so let s begin this morning with family. where else? we want to start by welcoming part of our tv family, carmen wong-ulrich the author of upcoming book the real cost of living. and wendy walsh is a psychologist and blogger. sarah, spending this time with your family can be extraordinarily stressful before you walk out the door. not my family, of course. but when you walk out the door, you ve got to be ready. you ve got to be ready. think about this, right? before you sit down for your lunch or dinner, think about what s going to make you annoyed. we all regret when it comes to the holidays, you become who we are when we re kids. you can t control people s behavior, but you can control how you react. i know so-and-so s going to do this, don t be surprised by it, roll with the punches. my dad always says fido,