post. she said, and so i stayed eight times. abuse counselors said the reasons she gave were the reasons they hear all the time. he could kind and i was preg nannant and soy stay. and so i stayed was the hash tag for valerie's tweet saying i tried to be a better wife. and i had babies and i thought maybe i deserved it and i thought because it wasn't constant and there was no lasting damage then he did it in front of my son who was eight and i left.