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not going to stop. i try to pick the hairs out every once in a while. >> find out if that's the right thing to do. >> evidently it's not. >> we're talking trauma centers >> and a book is out, called "too close for comfort. we have the thundershowers who have put this -- the authors who have put this, about mother/daughter relationships. it's page 144 pair graph two. have you ever said that? that was your decision mom, i'm not you. >> have i ever said that? yeah. it's a complicated relationship. i think -- it's one that is really hard to figure out. i think most women, or girls will tell you the same thing. they love their mom and mom drives them crazy and probably the same for moms. >> all that and more. dr. fioramonti will be here. >> did you see the dog? >> i heard the dog. >> cute. she's really cute. >> if the camera is shaking, he'll be prancing through the newsroom. justin berk has the weather. >> 9:02. is the dog big enough for a saddle? >> it's not a big dog. it's a prancer. >> oh. we have a good-looking day. check out the clouds. we woke up 7:25, just 10 minutes before sunrise at least the cloud view and sun trying to come through. look what happened since then. we've pushed this frontal boundary and good-looking time lapse imagery pushing clouds to the east. eastern shore improving over the course of the hour. currently 67 in baltimore, we expect to shoot up to the upper 70s. another gorgeous day. there's clouds on the eastern shore, pushing out and temperatures this afternoon should make it up to our two-degree guarantee of 79. and climbing into the lower 80s just in time for the holiday weekend. a look at that coming up in a bit. 9:03. back to you. every morning we start with our top stories. this morning we start with the man and two teens. they are indicted in the beating of a 76-year-old african-american man fishing in a baltimore park. all three suspects white. one nicknamed hitler and has a tattoo of the nazi leader on his body. the victim is james prevat, beaten with a baseball bat and attackers yelled racial slurs. 27-year-old calvin locklear, 17-year-old zachary waterson and emanuel miller all indicted on assault and hate crimes. a day of pain in anne arundel county. this all began on wednesday morning in anne arundel county at the boone mobile estates in lothian. that's where the suspect theodore blandford killed his exwife exand her sister. he led them on a chase, shot and killed by officers, apparently was pulling a gun by police. he recently lost his towing business and was going through several problems. >> i talked to him several times. he said things are not, you know, as good as they should be. >> court records show august 27th sheena blandford was granted a restraining order. her husband was supposed to stay away from her and surrender any firearms he owned. today maryland corrections officials plan to test technology to detect cell phones inside prison walls. the tests will be conducted in the closed maryland house of corrections in jessup. illegal cell phone use has been a concern in our state and other states because the phones enable criminals to plan and coordinate crimes behind bars. you recall the high profile murder of witness carl lackl whose killing was order from a cell phone in a prison. baltimore city police will soon have a new weapon on the war on crime. thanks to federal stimulus money every patrol officer, about 2,000 men and women will have special blackberries called pocket cops. commissioner fred bealefeld says the device will give his cops instants access to search local and national databases and registries on the spot instead of their squad car. the program has been in effect now in the western district already and some officers already find that the pocket cop is a useful tool. >> it's very helpful with investigations right there on the street. no need to go back to your office, run records and do other various inquiries. you can do it all on the pocket cop. >> the commissioner says baltimore is the first department in the nation to use the pocket cop on such a large scale. most women say they can't live without a handbag. a local woman really means it. a shooting near johns hopkins hospital sent one woman to the hospital, two others missed being shot by the narrowest of margins. as roosevelt leftwich tells us one of the victims had one of the items in her bag and she can thank them for that. >> reporter: an argument between teenaged girls that got ugly. city police say the dispute simmered all afternoon when finally it came to a head at the corner of madison and north broadway. >> the fight escalated at some points, our suspect in this case appeared on the scene, brandished a weapon and opened fire without warning. we later arrested that suspect after we were able to gather information from witnesses. >> reporter: bullets were flying everywhere. one of the girls involved in the flight had a bullet pass through her pants leg without hitting her. two women just leaving work at the kennedy krieger institute had bullets that found a mark. one had a bullet graze her thumb. the other hit her cherished handbag, a vera bradley original niek one of these you see on display at a hunt valley shop. the bag may have saved her life. >> both the women who were subsequent victims in this case had absolutely nothing to do with the initial argument, the fight or anything to do with the shooting except