Good friends today. We hang out a lot. So thats good. I wish i had, like, just a little bit of advice on, like, how to make it better, i think. Yeah. Getting into an argument is easy. Whats hard is preventing it or knowing how to resolve it before you damage your friendship. Author and therapist Melissa Cohen is here with some hi. Hi. Its nice to be here. If im having a problem with a friend, is that a sign we shouldnt be friends . Of course not. Conflict is healthy, and its inevitable. Its something that we all do. Its just how we deal with the conflict thats key. You have a list of five ways that people deal with conflict. So lets start with one of the most common responses avoidance. Avoiding. This is smoothing it over and forgetting it ever happened. Its very common. Then theres accommodate. What do you mean by that . Accommodate means that the than the issue, so we tend to let it go. Force is next. That doesnt sound too promising. No. This is when well do anything to win at all costs. We want it our way or nothing else. That brings us to the opposite of winning at all costs compromise. Compromise is when we give a little and we get a little. No one really gets their way. Finally, theres collaborate or negotiate. Okay, this is when we Work Together to come up with creative problem solutions. Okay. So, summing up, the ways most people deal with conflict are. With those in mind, what suggestions do you have to help us deal with conflict . Well, first and foremost, we need to make sure that everyone takes the time to calm down. Then we need to listen because every situation has multiple perspectives. However, there are a couple of positive negotiation outcome, and the first one is to speak to the person directly. Dont rely on others to speak for you because you never know what theyre gonna say. Number two take the time to calm down. Listen to one another. This is also your opportunity to ask questions. Number three use i statements when telling people how you feel. For example, i feel angry when you ignore me. Four apologize. If you did something wrong, take responsibility. Dont be afraid. And number five is to come together to work out a creative solution. Come up with a few and then agree on some that you can implement. Just so were clear, let me give you some reallife situations, and you tell us how youd resolve the conflict. A girlfriend accuses you of spreading rumors or gossip about her. First, if you did it, apologize. If not, dont go spreading your own rumors. It only makes you just as then work with the person to find out where it all started. In the locker room, one of the guys insults you or pushes you. Okay. Even though your first inclination is to push back, dont. Take the time to calm down. Remove yourself from the situation. When everybodys calm, then you guys can talk about it. Very useful advice. Thanks. Thank you. Thanks for having me. Clearly, we cant always avoid running into a conflict. But we can avoid making it worse. For teen kids news, im emily. Frenemy isnt a real word. However, most us us know what it means. Its whats called a blended word because its made up of two other words in this case, friend and enemy. Another popular blended word is bromance, comprised of brother and romance. Its used to refer to two guys who get along well. It seems that new words are being created all the time and then made popular by guess you could call that telsociedia . Or maybe not. Teens are learning how to protect all of us from a serious threat. Ill have the story for this next story, you need to understand that the word vulnerability means a kind of weakness a weakness that can make you a target. Vulnerability in a Computer System makes it a target for hackers. If you read the headlines, you know that even banking and be vulnerable. Cyberattacks, as theyre called, are a real danger. And that brings us to erics report. Say hello to the front lines of future battles against cyberattacks. These teens are among the winners of the National High School Defense competition, also known as the cyberpatriot competition. We put the two terms together cyber because thats what were about, and patriot because were teaching good citizenship and you end to compete at the finals in washington, teams had to first meet challenges back at home. After three online rounds of competition in which theyre judged on how well they fix cybervulnerabilities, 28 teams are selected and flown here, all expenses paid, to the national capital, where they compete headtohead against all the other teams that have qualified for the National Finals competition. At the finals, the teams had to ward off cyberattacks designed by professional engineers. And the firstplace winner. [ drum roll ]. Is chantilly academy. [ cheers and applause ] competitors take home more than awards and scholarship money. They also take home a deeper understanding of the importance of protecting our Computer Systems. Everything on the internet. And we put all of our important stuff on, you know, files on the computer or something, so its protect them. Everybody safe. Just like police on the street, how they keep everybody safe, its the same way through the internet. Run by the air force association, the competition is sponsored by northrop grumman. Its a company that specializes in protecting us from cyberattacks. And what we look for in future professionals in the cybersecurity business is teamwork, collaboration, communication. And when you see these students in action, theyre demonstrating all of those skills. Another goal of the cyberpatriot competition is to inspire more teens to become interested in stem science, technology, engineering, and math. Along with cybersecurity, these are all considered vital to our nations