Who are. On the psychology of leadership. Manfredi gets to free is a professor of Leadership Development organizational changes said in seattle Business School its really great to have you with us wow what an amazing time to talk about later shoes but im going to start actually from a little behind so we like to think of idea leaders as being modest little selfless accommodating emotionally intelligent compassionate instead. You know so in reality though its just about anyone about their boss from hell and the story goes that you will hear plenty about self centeredness that their rough their insensitive as leaders. Is it realistic to think that this gap between the ideal and the real realistic can be actually bridged i hope. They do what they do or something. You know we all need to be of narcissist. Unfortunately too many leaders really are from the bomb and that sort of group its very tall and the nice terms use about humility and a sense of humanity and to say older sayings no longer they bend down by the way say thats so there is thats the specter we live actually its very Interesting Times closer to home than me because it focuses in a way its the largest social experiment ever done. No good now that number so now is you Condition One is that people become more reflective and say what kind of rule do we need i mean at the moment. You know i look at the world and i didnt wonder many years ago before you were born and i have at this about science which talked about how can a person in the earths so now people are more concerned of course about Global Warming and things like that there was also a movie that was in the sixtys its also of course in the time of the cold war it was. Dr strangelove you probably never sort its an i want to move about the danger of nuclear all across and so its still there actually every single bar Companies Like pakistan and north korea you dont get the warm feeling was having their finger on the Nuclear Button then of course you have the terrorism because all over the place it is still there and they you have false you know also in the russia case i know here quite well because its been so many times there is income inequality i mean you look at america its enormous fortune in europe right in the its much less and of course countries like poland and sweden its much more equal but when you have large income inequalities its an invitation for social disaster. And then you have to pull them in and the way Different Countries have their arteries upon them in bad examples of course being countries like america. Also a country like india. Terrible revealing music which now that mr laden is supposed to be people who dont form a mosque or a man group a group is totally ridiculous and you know its its really a perfect storm. And well of course what you need are leaders. You mentioned. You know who are have compassion and have some members instead of you have you has been ok. So people are leaders who cater to our wish to believe. Your story realistic but lets be a little more precise because what i would like to talk to you during this interview about leadership and different kinds of walks of lives but now were touched upon the World Leaders right the cult political leaders and youre saying this is the perfect storm and this perfect storm actually brings to the surface all the downfalls of the systems of the people who are actually having their countries masks are off i mean never has there been a time where everything has been so clear when they say the king is in a cave this is the time about the saying so. It seems like looking over. The world landscape of Political Leadership landscape it can you use a program you say to. Better weather and thats my next question thats my next question but if we talk about the kings that are naked right. And that has become obvious during the pandemic it has a lot of people thinking that maybe they have the political elite that is heading the world great now lives in the old paradigm that doesnt correspond to the new problems that the world is facing and im not really only talking about the condemning the pandemic will go away in a year and a half hopefully. Right there will be a look see and i mean every 100 years there is a condemning but im talking about the problems that it has brought to surface and the inability of the current political elite to deal with these new problems that just dont correspond that old political paradigm what kind of leaders do we need right now considering that we know more precisely what are the problems the world is facing now. Well you know certain things are not new and i think one of the the infineon there. The problem we always have is the greek factor you know the element of greed has been there so are the ages in that still there. And thats i think a fairly not so silent motivator that people behave the way they do i mean its really take the United States as an example even in there if you know if you live in the richest communities or the most bursted they have the best education because it was the education is a way of looking so division believed to promise miracles they still built a vote for tom many of them who took trump because of. His f. And tasted dont financially but use a phrase shorts short wave or short rate of looking ive been fair its a said to your there is no short term. Surge in the entertainment country which is divided people in if a Safe Community is guarded by whatever powers protect the. Goons who protect them which is a terrible ray of living his example. The great effect it has always been there and it is unfortunate as has come very much to the fore come back to your question and youre the only depressed new south i what you need is people who are current today ages and are dealing to face reality as all the problems by the way that we live now in an age of the social media has no meaning or its effect and you know it and thus is no stranger to that by the way in the distribution effect or its and but im betting the world has become mosty in that and that is quite unfortunate that you start to get some should obviously limit a lot of people that ive spoken to said you know when things like demick happen right where when theres so much uncertainty and no one has the answers you can be the most experienced leader and you can be very smart. And you can be married talented but ls you have Emotional Intelligence and that a compass is a lot of other traits within itself for instance empathy and additive it is theres no way you can lead a nation out of crisis like program like would you agree with us would you agree that Something Like Emotional Intelligence is a must have for a good leader during the times of crisis like this person you have to know what are your strengths and weaknesses you can do it all leadership is really a team sport and fortunate tom to give that example because i like the example and so im also now im a psychoanalyst amount of the life of 2 heads or mention professor and psychoanalyst