for the fact that the one sustained a gunshot wound to the thumb, the other one, her purse was struck. >> reporter: city police say the two people who work for kennedy krieger that were involved were just in the wrong place at the wrong time, walking to their cars. however, the incident has stirred up a lot of concerns about security in the kennedy krieger area. johns hopkins security and kennedy krieger security are very visible throughout the campus at all times, officials say there were actually five security guards within about a block of the shooting on hand to render aid. today the institute took steps to reassure employees that this attack wasn't directed at their campus. >> it had nothing to do with us except one or more bullets came down the street towards the east and madison. potentially horrible situation. >> reporter: city police have arrested this man, timothy gaskins senior of east baltimore. he's been charged with first degree attempted murder and numerous handgun violations. in east baltimore, roosevelt leftwich, abc2 news. we did speak with a vera bradley spokesperson who says the company is glad to give the woman a bag. they are glad she's ok. they want to know her thoughts and her family's thoughts. they would like to send her a replacement bag. nice thing to do. could a national health care plan be running into another brick wall? president obama takes to the bully pull pit on health care reform. i'll have that story coming up. and what do congressmans sarbanes and van holland think? they are here and will give us their thoughts in the last few rough months they've had in congress. and imagine needing urgent care and being turned away at the hospital. we'll show you where it's happening and we'll talk to a local trauma center about why money is a problem. and parents wondering when and how to give your 'tweens a little more independence. we have some much-needed advice, maybe guidance on the tough decision. coming up. explain. oh yea, well for 6 months, customers get all three: fios tv, internet and phone for just $79.99 a month. oh, all right, see... you're just moving your fingers aren't you? i've gotta cut my nails. 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[screaming] >> low blood pressure. >> there are many days if you're not on a ventilator you don't get to be in the resuscitation room. everything else is managed in the hallway outside. >> reporter: houston has roughly five million people. it has just two level one trauma centers. most of these this size have five our six. here, it's not even close. >> head traumas. >> reporter: much of that can be blamed on hurricane ike. last september the storm dealt a punishing blow to galveston which was home to the area's third level one trauma center. life flight, memorial hermann's air service now flies to and from galveston on a daily basis. >> i think people that would normally survive, because of the transport time, definitely i think loss of life happens a lot. >> reporter: another reason this trauma center is so busy. remarkably memorial hermann is the only trauma center in houston with a helipad. within 50 miles away the choppers all land here 24 hours a day. with so many patients here in need why aren't more trauma centers opening? you might have guessed by now. it's money. trauma centers are usually the least profitable part of a hospital. even though they may be the most valuable. consider those two young boisejected from the car -- boisejected from the -- boys ejected from the car. both are home now. ryan owens, abc news, houston. >> if you ever have to go to a johns hopkins emergency room or trauma center, here's the man in charge, jim shulan is the boss. watching this piece from houston, can it happen here? you were just telling me you can't start a traumaer tonight. >> no, it takes a lot of time, a lot of money, a lot of people to open a trauma center. it sounds like in houston they were on the borderline of having maybe just enough trauma centers to serve their needs and then one gets taken offline by a hurricane. so now they have a crisis in trauma care. we all across the country have overcrowded emergency departments and from time to time you can have overcrowded trauma centers as well and that's what they are facing in houston. >> how about us? what are we facing? >> we're in good shape i have to say. in maryland we're fortunate to have an extraordinarily strong emergency medical system that includes everything from prehospital-trained providers through emergency departments across the state and 11 trauma facilities with other specialty care facilities around the state. so if we lose a trauma center to some natural or other catastrophe i think we have enough backup to cover the citizens of maryland. so as well we have a wonderful tightly run ems system. so that trauma centers are not necessarily left on their own to solve some problems. >> i must add that jim does everything, has done everything for 19 years. i mean, you hire the doctors all the way down to what stretches are -- stretchers are going to come in. but it does come down to money, doesn't it? >> it does. again, in maryland, i think we're fortunate that the state of maryland has recognized if you're going to have a strong trauma system it takes funding so the state of maryland supports the trauma centers, the state of maryland supports the trauma system and we end up with one of the top-notch trauma facilities, trauma systems