That is something that a lot of people in white america don t understand. yeah, they don t. you know, when the trayvon martin shooting happened and i wrote a piece about the don ts that my mother had to sit down with me in the same way that attorney general holder had to do with his son, a lot of white colleagues were moved by what i had to say and were surprised by what i had to say and a lot of them many of them said to me, it wouldn t even occur to them to have a sitdown with their teenage son or even teenage daughter and tell them things they ka and cannot do in this country or in america. it s not just emmitt till and medgar he have verse, we have patrick doorsman, james door, shawn bell, these are people who have been pictures within the last 10 to 15 years. recent folks who we have to keep