he is the example of a school to mimic the narcissist in a malignant narcissist is basically ive written quite a bit about him actually because i thought so you know i can believe it that big a sicko machine really is as so he basically has made it seems is he is so insecure or that its all about him it will never be about its always about him something about him and the 2nd seeing his face indicative so anybody whos not raise him is against him or do anything to crush the prince yes to with it is of course going to be interesting because of this election because he cannot lose its mind so he has to find all different ways to find excuses and so thats it but coming back to executives you know the 1st thing i tried to do in my going back to your question about Emotional Intelligence is the question of no dice. And to understand the strengths and weaknesses so many executives dont know him self they dont know right to do more to do the sentencing is that very often and bossy is a very good example actually given the power of this. Riches kind of remarkable if you think of our community and seems like thats in the past but theres an enormous amount of or be used to authority so or this great tendency for all the greek word going to a breeze people become too full of themselves and nobody can push them back because. The case of course also in talk. So death and and that is also door to self destruction so as always my surprise that people of many people have a tendency to selfdestruct in a leadership position unless you have a treat if the Corporate Culture where people have a healthy disrespect for their boss but its not so easy and but they can in the last year ive done quite some work there is organizations and organ but our this and the 2nd sing would always surprises me or the source of the many executives dont get the best of their people its really again they have no again theres who is emotion tell it is and what i found very noticeable after the 1st week of my program is 4 weeks over a year and the 1st thing you dont know that people never had a serious conversation is that they have never listened to them so thats what they do is start to have some conversation is that the other thing has to do with his deeds as i said the other ship is a team sport and since you can do everything you should focus on the scene should it and you should find people who can compensate for listening to youre not good at it and so i was they give me a somewhat neurotic to make something out of the short time and just be in my work at n. C. R. Ive been trying to buy them yet and coach so are 2 really and its always surprises me when you look at exec a leadership in organizations that people spend millions bence of millions of dollars or whatever your sort ever on id systems things like that but they are able to aligned. And that cost more money because you get terrified to better me as all this grand schemes people are multiplying matter that take a sharp break right now when were back well continue talking to a man fred katz to freres on was a political thinkers on the psychology of leadership talking about what kind of leaders as the world needs today stay with us. Or. Are. To shave. Our backward man fred katz to for a year and a prolific thinker on the psychology of leadership man correct me if im wrong but what i see the real life is that the vast majority of leaders whether its c. E. O. s of corporations whether its hads of states whether its you know just the heads of little Small Companies doesnt matter they have the traits. That good guys dont have you know because good guys always finish last i mean we talk about trump being a malignant narcissist but a lot of people who actually get to power are of power hungry are narcissistic are pushy they do lakes sort of go over other peoples heads to get where they want and thats why their leaders and other good guys with compassion and Emotional Intelligence always stay behind i want peace in the article about we should have leaders for life and you know road which was a very cynical article because leaders for life are not it doesnt make make for stability in the country and thats and also in the tredegar organization so. In the short term those people might come up but i think one should do everything to have some checks and balances to prevent those people to come to the fore destination for example ive developed many kinds of c 60 christian mirrors that you basically tease out the narcissist i mean the doctor lawyer the commercial narcissus is part of the deal better rate what is the question of accessible rates you need to be narcissistic was a need for self as the excess that people can push back then you can tell a person youre full of shit going to say you know stop it this doesnt go anywhere but i think very you have too much obedience to authority people. Luck to you and many of the leaders who talk about me from the echo chamber i mean they know what they think they want the right want are the interest of other people think thats i think important to me you learn you dont learn by yes tell yourself the same saying so this day in age you can have some all to class or take adventurous you can also say maybe we should have somewhat of a different view of a you have to be somewhat bizarre to hope and thats partially also the Younger Generation i mean i i im not going to are in sync about Global Warming im too old to really come here not too old and i dont feel at all but i mean im it i dont know going to necessarily affect be affected so much by that but then i think about my children and grandchildren they are and so you can see that you know that the Younger Generation may be the company isnt it and is actually the invention of the jungle generation because the Younger Generation was so affected my age and more of them being gets affected by it maybe thats what it is to find to get all those people out of the way who have certain ways of looking at sayings but lets say you leave a couple of thank your is a girl and you tater i dont know its a prince of orange and he has led the revolt yet now. What do you have to change one of the essential Leadership Qualities you will try to grow in him. Now i guess one thing we talk about certain qualities one has to have certain amount of selfconfidence i had one executive who was that who runs a Large Media Company who told me thank you thank you for being in the seminar because i had the courage but she doesnt have before it was a very good person to make some tough decisions nonsinging im not going to fight anybody that was actually its a tough decision course record its much easier to in bring in ben if you fight i said im he said im not going to fight anybody im going to really hope the hospitals also where have i had i take a salary cut theres the whole top executives at say that say thats the courage to have courage to do certain saying and to stand up and say this is about it and you know it everybody whos crazy also feel awful but you