Lets leave it this way. David i dont consider myself a journalist. And nobody else would consider myself a journalist. I began to take on the life of being an interviewer even though i have a day job of running a private equity firm. How do you define leadership . What is it that makes somebody tick . Lets talk about what it was like to be chief of staff to President Trump. Was it all that you thought it would be in terms of the difficulty . More difficult than you thought . Are you pleased you did the job . Gen. Kelly it was amongst the hardest jobs i ever had in my life. It was the most important thing i ever did. For 18 months, i staffed the president the way i thought a president should be staffed. Presenting him options, getting experts with him to talk. Thats what chief of staff does. That was vitally important. For 18 months i was there. I think we staffed the president very effectively. David was it the hardest job you ever had . The most memorable job . The most enjoyable . Or just another interesting job . Gen. Kelly it was very hard but very meaningful. Not very enjoyable. You know, staffing the president of the United States, you are trying to bring together the white house staff and the entire federal government to help him make the kind of decisions, economic, social, life and death wartime decisions. David in washington, it is often said people often stab you in the back. And sometimes they stab you in the front. That is the job that the chief of staff is said to have. You get criticized by everybody. Do you feel that the criticism by people, for any reason, did you feel it was unfair, intolerable, or did you get used to it . Gen. Kelly i wasnt used to one of the things that struck me right away that i was not used to coming out of the military was the intense personal ambition that people have. Because if that gets out of hand, which it was a for my time and continued while i was there, people start to do things like leak to the press, things that are untrue or half true. Not just towards people at the top like me. But their colleagues. On of the things i did early when i took over was to get all of the staff together. Theres a lot of them so i had to do several sessions. I said, nowhere in the oath of office does it say that you should be talking to the press unless that is part of your job and authorized. Nowhere does it say you should be stabbing your colleagues in the back so you look better. You serve the nation. If you take the oath seriously, you have a job and i want you to stay. If you cant, find another place to work. David when you are in the military and you tell people you do x, y or z, they jump or are in trouble. When you tell people as chief of staff that they should do x, y or z and they dont do it, what can you do about it . Gen. Kelly in the military, if you tell someone to do x, y or z, we expect people to question orders. Or to push back. I cant, as a commander, know everything. In the white house, you can fire people. I had to fire a few people. But very few. And they were very disruptive. A vast majority of the people who work there are good people. They just need direction. David when donald trump was elected, you were already retired from the military. Gen. Kelly i retired from the military about eight months at that point, never wanting to work again. David did you know donald trump before . Gen. Kelly not in any way. David you met him in the transition . Gen. Kelly i received a phone call in late november on a saturday. And they asked me if i wouldnt consider coming up to meet with the president elect. And talk to him about going into the administration. My wife after the phone call asked me, what was that all about . And i explained to her. I said what do you think . , she said, we are a family of service. Go up and talk to them. I went up the next day to talk to the president elect. Reince priebus was there. A couple of other people with it. About 10 days later, he asked me to go to trump tower. He offered me the dhs job. David did you say you accepted right on the spot . Did you feel you wanted to go into that job . Gen. Kelly up to that point in time, my lifestyle was service to the nation. Obviously, i had to get out of the marine corps. I was getting too old. But the opportunity to serve was something i looked forward to. And dhs was a great job. The men and women of dhs are phenomenal patriots. They are unsung heroes. David you did that job for how long before you became chief of staff . Gen. Kelly six months. David did the president call you a few times . How did you get asked to do the chief of staff job . Gen. Kelly it was a couple days before it was announced. During my time at dhs, i didnt go to the white house a lot. I did not need to. Most cabinet people are busy. He and i had a previous discussion on a couple of things relative to the staff. He said, i would like you to come on over and be chief of staff. I need your kind of leadership to put this place in the right direction. David and you said my wife , wouldnt want me to do this . Gen. Kelly i really like dhs, they were making a difference. An awful lot of your agenda is wrapped up in dhs. But he said, i really need you to do this. The president asked, i did it. David did men working for you get killed . Under you . Gen. Kelly yeah. It is part of the lifestyle. It is not an easy part of the lifestyle. There are things that you would be woken up for in the middle of the night. Owe the men and women of the marines to be woken up and someone to tell me this young man, young woman died in defense of their country. David i would like to talk about the job you did as chief of staff. Before that, i want to talk about your background. Where are you originally from . Gen. Kelly i grew up in boston. David your family was a bluecollar family . Gen. Kelly very. Very bluecollar. My dad was a world war ii vet. He worked two jobs his whole life. Mailman and railroad. Greatest man i ever knew. David you went to high school where . Gen. Kelly st. Marys High School Just outside of boston. David when you graduated, what did you do . Gen. Kelly i went to almost a year of college. The war i graduated in 1968. The war was on. Coming from the kind of neighborhood i came from, every man in my life growing up as a boy was either a world war ii vet or a korean war vet. Thats all they talked about. You know, we had a draft back then. It was relatively easy to get out of the draft. You had to come in with a doctors note or go to college. A lot of deferments. I did not want to get out. When i passed my draft physical, which wouldve brought me into