- letting my local community understand about caregivers and that s not something that we do. the longer that i spend in my community in alaska, the more i see that s true. but the more they get to know me and they understand why this is important and so they get to know luke, right? and they get to see this is who he is and this is what we deal with at home and this is maybe the part that you don t see everyday. - [richard] right. and so, i headed to alaska to see what amy and luke were living through at home. (soft music) (soft music continues) - no, it s sad that . close enough. yeah. okay, good stuff.
And they re kids. (kids laughing) (glass shattering) - what i really want in those moments is for him to just go away. like, retreat, retreat, you know? like, if you need to cool off, go downstairs. but that takes him admitting, like, i m having a problem right now, i need to go, and that s hard. (soft music) - at one point, amy had been, like, listen, you gotta go. like, you re out of control. your substance abuse is out of control. your behavior is unacceptable the way you re treating me and the children. it was kinda like make or break. (amy grunts) - he was imploding so much and full of so much self loathing that he was willing to throw away whatever. - go, amy. (soft music) (amy grunts)
Financial, and social wellbeing. - now it s three phases. - yeah. - and we start with becoming aware and adjusting. - yeah, which is the most difficult thing. - it was probably three or four years before i began to self-identify as a caregiver even though i was providing those- - did you say three or four years? - three or four years. absolutely. - the future we once planned it s impossible now. - right. - so we re trying to build a new one that s just as good, maybe better. it s just hard coming to grips with the different part. - they felt like they were on the same lonely road that i thought i was on. - you don t take yourself. - i m a caregiver for my husband who s a- - [richard] until we realized we re everywhere. my children are or were ready to be caregivers. - wow, all no. - everybody is battling- - that s when i found amy bushatz. she s also a journalist and her beat was caregiving stories. she was also living through it herself.
When the red telephone began to ring, Col. Harry Shoup feared the worst. It was 1955, at the height of the Cold War, and Shoup was in the operations center of the Continental Air Defense Command in Colorado. CONAD, as it was known then, stood as the early warning system for a Soviet attack. So the ringing of the red telephone never meant anything good.