With its tropical climate Natural Beauty and traditional culture thailand has long been a popular tourist destination. But now theres another reason drawing people here a Quiet Revolution in caring for the elderly the care system for elderly people in europe its not working anymore and its going to be a big problem. In the west Horror Stories of abuse and neglect in care homes not to mention rising costs are driving families to look for alternatives forcing many to make difficult decisions i call day one letters from School Friends of my wife telling me im an idiot to bring her to dispose her here and turn your body. One o one east follows those who send their loved ones across the world for their final years. Its been a year since walter glore saw his wife. He and his daughter tania have flown more than 13 hours from their home in switzerland to see her but its a bittersweet reunion my is not sure who they are. Not that this is bruce idea but yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah well yeah yeah yeah you know. d d d d d d d why i was just 50 and running a michelin starred restaurant with her husband when she was diagnosed with alzheimers 9 years ago d it was devastating for the family she knew. Whats whats coming and she was crying every morning. And one morning i remember i said to my oh no i promise you want to sing i would always do the best for you always look for me not for anybody else just for you and she was kissing me and saying thank you so much. That she scared were you scared i will scared she was. My as home is now a villa at the bon cam one Child Care Center in Chiang Mai Thailand her family brought her here 2 years ago when it became apparent she needed 24 hour to hand them rent them again it came with the simple ok yes yes yes true. But this is going on for 10 years and is slowly. Taking her apart from me slowly slowly this is like you know saying goodbye in slow motion. And thats just the hard thing about the disease now for us its worse in the beginning it was bad for her very bad for her because she realized that what happened but now wolf is false its false its very hard. To know about you know how you know mother. You know is. Your hobby still hope. Walter says bringing my eye here was the best option for her but back in switzerland not everyone agrees well i got even letters from School Friends of of my wife telling me im an idiot to bring her to dispose her here to dispose her yeah. Well its its not nice if theyd just people dont know anything to have never even looked for half an hour in the internet what really happened results of patients and of course lots of people told and he brings her to thailand. You know get rid of her whatever the main reason was where is the best place for my own and we all agreed this is this place here we couldnt find anything by that so. I think she deserves to be the best place in the world. In. Order to get married even is also a long way from home here again from that meeting yes on how long. Were going to be looking for even going up im very very luck america oh ive been on things in the america that you know that. You want to. Say to my children and. If you are. Unsure of where she is and unable to remember where shes been mary is also destined to live out her days in northern thailand cared for 24 hours a day 7 days a week to date shes visiting a local part of fly part it is nothing you can do. To get out of hand i want to go home. Mary suffers from dementia her family brought her here from the u. K. Almost 3 years ago worried about the gas. You know we have to get keys to all the neighbors in case she got locked out of the house which happened a few times that shake you know yeah she got lucky she changed she would and should go out in the evenings with you know in a 90 a couple times and you know luckily the neighbors found her on board back into the house. If you got her son michael and daughter in law emily looked at care homes in the u. K. We did take it to a cab home and sorry to have a look at a stream a nice high end facility but it was a facade. It was like a hospital ward the rooms were very nice but there were small and there was a whole hospital beds. A hospital signs up the exit signs you know you have that feeling the smell of of detergent. And a couple of gas sauce to sit so if you could help them leave. They feared me or you wouldnt survive in such a scale environment then they heard about a kid resort in thailand. What was marys reaction when you brought up before perhaps going to thailand of course since we mentioned to face and we showed her the pictures and the resorts and she has interesting features excited. Mary might now be far away but michael makes sure shes not forgotten so this is the picture of the day that granny arrived in england. From the middle east on the boat born in palestine the daughter of a british soldier mary later met and married an army officer herself she lived all over the world cyprus malaya singapore hong kong so she really had this international upbringing she did you know i think that helped shape you know she needed to be someone that could go into a new school into a new community and sort of integrate very quickly. You know shes used to living in different parts will. Today im visiting mary at her new home care resort chiangmai. Her villa is next to one of the 2 swimming pools. That you sit down you know you. Go on. With what but if you want to be careful mary will come on come on. A photo of her family sent is filled with pages of a life that is lost to her. Was that for this. Is. My. Look at this tweet. She has 4 dedicated carers who work rotating shifts around the clock ensuring she is never left alone i heard that you were a good dancer. Your son told me. This. But. I cant remember not to remember. But. The care was all that they were mockable i mean that yeah you know theyre like her daughters and i think she gets more comfort and pleasure from their presence than ours i think we stress around you know shes supposed to remember things about us but she does that mean stresses. So its a 45 minute drive there one hour drive by peter brown is a british hotelier who bought this Holiday Resort 11 years ago. It was appalled before he transformed part of it into a Dementia Care facility after realizing how badly his mother was looked after back home in the u. K. I went to visit my mum in an english care issue within 15 minutes id called the ambulance. But it was 3 months what happened i got cancer of the throat. She was dying in a carriage. Im not going to go to that one place the same philosophy of not enough. Cash stuff after 6 oclock at night no question youre on your own and you have trouble god. I personally believe that care helps people have a better life its not about how long youre going to live its how much you can enjoy your god. If you take a disease like dementia youve probably got at least 8 years to live so it becomes quite important quite enjoyable not locked in a room treated like a child. Ok it is fun open your hands. So i want you to do things a little bit differently i couldnt do what i want to do in the u. K. Because of the cost of stuffing so tom daschle advantage of being cheap and also to advantage of the asian respect for. It makes a big difference here is how we get. 6 weeks after building into the same resort its already making a huge difference for. A former journalist for the Washington Post he reported from moscow in the 1980 s. This summit is in many ways a great boost to mr gorbachev of no matter what it was a time of huge historical upheaval. Its also where he met his wife and fellow journalist luis has a lot older than me and he was the best journalist in moscow and he helped me on a lot of stories introduced me to a lot of people it was very