Platforms like it those who are judged to be the most beautiful are rewarded with the most likes him o. J. Is an clicks hours spent on mobile phones fuel mutual comparisons and evaluations young women tend to focus on lot on what they are not or do not have and they feel inadequate. They could not understand we cannot escape the power of images against the course of causing insecurity especially among women and young girls it affects men too but i think with all these pictures social media are causing people to feel more insecure. In those in our society you can only be too thin or too fat you can never fit in this thing to i feel beautiful the way i am now i feel comfortable charming and attractive as much as ever being a woman isnt easy. There pressure on women is also higher because the female body has been central to the formation of womens identity for centuries also. That indeed its been a full on these as this is kind guns noise feel mean its not a completely new phenomenon of course but social media has certainly amplified the issue if you will. To. Be viewed by a human or were dealing with young people who arent fully settled in their identity yet he sees things have a particularly strong effect on them. Going to fly think were facing a real problem and there is no simple solution. As youre making light of i havent always felt comfortable in my body but ive always been very interested in fashion. I used to pay a lot of attention to the media medium fix it and i bought into its ideal of beauty my body just never fit into that mold and was think about. The army as well as real people compare themselves with these norms most of them fall short i think theyre not beautiful enough or not thin enough or not toned enough or not this enough or not that enough or they you know its going to say about infinity. Because the whole social media hype started on platforms like Instagram People started thinking that not only supermodels look that way but normal girls too so i was so then ill let me. Up instagram for fans i used instagram for thats the inspiration. Dance for you i looked at a lot of photos of extremely slim models theres even the hash tag. That fits all about very skinny people posting pictures of themselves to encourage others to lose even more weight to work out even more and to eat even less. We wake up in the morning and the 1st thing i do was look at pictures of thin models on instagram. They werent just models they were also normal girls just normal girls with anorexia. In the head of exactly pursuit of perfection to fit an ideal image can become destructive. System then my behavior becomes compulsive i feel forced to make myself prettier to improve myself. So many speak of an inner voice some even called a dictator who thought bids them to do things and for pete that is the skates no longer a choice but in order to follow that sign. A forked beast and many young people respond to that with depression. The bit before their set of conscious is fed with all these messages. And that settles into their thoughts always its like a sediment of sadness because they cant achieve what they desire. Seem to be at. Once i spent the night on the bathroom floor because it had floor heating and i was freezing so i had no strength left. Right it kind of sad that my hair was falling out using of the our house that has nothing to do with beauty of feeling good. Thats up to another man you dont feel good just because youre really skinny your entire quality of life suffers from being that thin you can read the names for it it doesnt other months and. I wouldnt eat anything for months only when i felt dizzy thats when i realized i couldnt do this anymore that something had to change i had to go to therapy. As most of us and i miss most and it doesnt be muslim. The facade and the surety there are many attempts to conform to beauty ideals a bound to fail when i work with my patients i tell them that if my image of myself isnt correct then i dont need to change myself to fit that image i need to adapt my image to fit my personality these girls are trying to fit their self image and if that doesnt work its because that image is too far removed from reality. I started following body positive influencers on social media instead and deleted a lot of super waves from my instagram feed. Ready before people see if you were female role models are very important especially for young girls the question is which ones do i choose do i choose people who have beautiful and successful like beyonce or madonna they might seem out of reach or do i choose role models closer to me who are more attainable and who can inspire me to realize more of who i really am for. Me who are income 6 vehicle income yet he wished me is that now instagram helps me feel more comfortable with myself now i follow a lot of people who have the same body type as i do or are plus size. It helps to see their photos and see how pretty they are and to know they have a similar build as mine and are still attractive. Then i look in the mirror and feel beautiful again going forth to touch. On. Strong is the new skinny and fitness is booming and no longer just by men the internet is teaming with female fitness models who encourage other women to reach peak results when it takes they say is control and discipline. Is good in my statements and see most people are doing pretty well that means storing fat for harder times isnt considered attractive and thats where this beauty standard comes from these diseases for most people being skinny isnt their natural state but the product of hard work and especially given the temptations of our modern Abundant Society where we can consume calories as often as we like staying slim is associated with effort and stress which makes it more of a status symbol. Which clothes for. Too long this is an odd stops and. My add to my day to day life as a bikini athlete includes a lot of training of course i workout almost every day. To hear more important though is getting the right nutrition in between. And that means i always have to plan my meals i cant just go somewhere for a day without having cooked in advance. So if i know im going to be out the next day i have to buy and prepare everything the evening before and in addition i still have a lot to do on social media and i also make my youth. 