the army, i went into the marine corps. David you entered the marine corps. You became a lieutenant . Gen. Kelly i became a private. Ultimately, i made sergeant. My mother was diagnosed with cancer so i get out of the marine corps, but stayed in a program that continued my training while i was going to college. And as soon as i graduated from college, university of massachusetts in boston, i get commissioned and went back into the marine corps. David the highest you can become is a fourstar general. You became a fourstar general. Did you ever expect when you were just beginning that you would be a fourstar general . Gen. Kelly no. When i was an enlisted marine, i wanted to be an nco. Thats corporal. I made sergeant, best rank i ever held. David you are in the marine corps. As you rise up, one of your assignments is to go into iraq after the invasion in 2003. You were in combat. Did you expect that you would survive . It was fairly dangerous . Gen. Kelly it is dangerous. Theres a lot of shooting and bombs and whatnot. We are marines. You take that on as a possibility. When we were designing the campaign plan, one of the things we did was to understand the iraqi army, it was nothing close to us. But we designed a strategy that would minimize the amount of damage to the country and the amount of death to the iraqi army. We went there and our mindset was we were not there to conquer them but to liberate them. We didnt want to kill a lot of them. You always try not to kill the innocent. David you thought it would have been over in one or two weeks and people would be cheering you . Gen. Kelly they were cheering us, almost everywhere we went. They came out in huge numbers. But the attack part of it was easy. We knew we were going to win. We would get to baghdad in lightning time. But what we kept asking in the kuwait desert leading up to the invasion in march was, who is going to take this over from us . Mr. Rumsfeld had said, the u. S. Military is not going to get involved in nationbuilding. And our question was, who will we turn that over to . Because we should start thinking about that now. And so, the idea that we were going to leave quickly, which the military did start to do, but not have anyone to turn it over to, that caused us great concern as military men. David did men working for you get killed, under you . Gen. Kelly oh, yeah. David what do you do in that situation . Do you send a letter to the next of kin . How do you deal with that emotionally . Gen. Kelly i mean, its part of the lifestyle. Its not an easy part. When i was a commander there, when i went back for a subsequent tour, i was the senior marine commander on the ground. And there were a lot of things that you would be woken up for in the middle of the night. I only had two of them. A missing american, because then, we had to go to general quarters to find that person. And then, a death. People would say, why did you want to get woken up for a death . Theres nothing you can do. I think i owe the marine to be woken up and for someone to tell me that this young man, this young woman died in the defense of their country. David lets talk about after the retired. Before you joined the trump administration, you were in the Business World . What were you doing . Gen. Kelly not very much. I started working with the National Defense university, part of dod. I just started to get a couple of opportunities to be on boards. I joined those boards. But almost as soon as i joined, because i wasing in the process of going to dhs. David you are on some corporate boards for the first time. You are making more money than presumably you made in the marine corps. Gen. Kelly not huge money but more than the marine corps. David going back in the government was another cut in salary. Your family didnt say anything about that . Gen. Kelly what was interesting going into dhs, i was about 50,000 more than i made a year as a fourstar. Know,en, what i did not and what my wife said to me after a couple of weeks at being at the white house, i think our pay is wrong. The paycheck is smaller, i didnt realize they took a major pay cut to be chief of staff. David you didnt ask . Gen. Kelly never asked. Money isnt relevant. David lets talk about your family for a moment. When you are a fourstar, you are traveling all over the place. Your wife gets to travel with you on some of your assignments. How many different places did you have to move as a general . Gen. Kelly my wife would love that question. When i was in miami, my wife went to Guantanamo Bay for three years so we could have thanksgiving dinner with the troops down there at the detention facility. I took her to haiti, i took her to honduras. Maybe twice. Maybe honduras and guatemala. Once to peru. David paris or london . Gen. Kelly none of that. David you have three children. You fathered three children. Gen. Kelly right. David your oldest son is in the military still. Gen. Kelly a Lieutenant Colonel in the marine corps. Fairly recently promoted. Just back from his one of his tours in iraq. David you have a daughter. What is she doing . Gen. Kelly she was with the fbi. Prior to that, she worked with the wounded men and women coming back from the wars. At bethesda naval hospital. And then, she went into the fbi. She was with the Hostage Rescue Team as was one of the support people for several years. David you had another son who lost his life in military combat. Gen. Kelly he started off as an enlisted marine. He became a Second Lieutenant and was killed in afghanistan. David did you and your wife say, having two sons in the marine was an awful sacrifice for any family . Gen. Kelly no, its our way of life. It may sound strange, but its a way of life. They make their own decisions. David what would you say is the best training to be chief of staff of the white house, and particularly with President Trump . What do you think is the best training . Gen. Kelly you have to tell the boss the truth. When you dont think hes going down the right road, not in front of a bunch of people, tell him that. Truth to power. Truth to power. Someone in the room has got to say, at the beginning of every conversation and at the end, is this good for america . David lets go forward now to chief of staff. You are the chief of staff, sounds like a good title. Everybody assuming the government is responsive to you. You can call any cabinet secretary and tell them what to do. Is that the way it works . Gen. Kelly i would suggest. They are cabinet members. The president puts out whether its tweets or his time with the press. And he does a lot of discussion with the