future. For teen kids news, im eric. The terrorist attacks on 9 11 may have happened before some of us were born, but they are still a very powerful and painful national memory. One World Trade Center was finally completed. It now soars above the new york city skyline, towering a symbolic 1776 feet. Two World Trade Center has also had a rocky start. Although construction began in 2010, it was halted. Redesigned. Slightly shorter than one World Trade Center, number two features a stairlike exterior, grassy rooftop terraces, and large glass interiors. Its expected to be completed by around the 20th anniversary of the 9 11 attacks. This Important Message is brought to you by the National Road safety foundation. [ bell rings ] all right, guys so, guess what the dance is this saturday are you going . Yes. Lets all go together. Oh, that sounds awesome [ engine starts ] okay. So, you know the theme tonight is all school spirit. , everything spirit. Rachel rachel so, red and black. Hey, rache seriously . Rachel, you have Rachel Rachel [ echoing ] [ heart beating ] choking it can happen to well show you what to do. Knowing what to do in a medical emergency can be lifesaving. Thats why knowing first aid is so important. Attila the hun, jazz musician tommy dorsey, and the man who wrote the play streetcar named desire, Tennessee Williams they all had one thing in common. They choked to death. Choking is very common, and with the proper training, you can learn how to help someone what is choking . Choking occurs when something gets stuck in your throat. How do you know if someones choking . If they cant make any noise, they cant cough, speak, breathe, then theyre choking. They might even be making the universal choking sign, but its important to know that if somebodys coughing or making any sort of squeaking sound, theyre not actually choking. Its just the body trying to get the object out. So, what do we do . Ive brought my friend cami here. Shes gonna help us learn what to do if somebody is conscious and choking. So, first, i need to m me sure shes choking. Shes not making any sound. Are you choking, cami . She might nod or make a big face at me. Im gonna tell someone else to call 911, cause i want to make sure help is on the way. And i am gonna place one of my arms across her chest and have her bend forward, all the way, at the waist. And then im gonna find a spot right in between her shoulder blades and give five really forceful back blows right in between the shoulder blades. Im not actually giving cami back blows, cause shes not actually choking, but in real life it would be really forceful. If that doesnt work, im gonna im gonna ask her, can you show me your belly button . Just point to it. Perfect. Im gonna make a fist. Thumb side of my fist goes right above her belly button. Grab my fist with the other hand, and im gonna give five abdominal thrusts to force air underneath the object. Its like a j or a scooping motion when youre actually giving the abdominal thrust. If that doesnt work, i would go back and forth, back and forthgo between the back blows and abdominal thrusts to try and get the object out till the ambulance arrives. Want to give it a shot . Yeah. Sure. Come on over. Okay. So weve confirmed shes choking. Weve sent someone to call 911. Take one of your arms all the way across and have her do what . Bend over for me, please. Great. And between the shoulder blades. Right up here. Great. And it would be one, two, three, four, five. Great. And that didnt work, so stand her up. What do we need to find . Her belly button. Great. Yes. Beautiful. Good. And d w many . Okay. So one, two, three, four, five. Great. And hopefully that works. If it doesnt, you keep going till the emts get there. And how are you feeling now, cami . [ laughs ] a lot better. Choking is no joke. You neededo act fast. Its literally a matter of life and breath. For tkn, im alexa. Heres a health tip thats more than 5,000 years old honey instead of sugar. Honey is not only lower in calories, it also has a number of other added benefits to help increase energy and memory retention. Sweet. He didnt look like a baseball star, a bit chubby and not particularly attractive. But he changed sports forever. When teen kids news continues. Hes probably the first superstar of sports. Although born with the name george, he was better known to the bambino or more simply as just babe. Scott takes us on a tour of a museum in baltimore dedicated to baseballs most famous player. He was, you know, the biggest star in baseball. He was the biggest star in new york. He kind of was the emblem for the roaring 20s of america. The whole country embraced him for the exuberance with which he lived, the dynamic, the spirit that he had. Babe ruth was big news back in the early days of baseball, and not just on the field. He was in movies, in comic books. There was even babe ruth underwear. A candy bar believed to be named after him is still popular today the baby ruth. These are just some of the fascinating exhibits youll see here, at the babe ruth birthplace museum. This is the actual building where the babe was born. Thousands of visitors from all around the world come every important to america, but he is important to the game of baseball wherever its played. He established all of the slugging records in baseball. Back when he was coming on as a homerun hitter, he would frequently outhomer what entire teams were able to put up in a single year. And he also was an allstar caliber pitcher, so there was no other player in history who has ever done that. Its thrilling to get a glimpse into not just the babes professional career, but his personal life as well. And this is babe ruths grandparents bedroom. And babes mother came