20 years myself how many hoops needed so. But when i was never that skinny look at that. Is good just to mention you want to mind a shrunk you know it is many people think that being thin is really important thats the slight doubt that i think fitness has become the guiding principle for a good body fitness window and because if i need a dui for a specially for young woman because fitness is an ideal a norm that goes far beyond physical exercise found theres fit for fun fit for work that for life fit for sex fit for everything and that actually has a strong relation to the theory of evolution survival of the fittest which feeds back into the concept of competition and success gavino. And i must. Complain that i think i have some competitions coming up and that means im on a diet i have to eat less calories and i burn and well i eat really healthy. And. He says. Im far most down with you but youre really motivated and you still have a lot of calories and with time your calories drop as your body had absent things become more and more difficult as you must be its hard for women to maintain a low body fat percentage. In all this being so maybe hell be assumptions and it gets really tough my deficit is at its lowest and i cant eat a lot. Of course i get very hungry at times and that affects my mood. So part of the small today is monday and ive got 6 days left thanks im feeling really down today. Already ramos i was so mad. And i dont even know why. I feel like crying and i dont know why i have somehow managed to force myself through my leg training and i did my cardio workout. Im not even hungry thats how angry i am but im going to eat a little now anyway because i still have to take in a fair bit of protein if you drive us over. You know if you think the scheme is fair id say this kind of a version to pleasure is due to an intense body cult its your minds response to our bodies objectification even as of in the. T. V. And when we start seeing our bodies as little more than objects things that we have no loving relation to or degrade them to tools to perform better to be better to be special to be admired. Then we are ultimately separating ourselves from our emotions in the in the incident from. You whats your my motivation is to keep Getting Better i dont compare myself to others i just want to improve myself in the. Scripture kind of work and see you in a way theres no upper limit to fitness you can always get fitter and that logic can perpetuate itself into infinity when i have to take you. Inside. The work i do on my body paint off clothes cabinets head wall i think there was a time when Natural Beauty was more desirable but it seems like we departed from that a long time ago i mean again. These days we prefer to acknowledge people who have invested a lot of work as maybe even had an operation or have stuck to a strict diet and exercise the lot of us. Who have monitored and measured and worked hard on themselves that hop. Music is far from me its all about pride i go up there in my high heels youre standing there youve worked so hard for this moment and now you get to show it off to me its a moment of pure happiness. I do so many things that and. Escaped of because he exclaimed i have to admit without a trace of envy that some people achieve really impressive results with their bodies. Of setting up before me in the who will actually spends that much time energy and money on their body can change it quite a lot but this ideal of it ever being possible to reach a state of permanency or that im ever done working and can be happy i dont think that ever happens and i believe that is what keeps us stuck in this rat race loveliest. I need to learn it im having 200 grams of chicken breast with bell peppers and red onions. Every. New big quarter size 0 mannequins in the shop windows if they were real women theyre big stream under white almost all my old thomas on the other hand would weigh about average why hold women to different standards. The militia its imported from masculinity is symbolically associated with reason rationality and the shaping of the world and of politics the critique within for. Women are associated more with sensuality irrationality theres supposedly closer to nature and more emotional. She does so i get up at a should also perhaps be more at home responsible for housework all this is expressed in these pictures where girls and women are to be desired theyre expected to be objects of desire what they say and do is less interesting and i believe social media is giving new rise to this imbalance here people are compared rated and shamed and i must add there is a remarkable amount of shaming rituals on social media this guidance which i made in one. Obviously she most highly of her for. A single day its almost business as usual to be attacked as a woman if your voice your opinion the readers in my case its mostly male readers wont respond with arguments theyll say youre ugly youre fat nobody would want to screw you anyway they immediately make it about my gender and my body and cup i. Was busy ive had stations who for me weve been observing a massive amount of denigration of women in the social media insults threats violent speech to say the least because going from phony by 6 when the t. M. Is to insult them all come stock to devalue their femininity. And to devalue their person with sexualizing remarks is a 6 when the easier to. Tax a common thought the worst comment i ever received was your subhuman why dont you become a stripper or a hooker and hang yourself and there are other people who right get yourself sterilized or your you should be cut out or id like to bang you so you stop writing such nonsense or youre stupid youre retarded you must suck in bed i see embedded all these things have nothing to do with my work to home. In style often i often Share Screenshots of comments like that its important to me to see that i have allies who think its just as bad as i do this can also i can remind myself that not everyones thinks this way i mention things on this there are actually plenty of people with a positive mindset and thats easy to forget that often when you read such malicious comments. I think its because the users can stay anonymous. That way its easier to vomit your opinion or fart on to the web and then move on. And dont read. Comes off this is hard to take most of the time its plain massaging her teeth when you look at all these hateful posts and the sheer amount of them you can see there by people who think