press. He puts out his feelings on different things. More often than not, i would get calls from cabinet people saying, i heard him say this. Is that a change, should we react . The president is never hesitant to pick up the phone and talk to his own cabinet members. David did you say to the president , maybe the tweets are too much to keep up with . Maybe you should not tweet as much . Gen. Kelly never did. The president feels very strongly that he is not dealt with by the press fairly and that his tweeting goes around the press and gets his agenda, his word out to the World Without having to rely on a press conference. David lets talk about a few substantive issues. When you were at the department of homeland security, there was the issue of immigration, the ban on immigration. Were you alerted to that when you were there . And how do you think that is now working out . Gen. Kelly three days after i became the dhs secretary, the e. O. Came out on the travel ban. And as a sidebar, i would say, the seven countries involved in the president s thinking were all dysfunctional. Everyone knows iran is a hotbed of terrorism. The other countries were dysfunctional. The entire population Muslim Population of those countries added up to 11 of the worlds population. The point is, those countries, they dont have a process that we could bless and say, the people that they say are coming out of those countries to come to the United States for whatever reason, theres no way to tell who they are because these countries are in a state of collapse. It couldve been done better. Back to the staff process. If that had been, when i was there, the idea that the president might want to do that he has strong feelings on immigration, we all know that we would have run that through a process. And at least had a better release plan. David when you were at the white house, you had the wall issue. The president wanted to build a wall. You were quoted a few times as saying it doesnt have to be a concrete wall. Was there a difference between you and the president on that . Do you think the wall is a good policy . Dhs,kelly when i went to i went to the experts, customs and Border Protection people that man the watchtower. And i said do we need a wall . Barrier . E physical they said, we need more. We have, back in 2006, the congress authorized over 650 miles of wall. And senators clinton, schumer, and obama voted for it. That was in 2006. 650 miles. What the cbp people were telling me is, we want to improve that barrier. If you tell me i can get 300 more miles, i could tell you exactly where to put it. If you tell me i can have 1000 more, i will tell you exactly. Here i want it or i they also said that we want to be able to see through the wall. We want to be able to track what is going on on the other side. Just as importantly, we want the people that are contemplating jumping the wall to see us. Because if they see us, they dont do it. David he had a meeting twice. He met twice with the leader of north korea. Did you think that was a good idea to meet without advance preparation about what would happen . Do you think the policy of meeting usually works or you should always have advance preparation when you have summit meetings . Gen. Kelly theres a lot of advanced preparation. A lot of letters back and forth. People in other places have their contacts there. But i will applaud the president in that he looked back on the last 70 years of trying to deal with the north korean leadership and none of that was working. And hes the kind of guy that wanted to try it personally. Pick the phone up and talk to the guy. Or i want to meet with him and try to develop a relationship. That is who he is. Many times, all the other stuff has not worked for 70 years. What the heck, lets give it a try. David some people would say the president was reluctant to criticize putin for anything. And he seemed overly friendly with him compared to other president s. Is that a fair comment . Why do you think it was . Gen. Kelly the explanation is much like with kim. Things had not been working very well over the last eight, 10, 35 years. Again, he is a pick the phone up and talk to the guy kind of guy. David was it complicated to have the president s family in the government at the time . Gen. Kelly they are an influence that has to be dealt with. David today gen. Kelly i do not mean mrs. Trump. The first lady is a wonderful person. David if you had to advise somebody who was going to be chief of staff in the future, what would you say is the best training to be chief of staff at the white house . Particularly with President Trump. Gen. Kelly you have to tell the boss the truth. When you dont think hes going down the right road, not in front of a bunch of people, tell him that. Truth to power. Someone in the room has got to say, at the beginning of every conversation and at the end, is this good for america . David when you tell the president , i think you should do something different, did he yell . Gen. Kelly no, we would have a conversation about it. More often than not, he would say lets bring them back in. David if you had to do it all over again, would you have taken the job of chief of staff . Are you glad that you took that job . Gen. Kelly i was drafted into the job. David knowing everything you now know. Gen. Kelly yes. As hard as it was, i feel very strongly, i dont know what has happened since. But for 18 months, President Donald Trump on every issue was well staffed, wellinformed. We gave him options. Well, i will just leave it at that. David as you look back on your career, what are you most proud of having achieved . Did your parents live to see you become a general . Gen. Kelly my dad did. I would say for over 40 years, i served the nation in peace and war. It goes without saying, i am most proud of my family and kids. But for nearly 45 years, serving the nation in peace and war, served honorably with integrity. David have you considered yourself retired or will you be active in the Business World . Gen. Kelly i dont know how to retire. David what do you plan to spend your time doing . Gen. Kelly no idea what im going to do. David would you consider the highest calling of Mankind Private equity . Not sure about that . Gen. Kelly not sure about that. [laughter] bloomberg etf iq where we focus on the assets, risks and rewards by Exchange Traded funds. I timely etf designed to benefit from a long terrified hits the market just before President Trump and president xi get ready to meet at g20. Active and passive. An Investment Advisor explains how he uses etfs to supplement his