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Romantic destiny is the notion that there is some force at work bringing people together and creating attraction between them. This force works in mysterious ways and cannot be controlled.
This notion of romantic destiny was built by Baby Boomers and those who came before them â a little-known cohort called, not too surprisingly, the Silent Generation, comprising those born between 1925 and 1945. Their voices were drowned out by the worldwide adversity of the Great Depression and then World War II.
Research suggests
that often the more intense and earth-shattering the initial attraction, the higher the divorce rate.
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How did romantic destiny gain such weight within our collective psyche? First, it is incredibly ⦠well, romantic! As humans, we love a good romance: itâs a movie in which we all want to star. While we could, quite fashionably, blame Hollywood, that would be a cheap shot. Hollywood simply gives us what we want for as long a
Brisbane psychiatrist and relationships specialist Dr George Blair-West believes we can do better at choosing our life partners by making more informed, conscious decisions. Choosing who to spend the rest of your life with and/or who will be the other parent of your children, is, after all, the biggest decision of our lives. Blair-West, 60, a private practice psychiatrist with 25 years experience, says we often put more thought into the longevity of material purchases than choosing who will be our life partner and believes people are capable of having more power over their relationship destiny. Teaming up with his millennial dating coach daughter Jiveny Blair-West, 30, he has written a book, titled How to Make the Biggest Decision of Your Life, about unlocking the secrets to a healthy and lasting relationship and how to best choose a lifelong partner.