exciting because he opened a whole new worlds for me. Helping me understand so. That was sort of how we fell in love. The 1st time. Thats right looking very. Good. Read about how you were going to write. Tiny. Ok here. After a life abroad the couple settled near washington d. C. They wrote books together but everything changed about 2 years ago when dust go suffered a massive heart attack and brain hemorrhage i was working i was i was doing a remote job as an editor i finally had to get that and the thing about caregiving is it happens very slowly he lost abilities very slowly so by the end of last year i dont think i quite realized how much i was doing for him my son came and took care of him for a few days and he just its mom dad should have been you sister living months ago you cant do this and. I was by that point i was. Saving him dressing him. When you looked at care homes assisted living in the state what did you find i couldnt see just go in there he didnt want to go and. He would not want to be sitting in a sitting room with other people staring at a Television Screen which a lot of people do not simply because they didnt you know they dont able to do anything else and just a light no went off my head i thought im going to google assisted living overseas which i did and i found this resort. Sounded too good to be true but i thought well ill go and take a look the minute i want to hear i i fell in love with it it was just so beautiful. More importantly she says moving to thailand meant they could Stay Together something that would have been impossible in the u. S. Weve all talked all and im slowly starting to make friends here so i. I can see that was going to be a sort of a life where i can be with him a lot so im working on this book right now so i spend much of my day of. Writing but always when he comes to lunch or dinner i can join him and i feel its the right compromise for me because i dont you know i yes its its my life is still circumscribed by being here with him but i i have a lot of freedom to go out and do things and make new friends and to be a person to be a wife again. It was. The end. Cross town back at my as care home its also party night. Its less a resort and more a community for dementia patients and their family and. Remember just me. And now all we have heard nice are receding us again Martin Woodley opened the center in 2003 his father had just taken his own life because he couldnt cope with his wifes dementia there were a few care options for his mother in their native switzerland so martin brought her here to chiang mai he found a full time cameras for her and realised he could help others to use or experiment this is something new but its the way maybe we have to for new mobile phone care because the care system for. Elderly people its not working anymore and its going to be a problem or let others are the problems are long and he now has 14 patients with round the clock carers living in 10 different villas. Or dont want their own. Residents meet up for meals. And outings are a range for those who are able to go. Today visiting an Elephant Park you see. There youre ok number of my oh tell me about the cloak of her that you brought in here there are a couple who are people with a major disease they love them they respect them and i mean this is this one before thing in thailand is the way they approach to go closer to people but still with respect. Respect is something eileen chubb says is often missing in Nursing Homes in the west the former care worker in the u. K. Now runs a nonprofit d that investigates abuse in homes across the country i dont blame people like say for looking abroad i dont blame them but i do think its a damning indictment on this countrys care system. It is a private moment their partner is a big big big profits. For decades her hidden camera has captured countless cases of unsanitary conditions and abuse in both public and private care homes in the u. K. People were left with bed sores to the bone so when you walked into the unit you could smell dead flesh people. Screaming in agony people were pushed. Spat at the head they were doing stone and we had one case where a lady had maggots in a wound back its people just been ignored and people just sit in so praying and crying in a corner but the family didnt see thailand may provide better care options than these u. K. Homes but eileen still has reservations number one qualification to pick a of our you have to have communication and if you havent got that you know even if youve got compassion you cant translate it cant translate to the person and show them how you can make them feel safe and believe me its the best job in the whole world bar im sorry if you can if you cant communicate with somebody then you cant care for them my young son back in high land walter disagreed what do you think about her carers these young women who look after her she has 3 beautiful women taking care of her of this be calling the shots which is nice i like to talk to them all so they can explain to me the. Story. Perfectly and she has a really good team you know. One of my full time carer is najat. Paulo you. Dont have to. By name one. By the way. Up in a small Mountain Village about 3 hours north of chiang mai. When she makes the trip back here to see her own parents once or twice a year. Her husband. 2 sons and then you cant swing a job. But. Let them go play on the field my thoughts are all 3. Of. Them here now in the parliament. Kennie. State. Spirits are still fit and healthy and living on their own but shes already thinking about the future. And young at. That. Moment in the yeah you know. One of the long. Run they. Do if you. Are. Looking after your elders is a vital responsibility in thai culture but even here things are changing she says she wont rely on her son who will take care of you when you and your husband. Are not allowed to do their. No one. But for now lars can soon. Present and future. At a memorial back in chiang mai she joined other guests and killers to mourn residents she knew and cared for who have passed away. At how while when they went in the bios of. My you know i was with them what is that now. That they may miss that much. So kate this was where granny lived its beautiful its not the beautiful old house rises so much character so much history can you imagine moving here when she was 8 years old. And every family that sends a loved one to a care home has already grieved the loss long before the decision is made i think everyone so many people are struggling with this you know so were certainly not the 1st incident of the last trying to figure this out is a personal journey that you have to go through and you have to think she was right. For the individual and this was right for her mom. Having a pretty happy here. Is that hard to come to terms with the fact that hes probably not going to be that the. You know weve made weve discussed it and. He wouldnt want to go back. Just so this is this is it and hes happy hes happy and. Hes comfortable yes yes because you know. This is for. Me it is for me. This is for me we are your body for your my own. Because you dont like ice cream so are you ok and i would always take care of my own whatever happened this is for me this is the this is normal she would do the same thing for me. She said unbeliever person and you should have met her here 20 years ago she was certainly. The best person i have met i. Doubt a lot of them insert a small amount of my own. That. Im not all for. Im going to go off and while im a lawful definitely are. Thousands of nepalese children a truck become the human life and forced to stay in a legal frigid. One a one a follows one girls journey hard to a remote village. On aljazeera. 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