and trying to be a human being it s very difficult to break that mold that you the same trauma that affected the young gymnasts, let s say, in the nasser in u.s. gymnastics could be the same trauma that we feel. and people aren t willing to widely accept that the face of abuse and rape doesn t just look like young, privileged white gymnasts, and i think society as a whole is scared that if we as big, strong, athletic men can get raped, then anyone can get raped, and i think that s the biggest fear.