in the country. >> let me just ask you, to kick back in your office and think about the future. what do you see as coming down the line? maybe five, 10 years away from us? >> i think in one of your next segments you're going to talk about the health care debates. i think we'll find out a little what is coming down the road maybe then. but i think that emergency departments and trauma centers will always be a critical piece of health care. i think that we will always find a way to make those work financially. and i think that's the responsible thing to do. >> in that piece that ryan was reporting on in houston he said they are often the last we think of. i would think trauma and numbering room is number -- trauma and emergency room is number one. >> they are the most exciting i think people believe but they are the most expensive part. you don't typically have a trauma center that stands on its own financially. >> thank you for saving lives. he's the boss. thank you very much for coming in here. let's look at weather with justin berk. 9:17. we shift gears to a quiet setup at 66 in baltimore. the sun popping out. that is the case on the eastern shore if it hasn't happened for you already. look at the 50s still back to our west. we have this canadian air mass still holding our temperatures below normal. there's that cloud push sliding across the delmarva this morning. as we pull back a little wider this is all part of an old frontal boundary, resurgent energy sliding itself up to the north overnight and will slowly push itself off the coast as well. a little wave of low pressure is going to take a lot of that moisture and take a lot of this cool air and pull it with it off the coast. a couple of systems back to our west, a little flare-up of some storms this morning in western kentucky. and that's -- may hold together, re-energize later tonight and pass us to the south, that may clip us with clouds and showers on the beaches by daybreak. otherwise a great setup and improving setup -- i think we just lost our focus. lefts shift our way from the west, i want to take you to the south. tropical storm erika losing a punch, getting ripped apart by mid level winds. good news as it's expected to pass on top of puerto rico. to the north of hispaniola and heading to the bahamas. as we head through tuesday, at that point that low pressure means this should be downgraded to a tropical depression, not strengthening as had earlier thought because of really strong shear and mid-level winds. often the case during an el nino season. that was the case with danny about a week and a half ago and that's the case with tropical storm erika now. the storms have a hard time generating especially with el nino going in the pacific to enhance the wind flow. for us, winds pleasant, sunshine and a high of 79 degrees. that system brings back clouds tonight, holds temperatures up to about 60. maybe showers after midnight and daybreak on the eastern shore to the beaches. tomorrow, a great start to the holiday weekend, 82 degrees with partly cloudy sky and out at the beach maybe an early shower tomorrow. 78, low to mid-80s saturday and sunday. 9:19. back to you. one of the toughest decisions is when to start giving your kids a little more freedom. coming up, advice on how to give your 'tweens more freedom while also making sure you don't give up too much parenting control. that is ahead. we'll be right back. fios guy! what is this? 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i mean for anything, piercing ears, clothes, it's a huge topic. how do you know what to do for your child? >> we think it's important to start step by step with baby steps. also to put a safety net under your kids when you are first testing things out. depending on your kid and you have to use your own judgment about what your kid is ready for and not you might want to start with small steps. if they want to go out with friends you would choose to go to either the movies or restaurant because kids will actually be able to, you would know where they were, the exact location. you would know what the activity was and who their friends were and who they were with. that makes it simpler. i would recommend that anything, just starting small and going bigger as you watch their judgment and see how they do. and see that they can be responsible in different situations. >> what kinds of things to you hear from parents struggling with the 'tween period? >> we actually feel that parents are pretty much on top of what is going on. i think that sometimes parents really need to be, just reinforcing the value system and know they are doing the right thing. but i think the biggest challenge for parents today is really the internet. i think that makes it so different between our generation and our kids' generation. the fact that kids naturally at this age want independence, it's developmentally appropriate but the fact that they now have sorts of their social world in your living room and you're not totally aware all the time of what is going on, makes it a little riskier. and parents are not as familiar with it as our kids are. >> do you check a 'tweens' facebook page? social networking sites? internet history? how much of a policeman do you have to be? >> we recommend that parents are really in touch with their kids' world and know what is going on. first of all 'tweens really probably should not be on facebook or myspace. minimum age is 13 but kids, because