sex and power, actually. Trevor right. Thats one of the big differences. What is changing today actually is women are rapidly changing the infidelity gender gap. Trevor how are they doing that . And is that a good thing . Well, what it tells you is that women have basically behaved by virtue of the dire consequences of what could happen to them ostracism, pregnancy, destitution and even death. Trevor right. So once she has more economic independence, once she has nofault divorce, once she can control her own reproduction and no longer worried a baby will come out nine months from now whose color hair doesnt resemble hers, she may be more you may learn more about her desire than you actually have learned about her throughout history, which had been her compliance. Trevor when you talk about the state of affairs in the book, rethinking infidelity is a blasphemous term for many human beings. People will say, esther, how can you . Infidelity is the worst thing that can happen. Anyone who cheats or can is in a marriage that ends because of cheating is the worst human being possible. You argue something slightly different, not condoning, but arguing there can be a good that comes from this. How. I wrote the state of affairs because i think we need a new conversation for the oldest sin. Any audience, i could ask here, have you been a child whose parent was unfaithful or left for somebody else . Have you been an offspring of illicit love, are you a friend someones been weeping on, are you a confident or one of the primary protagonist . 80 of the awed yen will say they have been acted by infidelity in their lives. Its not a few bad apples. For that we need a caring, compassionate conversation that doesnt reduce everything in black and white, which doesnt mean to say it is good, but it is complex and has existed since marriage was invented and so, too, the taboo against it. Trevor thankfully you wrote a book because its one of the most fascinating conversations to have. Thank you very much for being on the show. The state of affairs is available now. You can also listen to esthers podcast where should we begin. Esther perel,