Dna samples from family members whove reported loved ones missing. Now on bbc news. Our world. In a country where its expected your extended family will look after you in old age, what do you do if they long ago rejected you . Thats a question for most of pakistans tra nsgender community. One member of the community is setting up pakistans first retirement home for transgender people. Mobeen azhar has been to lahore to meet her. This edition of our world contains adult themes. Once upon a time, in the pakistani city of lahore, lived the superglam guru. Ashee was the talk of the town, the life of the party and an after hours artisan. Ashee is someone who describes herself as neither male or female in pakistan, commonly known as third gender. But entertaining is the preserve of the young and, as the years went by, ashee realised more and more of her community faced destitution when they could no longer work. This is the story of guru ashees quest to change the future of the third gender people in old age. The history of the indian subcontinent is rich with stories of third gender people. During the mughal empire, from the 16th century, they were advisors to the ruling class and experts in the arts. The reality today is much less romantic. Im about to meet one of the most revered members of the community, known affectionately as guru ashee. Guru literally means teacher. Theyre the elders of the Third Gender Community and are like surrogate mothers. Tonight, guru ashee has invited me along with her students to a private party. Im fine. You look very nice. Thanks. Ashee and her students are expected to get the party started. But theres more to it than that. Theres a deeply held belief that those like ashee, third gender, can bring good fortune to the soon to be married. The business of dancing at weddings has taken a hit since pakistan has moved towards a more conservative reading of islam. So tonight, as the money rains down, ashee makes the most of her role as master of ceremony. I loved it in there. It was really loud and brash tonight. And it was all the things that pakistan is famous for and reasons that i love this place. And its rare that you see Something Like that. But these events are few and far between. This is a family that she has history with, shes danced for them for a long time and they take care of her but, realistically, how long is she going to be able to do that . Away from the bright lights and music of lahores party scene, guru ashee has been working on a project she hopes will one day become her legacy. For the last eight years, shes been developing a retirement home for third gender people. It has everything you could need to stay well in old age, even a running machine. 0nce complete, guru ashee hopes it will become home to a0 members of her community. Though there are no official figures for the Third Gender Community, its estimated to be close to half a million people. Its believed that almost 5 of them are hiv positive. If youre third gender, youre 50 times more likely to be less than ten miles away is the diamond market one of lahores worst kept secrets. Almost everyone knows about this place, but its rarely referenced in polite conversation. Its where societys outcasts have lived together for generations. Its currently home to guru ashee and many of the people wholl eventually move to the retirement home. Madhu, who i met at the retirement home, has invited me to her place for the evening. She rarely ever takes a night off work so, tonight, ill join her as she waits for clients. Madhus got her first client of the evening but, before they get to business, hes agreed to speak to me. Madhu told me all of her clients are men and identify as straight. Theyre either married or, like this guy, plan on marrying a woman soon. In a fiercely patriarchal society, these men make little distinction between women and those who identify as third gender. Sex workers like madhu generally charge less than women and, for some clients, that makes all the difference. 0nce madhu finishes up with her client, i spend some time with madhus housemate, who i also met at the retirement home. Sex workers have a shelf life. In the not too distant future, madhus going to need help just to survive. Madhu cant return to herfamily because they dont accept her as third gender. In a nation where the extended family system is the default for care in old age, what happens when that system rejects who you are . Khurram lives in the diamond market area. Today, hes trying his best to fit in to the ocean of bearded men in prayer caps, but it wasnt always like this for khurram. In fact, khurram used to be saima. Khurram works as a tailor, making clothes for the Third Gender Community clothes that he no longer wears himself. I want to understand why he now dresses as a man. Theres this real sense of sadness, and thats because khurrams not entirely being himself. He said it. Theres the person who he was born, thats who he was assigned to be and he was raised as a boy, and then theres saima, and saima is who he feels his spirit is, and he says straight out that he misses saima. And he says saima comes out in the day a few times in a bit of his speech or in a bit of his attitude, but he cant live and dress and, most importantly probably, he cant love the way he wants to. Good evening, everyone. You guys are listening to fm 91. We have a very special guest, guru ashee. Tonight, at one of lahores most popular radio stations, guru ashee is using her celebrity status to win over a National Audience and draw attention to the plight of her people. Shes really going for it. To have references to things like hiv and to people rejecting members of their own family and to social stigma, to have that on mainstream radio and to be starting those conversations in this country is pretty revolutionary, actually. The idea that being third gender is so unacceptable that it cant be tolerated is the cause of social isolation for many third gender people. Now khurrams getting older, hes attempting to conform. Hes turned his back on his third gender identity. Hes now a fixture at his local mosque. Sure, theres a spiritual element, but its also about the practicalities of being accepted back into the care and relative stability of his family. Here, its just accepted that third gender people will lose their dignity, families and the promise of care in old age, just for being who they are. Before i leave pakistan, i want to catch up with guru ashee. Today at the retirement home, shes handing out food to lahores Third Gender Community. Guru ashee is changing long established attitudes and demanding care in later life for the third gender. The retirement home isnt just bricks and mortar its about building a new type of future, one that brings a chance at dignity, care and love in old age to guru ashee and her community. Friday into saturday was wet across parts of the country. Some places are seeing more than half a months worth of rain in less than two days. Sunny skies on sunday shining on the floodwaters. Plenty of sunshine across the uk, albeit a rather cold. That is how it is looking for the next few days. It should stay dry and sunny. Cold by the and cold and frosty at night. Through sunday we had this windy and showy conditions for scotland, High Pressure continues to build to start the new working week. The cold air mass coming down from the arctic. A cold and frosty start for monday morning. Dry it with plenty of crisp autumn sunshine. It will remain breezy across the north and east of scotland, one or two showers, thick cloud for the Channel Islands and the far south west of england. A few degrees colder than we saw on sunday. Little change as we head into tuesday. Winds coming in from the north sea. These weather fronts in the south west encroaching further north eastwards. Winds will pick up to add to the chill across the south west and the Channel Islands. 0utbrea ks of the south west and the Channel Islands. Outbreaks of rain. Cloud across northern and eastern areas. After a frosty start once any fog clears, and other fine after a frosty start once any fog clears, and otherfine and clear day. Another chilly day. Subtle changes as we head into wednesday. High pressure packed across the eastern side of the country, low pressure trying to push on from the west. Winds will pick up south and south east across parts of northern ireland, wales and the south west. Cloud and patchy rain. It will become windy on irish coasts. Central and eastern areas dry with some sunshine. Still some uncertainty to the timing of this weather fronts moving across the country, it does look like it will introduce more cloud and outbreaks of rain as we head through thursday. It will bring some milder air to our shores, certainly for much of the country. A cloudy day generally on thursday. That pulse of rain moving through. Milder conditions also. At this stage it looks that friday could be quite unsettled, low pressure dominating. Wet weather through friday morning for england and wales. Surface water and spray on the roads. Some of the rain could be quite heavy. A trier story in the far north. Quite cool here. Until next week it looks like it could be dry briefly but then it turns u nsettled dry briefly but then it turns unsettled from sunday onwards, and the following week, it looks like a more unsettled week. Tonight at ten, donald trump says the leader of the Islamic State group has died after a military operation by us special forces. Abu Bakr Al Baghdadi presided over a brutal regime that inspired terror attacks around the world. He died like a dog. He died like a coward. The world is now a much safer place. Al baghdadi is believed to have detonated an explosives vest as his hideout in Northern Syria came under attack. So, what now for the Islamic State group