it's an honor system can get around these limitations. we recommend parents check the browser history to see what is going on from the very beginning when kids are going on the internet with sites appropriate for younger kids you get to know their passwords so that becomes what goes on in your family, parents know the passwords. really, what you want to do is maintain boundaries while checking in on them at the same time. it's sort of like when your kids were on play daytimes when you were little and -- play dates when you were little and you would eavesdrop, you wouldn't necessarily get involved unless you had to. that is how you would approach the cyberworld. >> give us the web site? >> tweenparent.com. specifically for 9 to 13-year-olds. >> thank you for coming in. >> thank you. >> jamie, feel better now? >> no. i'll be on the web site during the commercial. president barack obama taking his case on health care to all of congress. coming up, why he will talk to a joint session. and we're going to talk with two congressmen about what they are hearing from their constituents about the plan. and when is a mother/daughter relationship too close for comfort. we're going to chat with one mother/daughter duo who took a close look at how times have changed for mothers and daughters. a dull metal clanking sound. bear groans. ♪ ominous music ferocious growling. roaaaaaarrrrrrr!!!! ♪ whistling bluegrass tune i need the baker file stat!! reply!! still making changes. circle back later!! what's with the yelling? oh, our internet slows down during peak hours so sending e-mails and large files just takes forever. so, we just yell. ben!!! thanks for the flowers!!! i thought you hated me!!! lol!!! semi-colon! right parenthesis! winky emoticon! 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>> now. >> and against it. >> reporter: the white house says he'll outline how health care reform will be paid for, what an optional health care plan would do and how both the uninsured and insured would benefit. >> what they are going to see is the president of the united states make a very strong case for what we have to do and why we have to do it, at a pivotal moment in this debate and pivotal moment for our country. >> reporter: it's a last resort. the president had wanted congress to approve reform bills by the august recess. but of four bills on capitol hill none has passed. republicans haven't gotten on board and public support is slipping. >> this is make or break time for president obama on health care because the public has turned so sour and he has a divided congress. >> reporter: the president might even invoke the name of the late senator kennedy like john kerry did last night. >> it means taking on the battles the same way teddy would have. >> reporter: the implication, if kennedy's voice was in congress he might not need to use his own. the white house doesn't see the presidential address is a a hail mary passed but president clinton tried it on health care reform and the issue languished for 16 years. abc news, washington. congressman chris van holland and congressman john sarbanes join us. thank you for joining us. i get something from the hr department on health care. i can't read it. have you read the 1,000-page bill? from start-to-finish. >> i did. i serve on the ways and means committee. i've read it more than once. in addition to the bill that was introduced there are the changes that have been made. it's important people keep up to date with those as well. >> congressman, do you understand it from start to finish? >> my background is in health care, i had a natural interest in it, read it carefully and there's a lot of great stuff in the bill. >> were you surprised with the outrage from the town hall meetings we've been showing? the finger-pointing and screaming? were you surprised? >> i was a little surprised with the disruptions because i think people throughout the country, regardless of where they are on this issue they are hungry for information. i think most people did not appreciate the more disruptive crowds. i also think most of the colleagues learned that the noisiest and most disruptive voices did not represent the great majority of their constituents who are eager to move forward on health care reform. they understand we can improve our system. >> you look in the crowd and seeing people that haven't raised their voice in their entire life. not even student council and now they are yelling and screaming. >> there's no issue more personal than somebody's health care. everybody's an expert and i mean that sincerely. you're an expert, you understand it better so when people see change coming they are going to get into the conversation but a lot of the changes coming are all the things that people have been asking for, for many years. >> do you shout at your tv when you see a story and say that's not right? >> i don't shout at the television. i just think about how we can get the message out better. i think we're communicating, trying to do, that chris and i and others across the country with our constituents to let them know the right information and then they can make a decision. >> the president is going to speak to you. what can he possibly say to make or break -- we just saw the report, make or break. do you believe that? >> i don't think it's make or break but it's an important speech. the beginning of round two. we spent a lot of august having to try and disspell a lot