book that the end of those kinds of long-term relationships has really made a very negative difference on politics. i like to say with regard to compromise, familiarity breeds attempt. it s really important to have those relationships. it s not an accident that it was mitch mcconnell and joe biden who sat down finally to strike the deal on the debt ceiling. it s not an accident that simpson bowls there were democrats and republicans there, strong partisans who knew each other, who could agree. in the 1990s, mid 1990s, a lot of politicians stopped moving their families to washington. yes. so you stop your 8-year-old daughter stopped going to school with the 8-year-old daughter of your person on the other side of your committee. and i saw this first hand. when i finally moved to washington for a year, i had to start being a lot nicer to people, because oh, my gosh, you know, my baby girl is going to