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there is an emptiness, there s a hole that nothing can fill. remembrance day for most people is november the 11th, but, for the likes of us, remembrance day is every day. it s nearly 12 years to the day that james hill was killed by an improvised explosive device in helmand. he was just 23 and about to get married. his parents are proud of his service and his sacrifice, though the recent return of afghanistan to taliban control has been hard for them to bear. if we were to say now, yes, james s life wasn t wasted, james s life was wasted, then that would hurt us all over again, because we have to believe that what he did made a difference and what they all did, and that they gave so much, notjust the ones that died, but the ones who carry on with injuries. one hand says, what the heck did we go there for?
i do feel very strongly that the court system did not protect me. reporter: connie jones says her ex-husband was violent for years, but that courts ignored one red flag after another. my life wasn t valued. my son s life wasn t valued enough to stop him, which inadvertently harmed other people. if she had to live all those years terrorized, we failed her as a society. and i think as a physician with the resources she had, i wonder how many other women and families that we re failing as a society. most people can t take the steps to cover their tracks the way connie did. most women don t have that luxury. i would agree. does the court system, both criminal and family court do those systems understand domestic violence? do they react to it in the right way? no, not necessarily. reporter: allie bones is the former ceo of the arizona
was my life wasn t that different than yours. i wasn t that different from you. the main difference was i was growing up in a gentler environment. in hawaii. right, in hawaii. so, you know, the violence and drugs and some of the issues that the guys were dealing with day to day were different. but the mistakes i made, the struggles i was going through, were similar. and i think that it would have been useful for me at that time to have just a circle in which you can talk. and i think that, you know, one of the things we all learned from the pandemic was that human connection matters, that we re not all by ourselves, and we don t accomplish most of the things we accomplish by ourselves. you know, it requires a community. and i think particularly for
but taking on some responsibilities. not just for yourself but, also, for the world around you. helping boys and young men become full-grown men is what bam is all act. and the obama foundation supports bam programs in several cities, through the my brother s keeper alliance. do you think you would have benefitted from having this as a teenager? i m sure i could have. i you know, when when we came here, three of the guys here, you know, were still in school, at the time. and and we had a chance to have a conversation. and part of what i shared with them was and i think this surprised some of the guys was my life wasn t that different than yours. i wasn t that different from you. the main difference was i was growing up in a gentler environment. in hawaii. right, in hawaii. so, it you know, the violence and drugs and and some of the issues that the guys were dealing with, day to day, were different.