of myths. i have been frustrating with a lot of the misinformation that has been out there. like saying that people are here illegally are going to get access under this bill. that is absolutely not true. so we've had to spend time putting out fires, a little like wacka mole, that game. so this is an opportunity to talk again about why it is so important to move forward on health care reform because premiums are going through the roof. it's becoming unaffordable. you're denied coverage for pre-existing conditions. you lose your job, you lose health care. it's an opportunity for the president to remind people why we need to do this. >> do you think the plan could have been marketed better? >> you can always look back with 20/20 hindsight. the point is we're getting the message out now. i think when people get the facts, in fact when you look through this bill it's almost like a checklist of fixing all the grievances people have had for so many years with the system. i think when they go through the bill and that's what we're getting out to folks they are very comfortable with it. particularly seniors who see how we're going to be strengthening the medicare program through this bill. the more comfortable they get i think the more ready they are for the change. >> what is going to happen? play it out for me. what do you think's going to happen? >> before we left the house to go back and talk to our constituents in early august we had three bills that came out of the three different committees in the house that have jurisdiction. so when we come back we'll listen to our colleagues, they will provide feedback based on their conversations with their constituents. we're going to merge the three bills. we may add things based on what people come back with, what they have heard and we want to move forward with health care reform because we want to protect what is working in the system, i think we can all agree there are significant problems in the existing system that need to be fixed. we're going to come back and work on getting the bill passed. >> have we moved too fast? are we moving too quickly? you know in baltimore we don't like change. so are we moving too fast? >> i think we're moving at just the right speed. the committees are doing their work. we're having a discussion with the american people. the president is going to come back and i think launch the you a tusm phase of -- autumn face of this discussion. i think we'll get a bill by the ends of the year. >> at least people are involved. >> absolutely. i think people are taking their responsibilities seriously. i mean, most people, as i said are coming, interested in a genuine dialogue and conversation. i think that's what we want. to hear peoples' concerns. we don't want people coming to actually try and disrupt the proceedings so that you can't have that exchange of information. i mean, people should come to these with the idea we're going to have a conversation, share ideas. not with the idea they are going to shout everybody else down. >> you heard the argument forever. people don't want government in their lives. what's your argument to that? >> look, the medicare program is a good government program. the people really appreciate. so there's a balance out there. the thing about this proposal is it's not turning the world upside down. it keeps private health insurance in the mix. it's got the public option proposal which we think is a good one. you got medicare programs staying strong. we're going to keep all the elements in there and people should be comfortable with that. >> congressmen, thank you very much. let's go get a real doctor in the house. dr. fioramonti. >> exactly. she would like a home. how you can give her one. in the meantime, if you have a question about your dog or cat, call us because dr. fioramonti will answer it live on the air. 410-377-8100. we'll be right back. explain. oh yea, well for 6 months, customers get all three: fios tv, internet and phone for just $79.99 a month. oh, all right, see... you're just moving your fingers aren't you? i've gotta cut my nails. 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>> 2 to 3 years old, mixed terrier looking for a home. very alert, attentive, says hi to everybody. she's just checking everybody out. looking at the cameraman, all the studio people. she's just really focused on everybody. i think she's a nice dog looking for a home over at the maryland spca. 12 - 236-88 -- 235-8826. caroline, you have a question? >> i have a 3-year-old male bichon, in year he has really been suffering with itchy skin. i've done the oat meet baths, the benadryl, hydrocortisone sprays and at my wit's end >> on antihistamine? >> no, just the benadryl. >> benadryl doesn't really work well in dogs. talk to your vet. bichons are genetically known to have a lot of allergies. he probably has that. at 3 years old it's not a good sign. it means every summer, 4-year-old summer, 5-year-old summer, he'll be itching and scratching a lot. we have some that are almost totally bald because of their allergies. check your vet, get the dogs on antihistamines all summer long. that will help decrease the itch, on effective antihistamines, the benadryl is not really doing it and make him comfortable so it doesn't irritate things too much. but you'll need an open line with your veterinarian, talk with him a little bit, understand what parameters and medications to use because it's a lifelong problem