you into the home of a british sikh family, you know? and you realise after a few laughs that actually they are very similar to your own family. do you really want to be - the one that everyone stares at? every family do because you married the english bloke . it is not sorta hitting you on the head movie, it is a very subversive movie about racism and tolerance. i never complained. and the effects of racism on one generation. on the contrary, i vowed that i would never play again. and how every different generation has to accept that, acknowledge that, but then found their own way. and if i can't tell- you what i want now, then i will never be i happy, whatever i do. and there are not a lot of films that do that. we are definitely not doing that at the time. i think it was a breath of fresh air. if all the relatives can look like they are acting as natural and not smiling at the camera... and what for you was the spark that really got bend it like beckham going as a narrative