they did not push their wives to be the best that they could be and then happily stand back and do everything they can to help her career. my aunt julia was very sad about not being able to have children. i think she would have liked to have had at least one. but that wasn t to be. she saw me as a child she didn t have, and actually all her nieces and nephews, she embraced us as her children. what she said to me later was, well, because i didn t have kids, i could throw myself into work. i want to do this very slowly. turn it over. push it back just a little bit. you can see that s she got word that she had breast cancer. paul was absolutely devastated.