usually. >> elise, can you hear us? >> hello? >> you have a question about trapping cats? stray cats? >> yes. what to do with stray cats. >> do you have a colony in your neighborhood? >> well, a mother cat and two babies and then these other cats started coming around. if somebody traps them they said they can return, neuter them and return but my friends can't be caretakers for them. so, we could pay to have them neutered but there's nowhere to take them. i have three cats. they have one. they are older. they don't want to take any more. >> this is a difficult area that we have to work with in a society. obviously you've got a number of cats in your area close by. the most important thing is to get them trapped and neutered so you don't get more cats, ok? there's a couple of different organizations that do that. the maryland feline society does that. the maryland spca actually works with them and will help at least direct you. i don't know that they do that specifically but they help direct you as to where it can be done. they do a lot of spaying and neutering and release. they trap the cats, they spay and neuter them, then put them back in the same neighborhood they were found. that way they can go ahead and live out their lives. if you got neighbors that can't take care of them and you're worried about the cats, then it's a matter of trapping them, getting them neutered, socialized and trying to find them homes. that's a lot more difficult problem but it's something that can be taken care of if you have the time. >> there are community resources. if you have a question send me an e-mail because i did a story on two women who did that. they will try to find the right resources for you. sends me an e-mail if you're still on the line, ok? >> or the spca, they will line you up. >> and the maryland spca is where you can find summer. get one more shot of her. so great. >> isn't that nice? >> for -- gorgeous dog. call the maryland spca at 410-235-8826. >> i want to remind everyone to go to the state fair. the university of maryland got pigs and cows are showing everybody the baby calves and piglets and chicks. >> you were talking about it last week. >> i took all the kids there. >> dr. fioramonti, thank you for coming in. see you next week. if you have a question about a dog or cat, send a question. how close do you feel to your daughter? ever thought you were too close? coming up, we're going to talk to some mothers who really looked at how close the relationship has become and why in some cases it's too close for comfort. daughters, how well do you get along with your mom? is she your buddy? your mentor? too close for comfort? ah. a new book out "too close for comfort" written by linda pearlman gordon and susan morris schaefer. you are both moms to daughters. >> yeah. >> are you constantly biting your tongue? >> yes. and putting duct tape over our mouths. >> what age is it you know you have to watch what i say, watch my opinions? >> i think after your daughter leaves college that is about the time when you really know she should be starting to launch herself and in today's world they are younger in their 20s so we get confused. but it's when you should start being kind of an emotional coach and you should say less and listen more and only give advice when asked. >> who is this book for? >> for mothers of adult daughters as well as daughters in their 20s and 30s. and we think it's a good idea for mothers to read the book when they have teenagers so that they can begin to prepare them for this new stage of adulthood. >> what have you heard from mothers that have been contacting you on your web site linda? >> one of the things, the question we ask is can you be your daughter's best friend? >> is it possible? >> mothers don't like the question. mothers know -- mothers always trumps friend. what i like to say is that you would jump under a bus for your daughter and your daughter would happily let you. but you won't jump under a bus for your friend. >> no kidding. just like that? >> just like that. best friendship requires mutuality and mothers and daughters are never on the same playing field. mother is always the emotional caretaker. if you ask daughters if they had to choose between a friend or mother they want their mother. >> how about the mom that gives unwanted advice? the daughter that says i don't want to hear it, i'm old enough now. let me make my own decisions. do you hear a lot of that? >> we do. what we advise daughters to do is in a calm way, not one of those times you really want to tell each other where to go, you say i -- we will be closer if you just let me be. and if you just listen to me. and that creates a boundary that is necessary. >> out of 10 daughters you've talked to how many out of that 10 do you think i wish we had a closer relationship with mom? >> i think all daughters really want a close connection. it really, if you think about it it really helps their well being. makes them feel good about themselves, it's the strongest bond that you have, mother and daughter. so i think that most daughters want to have a close relationship. not too close but close. >> what have you learned? by writing this book about your own relationship with your own daughter? >> it's a good question because we learned a lot and we thought about it. i learned that some of the things that look like insults shouldn't be taken as insults. it my daughter's way of becoming her own person. i think