i don t think i ve ever asked you, what was the conversation like when you and karoline decided to go to china? we were sitting at we had been through we tried to start a family in the traditional abraham and sarah manner. i vaguely remember that. until we are black and blue. not as much fun as it sounds, certainly not for my wife. we found a couple rounds in a clinic, and it was sitting at a table like this. we thought, you know, we both have been around the world, we know there s children in the world already, overseas and in our country who need families, and we sure need to love them. that s when we decided enough of that. first of all, you re a wonderful writer.