forces he.couldn t ever go . with me to a naval ball. the way we got round it was that we invited our best female friend. i you look like you re having the time of your life. but not everyone impacted by the policy was dismissed outright. some, like patrick, felt forced to resign as they couldn t be fully open about their love lives at work. there was one time in 88 when i met a young man. | we fell in love, he was a lovely guy, he was called dennis. i but i learnt something else the second year l and that was that he was hiv positive. i we knew that, one day as was the case, then i that he would die and. i knew that, at some point, - there would be a fork in the road. unable to tell his bosses about the relationship, and terrified of being sent to the other side of the world