questions you ve never really asked about your family. yeah, thanks for having me. here. it is nice to finally meet you in so, in 2017, my brother yamiche died. and we had been estranged for two years at that point. i was writing at just about, which is a feminist website, and i identify as a feminist. and he had come to a spouse some men s rights abuse, and that was the crux of our estrangement. and when he died, that set me on this investigation, where i really wanted to understand who he had become and how he died. he died due to complications from a leg lengthening surgery. because you wanted to be taller? he wanted to be taller. and i really needed to understand what those two or three inches of extra height meant to him emotionally. and it took me down this journey of, what it meant to be