here s where we need more help. our blog lit up when we asked for specific problems. we got one e-mail question. how does the non-a.d.d. spouse deal with the a.d.d. spouse s inability to make decisions? often the a.d.d. effects everything from making dinner to where to send the kids to school. what do i do? this is neurobiological. this is not a character defect. so whatever your spouse was dealing with is not a character problem, you have to approach it in that way and learn what s helpful. for a person with a.d.d., processing outloud, even though husbands don t like to hear this, processing outloud is so important. a person with a.d.d. have to process outloud to know what he or she are thinking. limit, maybe scale it down to a few good options and then work