a woman who was about to share publicly the secret she had kept for a very long time. pam s husband gary and the gentleman that i dated played golf together. laura chapman met pam in the late 80s. she was really sweet, really nice. the two became good friends and laura had a front row seat to pam and gary s upscale lifestyle. they had a dining room table that actually came up out of the floor. which i thought was over the top, but it was interesting. it was a lifestyle that laura said pam wasn t pleased to part with when gary s finances started to crumble. to pam, that was more significant than thinking to yourself, he s a wonderful guy and i love him, and he s the father of my children? i have to wonder if she really truly ever did love him, or if it was just the lifestyle that they had that she was in love with. when pam and gary separated, pam told laura about the