here and gave birth to babe, but also to seven other kids because back in 1895, and at that time frame, thats what americans did they gave birth at home. Dont let the dainty room and baby picture fool you. George herman ruth was born into a gritty life. His parents ran a saloon, and young george ran kind of wild. When he was just 7, his parents were forced to send him to school for problem kids. The state was threatening make him a ward of the state, take him away from you, so they put him in st. Marys, which was run by a group of catholic brothers, and it was known for discipline. You get a little bit of an education, as well. Fortunately, st. Marys also was known for its baseball team. This is babe ruths catchers mitt from st. Marys industrial school. He was scouted for the orioles, a Minor League Team back then. Heres his rookie baseball card, now worth hundreds of thousands of dollars. The guy next to him is jack dunn, the owner of the Baltimore Orioles. George was so young that, in order to hire him, dunn had to become georges legal guardian. They go to spring training, and the Baltimore Sun starts referring to george ruth as jack dunns baby, and by may of that t ar, it had been shortened to babe ruth. Soon, fans could tune in to Radio Broadcasts of the babe pitching for the boston red sox. But he was even more valuable he moved on to the championship yankees and stardom. But he always made time for his fans, especially young ones. There are many stories about the babe coming home from Yankee Stadium after a game, and he would stop the car if he saw a game of ball going on, and get out and play with the kids because he just was like that. Babe ruth had a heart as big as Yankee Stadium. Mike told me the story of babes promise to kid dying of a rare disease. It was a promise that seems to have helped save the young fans life. Over here, you see a bunch of baseballs all signed by babe ruth, but the one second in from the left is the ball that babe ruth signed and he made the prediction that he would hit a homer for little Johnny Sylvester in the 1926 world series, and this is the ball where he writes the prediction. On the side of the ball, he writes, ill knock a homer in wednesdays game for you. And he hit three. On the radio and he gets better. In the 1932 world series, ruth hit one of the most famous home runs in history the called shot. The yankees were playing in chicago. The cub fans and even the players were booing the bambino. Ill never forget it was a tough series. Both clubs riding each other, doing everything to get each others goat. Well, after this one. After two strikes, ruth says, he wanted to send a message. And at that point, he points. You can barely see him pointing in this picture from a spectator. Legend has it he was showing just where he was going to send the ball. But nevertheless, the next pitch comes in it is low and away and ruth goes down and gets it and hits the longest home run in the history of wrigley field. Some people dont believe he was really calling the shot. They claim he was pointing at something else. But ruth would always say he pointed to the american flag, and thats where he hit the home run. Oh, yeah. Yeah, he called it. He is telling everybody that Something Big is gonna happen, and it did. Coming up, i get to go where very few people visit. The vaults of sports history. Camden yards is where the Baltimore Orioles play now. Babe ruth could probably have blasted a long ball right on over to the next stop on our tour. Well, scotty, this is ourur other building. This is kind of like a state sports museum. Its called sports legends, babe ruth in here, too. Come on. Ill show you around. Marylands great teams and athletes are showcased here. But mike and i were on a mission, so there was no time to huddle. [ chuckles ] kinds of amazing displays more amazing. A place that you will remember for the rest of your life. Come on into this room. This is kind of a special space. It is called the archives. And this is where we process all of the 10,000 artifacts that we have in our museum, but the stuff that gets put into safekeeping comes back into this room, which is the vault. So come on in and well take a look at the vault. The vault is jampacked with sports history from the recent past. Cal ripkens s eats are here. To way back when. Football players, olympians if they made their mark in you can see the Baltimore Orioles are represented in here, the Baltimore Ravens are here, Michael Phelps is in here, so anything and everything to do sports is here, but theres one artifact that i thought you might be really interested in seeing, and thats a babe ruth gameused bat. Of course, a bat this extraordinary must be handled with care. The first thing i have to do is i have to put on my special gloves i want you to put on gloves because when we deal with artifacts in the museum world, we dont want to get our hand oil all over the artifact because that hurts the artifact. Okay . Were going to take out a bat that babe ruth used in the year that he hit 60 home runs 1927. So this bat is very special because it is notched. You see that it has seven notches on it. Were not sure if thats for home runs or hot dogs. [ chuckles ]. That he achieved with this. Anyway, grab ahold of that. Thats a pretty valuable piece of turf you got there right now. Louisville slugger. George babe ruth personalized. Well, its as if the power of the babe is still in the bat. Theres nothing like holding a piece of history in your own hands. Not only did babe ruth set all sorts of hitting and homerun records, he also set records for missing the ball. But as he used to say, never let ththfear of striking oututet in your way. 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