that girls and women have already taken over the world how to say he. Think girls and women a much better off than men is that theyre taking everything away from men and that they are better educated that theyre already ahead in economics and politics comes with numbers dont support these claims but thats what they fantasize you know right so. I think social media is like a couple like barbie and ken. Perfect smooth no rough edges. And probably white teeth full sensual lips so dr if i use the feminine stereotype stares at us like a soldiers car or women in commercials on dooms or flawlessness and are sold as sex objects the formula for success sex sells seems to apply particularly to female bodies who are the women behind these beautified masks i walk out of a living. And. Yet seen so much binge not long its last summer i moved to london i was born i went out one evening and was introduced to several people. One of them was a manager an agent Something Like that goes on dad knew he said hed help me get jobs to improve my image for middle income. For a few months ago i received a Whatsapp Message asking me to have dinner with a very famous actor. I was offered several 1000 euros for 2 hours comment when i asked and he said i had to be ok with natural intimacy. Natch that was when i realized this couldnt be normal i said i was sorry that i wasnt an escort i was a model. And esquires finn and model. No one else because i was told lots of top models did it this is not that it was normal and that they were making millions. That shocked me he tried to convince me that you couldnt get anywhere if you dont accept office like that and. Being a pretty not only means being successful. It can also lead to constant sexual harassment. And by the way thats also the case for less pretty women. As we all know sexuality has fairly little to do with appearance. And more to do with dominance and power dynamics. But you know you dont hear all that chance im often asked to take off my top or bra because they say its in the way of my portrait. Which always makes me wonder why is my bra in the way if theyre taking a picture of my face ive also had them try to help me on dress as if it were the most normal thing in the world i dont agree with that. Fishnets the problem is many agencies are aware of it and just dont care whos. Now known it before moving to london i had visited an agency in munich and they told me my hips were too wide for the London Fashion week must that you seemed absurd to me. There was nothing there i was just skin and bones but you can get so hung up on stuff like that on part of complex. And it makes you wonder whats gone wrong with his industry. You have to question everything so when i look at how my photos are taken its all staged nothings real and when i see pictures from my modeling campaigns i can tell that its not lay hours of makeup styling and editing makeup styling my know what goes on behind the scenes and that includes same goes for myself is i used to do a lot of work on myself is when i look at them today i hardly recognize myself so lots of people follow these perfect instagram pages because its like a dream a world worth pursuing and tom is this is and the very. Thing is we cant pursue it because it doesnt exist exist yet. Middle of august himself its now im more interested in the edited pictures its important to me and my followers that i show more real photos. Thats all they appreciate that. My mom and my cousins the pages that really touch photos should point out that its not real and im not sure that these people fully realize what kind of impact it can have reduced and what it does to young people its very dangerous and i think its a crucial topic that isnt being discussed enough in our society on his. Second solution. To the need to mitigate the effects of photoshop or beauty if we can call that all we have to do is look different very few photo manipulations have to be marked as such as that might actually help. But we cant forget that the picture still speaks louder than the label. In the age of social media not even a make up artist isnt enough to cheat your way to ideal lopes. Every image is digitally edited beauty apps on our smartphones make the opportunities for modeling boundless we can make our eyes bigger our noses smaller our lips are cheekbones high our faces lino our skin all perfect all of the swipe of a finger all the click of a mouse our digital optimized solves sound better than our edited so. The industrys new advertisers our socalled influencers. Can be good again but i pity you. With over 300000 instagram followers influencer janie has more subscribers than some daily newspapers Companies Use internet stars like her to advertise products and make lots of money janie cant afford to look anything but flawless. Instagram isnt close to back instagram as a work of art i do it to keep up with people of course i edit my pictures i pimples or retouched but if i think about it and try to think of a good reason for it then its different than just wanting to fit in for example i used to have very bad acne if that has been had they gone by and the people didnt care why i hadnt. They just wrote me off as someone who didnt take care of herself them big ass he can inflict. Genocide i just went if he got a source i cover up my pimples its self defense as soon as you dont meet Society Standards you have to put up with people looking at you sideways. I often say that no matter how hard i pushed the idea of being yourself and loving yourself for who you are it still felt too risky because i have a fairly wide audience. Im still afraid i bought a ring light and sat far away from the camera in my videos so that you couldnt see my acne and one way or another it still gets to you you feel boxed into a corner and wonder am i really any different to the rest of the muskets by these and knowing media and with these new media that weve noticed that were moving away from looking at other peoples faces and rating them as a pretty very pretty average viewer for just seeing our own faces being critiqued because its does it was that something we had to deal with much less in the past few fini go off talked to feedback because we get feedback when people told us we look good on some days or not so good on others as indeed often on the risk of constantly being judged by others and perhaps even groups of others to be compared to them maybe putt