daughters are uncomfortable with the fact they are not just like their mothers but they need to not be just like their mothers. so there's that ability to have a lot of fire where the two things intersection. i've had much more patience because of it. >> the relationship in the 1960s with mom and daughters, different from 2009? >> very different. there were social expectations of the way mothers should behave. and mothers shouldn't reveal themselves to their daughters. and our generation wanted to break through that. we wanted to be closer with our daughters. we wanted to be more involved with their lives. but what we really want to do is make sure that daughters are able to forge their own identity and stay close and stay connected but that we don't control their lives anymore when they are adults. >> you hear that? make your own decisions. the web site is parentingroadmaps.com. the book is available -- they have a book signing in bethesda september 24th. that will be at barnes & noble. thank you for coming in. >> thank you very much. ever get close to a meteorologist before? >> i have. it's nice to meet you. >> somebody else? i'm not your first? >> no. you're my first. if that makes you feel better. >> i can't wait to hear advice about meteorologists and their sons. look, this morning, we were down to 56 degrees. 40s, not as widespread as yesterday. starting to modify the air mass. back to 66, very pleasant now. beautiful morning to be outside. as the sun is breaking through you'll notice the humidity still down, cloud line pushing off the coast. shoreline still dealing with cloud cover. may linger for a good portion of the day, as you see this frontal boundary starting to get a little bit of a push and slowly stall out with the cloud cover, lower eastern shore especially from cambridge, salisbury to ocean city. the rainfall along the shoreline just off the coast. a little flare-up of energy out there continues to ride itself along that frontal boundary. that should also continue to pull the coolest of the air out of here. maybe a little disturbance or two riding on back towards the midwest could pass to the south overnight but essentially we should stay dry, eastern shore to the beaches could have a shower overnight. through daybreak. then we set up for a great weekend. still on tap for 79 this afternoon. mostly sunny and tonight we'll slip back to 60 degrees. and any threat of showers will mainly be on the eastern shore. heading on in through tomorrow we're looking for a partly cloudy to mostly sunny day, temperature up to about 82 degrees. we're still expecting nice weather to move in to the beaches as well for the weekend but how about our weekend forecast? we'll hone in on 84 degrees. on saturday. overnight lows, low to mid-60s. so you can uncover the pool and let the water sit overnight. it's just a mild through labor day weekend, 82 sunday. you'll see temperatures should stay where we belong in the lower 80s through early next week. small chance of a shower on monday afternoon. that is labor day but most of it will be dry and temperatures staying in the lower 80s through tuesday and wednesday. remember, you can catch us on line at abc2news.com. to get the latest weather conditions and our weather graphics at the bottom of the screen. 9:53. we'll be right back. explain. oh yea, well for 6 months, customers get all three: fios tv, internet and phone for just $79.99 a month. oh, all right, see... you're just moving your fingers aren't you? i've gotta cut my nails. (announcer) now get three amazing fios services for the price of two. tv, internet, and phone for only... plus a free multi-room dvr for three months. record shows in one room- watch in another. call the verizon center for customers with disabilities at 800.974.6006 tty/v before september 19th. and get fios tv - ranked highest in overall customer satisfaction by j.d. power and associates america's top rated internet-- now even faster, and crystal clear phone service. all for just... plus, for a limited time, a free multi-room dvr for 3 months. that's an overall savings of $240 dollars over six months. it's your last chance to get this incredible deal. 3 great services, for the price of 2. call the verizon center for customers with disabilities at 800.974.6006 tty/v today. time for our featured events. two jennifers. they say come to the 13th annual 5k run and one-mile fun walk. october 3rd. the goal is to raise money for their elementary school and for books and technology, everything they need. so if you're interested you can e-mail one of the jennifers, or call the number. >> i got this from one kate. she runs towson arts. they are having arts in the park coming up this weekend, 10:00 to 5:00 on the fifth and 12:00 to 5:00 on the sixth. featuring local are a at this time, fine crafts. they will have wines there, beautiful food. takes place at cromwell valley park in front of the sherwood house. $5 parking donation. get on-line, towsoncollective.org. final check of the weather. >> the weather. on the shore, to the beach. for the weekend. you sound like you're in jersey. no, we're going back to ocean city, at the ocean, the shore for them. chance of early showers tomorrow. we turn partly cloudy to mostly sunny. a nice weekend, saturday, sunday, temperatures in the low 80s. the water temperature at 74. good-looking stuff in ocean city. omy -- thank you for joining us.
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