What Identifying as Agender Looks Like
First off, there's no one-size-fits-all here—and you can't tell someone's gender identity or expression merely based off of what they look like or how they dress. "People may choose to present themselves in whatever feels most comfortable, which may or may not align with a perceived gender"—and that's okay, says licensed psychologist Tanisha Thelemaque, PhD.
Because of that, D’Allaird suggests shifting the focus to what agender people
feel like rather than what they look like. “They exist in public, still experience the categorization of their body as a sex, and yet feel no affinity or connection to cultural gender identities or expressions or expectations,” they explain.