before marriage might have made her the perfect secret girlfriend, but it simultaneously disqualified her as a wife. she was not going to be the one he was going to spend the rest of his life with, and he communicated that to her. that would make anybody feel pretty bad and pretty hurt. i think the way he put it was, we re going to be friends, but we both agree that it s time to start seeing other people. what travis kept secret from his friends was that he and jodi were still having sex. what he didn t keep secret were his concerns that jodi was stalking him. he was very disturbed by her behavior, but every time he tried to break things off with jodi, she would threaten to kill herself. clearly, jodi wasn t serious about sued, we know because at the time she was making those threats, she was prowling sales conventions and on the phone at night flirting with a guy named ryan burns. she seemed like a cool girl. we exchanged numbers. about two, three weeks after