can decide things are courage muscle to say this this cannot stand now so you have selfconfidence too i mean when you look at the person is basically a child who are so insecure or needs all the time to be enforcement so to be to be more aware what you can do and can do coming back to strength and weaknesses it also going back to your comments about the care that you have a sense of compassion now you have to do it it was in moderation because if you had to do and bess if you dont bet anymore everything is you can that he or she can understand everything but that might be paralyzed what about cold blooded ness is something a good leader should also balancing himself. Now that has to do with the balance of compassion. Your menu i mean ill show you what i mean because when you see big leaders they need to take Big Decisions and even though its for the good of the people in the long run it doesnt necessarily come across that way to the people right then and there and people sometimes have to suffer for big reforms for a certain period of time 5 years 10 years thats a big chunk of time for one persons life so these people are faced with assad to be compassionate no go with the reforms and you know let the people be happy now or be cold blooded go on with the reform whether its a big c. E. O. Of a company or president of a country but in the longer on even though people are unhappy now with the reforms it will be better off for the country or for the company i see it not as. A blogger needs to see this cribbing create some tension no you have to make difficult decision because they the right decision as far as you can see in that cities and supposedly are elected but when you elect people who just cater to division to believe like you see in brazil mr mean there is this kind of discount of person or i mean theyre coming back to america they dont have the competence to make those decisions if they really realized. They would say they are not stupid people dont realize that they would surround himself with people who would advise they look at a populist like come back to america is a tribute example of what were creating he was nectar and he also knew then he was out of his debts so he made you know he had pretty decent advice thats not the case when you look at the present situation america so cold bloodedness is the ability i same to take some distance and be able to explain what youre saying just in the better investment nation and there was a man called out in the hour who was the german. Youre there in german consular he said a thick skin is a gift of growth unfortunately as only that at times you have need to have a 6 again because you can never please everybody if you want to please everybody you sell ice cream thats my advice is there like a natural the wide and people between leaders and followers and some people are destined to lead and others follow or anyone really can grow a leader in himself if he wants to. Thats a very interesting question and its not easy to answer because some people feel much better i mean in case of crisis we have a tendency to go back to whats called the dependency assumption be looking for someone who can lead this you know just as paul is already from politics times you know you talk about are you from lucian bute for somebody. Thats in general tend to say we also have this fight flight was saying time and some people depending on their background to mean i mean i have to say gradually as you look at some developmental you know at the well actually for you to use to. Talk about mine the gold in the sea if you as a man this and many of the if if if you had been the favorite ocean mother you cant lose thats what he said so you are you get a lot of self you have this freedom with for concrete can do anything and actually conserve similar or you look at Margaret Thatcher at the kind of show as she was interestingly your hate her autobiography there is no mother there. Theres only a father which was interest because in the in this male chauvinists the will he lived in her father into the son so that the book of us bought him as a tomboy so you have different but of course the best scenario rising is that its not just honey im home you know the chance of men coming home what you have to honey is coming home so you have role models in the family and those make it different if you have a faith competent as a woman if you have a competent mother its really sets and sets of the role model theory depends how what kind of elation ship develops in the family its a little bit like also. You know theyre coming back to security dino to the parable of the hatch wrong not thats what schopenhauer imagine your head short is caught in the with and you want to get warmer so some of the head shorts and you try to get closer while theres a hedge or how close can you get before used bad things happen to you is distinct so you have different kinds of heads will have to find proper distance so according to you come back to Child Development darcy started usually one is secure attachment that you feel comfortable with certain distance some people dont want to get close they are always avoidance because everything ends badly and they have to people are very needy so coming back to your question if people are fed is. Probably the better from a verse you know anxious intention they dont look for someone so interesting to me because this head to a pair of metaphor sets the stage of couple yellin ships and the relationships you have in organizations so i knew that so if you are for example very avoidance and your partner is faint needy its bad news you know youve done part is running off to go the other one has to take this going and. Come of coming back to where you can about leadership certainly given your particular the attention to be if you have fairly early in life which has to do is what kind of care you have some people will be much better for various other people who are more secure in their skin build many much better than the others do you think. The demands of what a good leader or traits of a good leader should be changed according to the times will even or a good leader is a good leader anywhere any time now that mean of course the difference things we have now believe in Information Society or you need certain different skills but i mean i wrote once not a skills traits no i mean coming back to the press as a christian it should be honest before. I was and some journalist before me said you know the leadership skills of work something great genghis khan and. Shaka zulu. And you know some face simile you need no no to f. L. Has a flippant remark to a journalist so i meant i wrote a book on aleck some of the day i wrote a book of shockers and it is the leader of southern f. Southern africa message and his comment the problem is that because of theres not much of it in the botching its going to the movies and it in society but i think many of the qualities are still the same which has to do no really look at. All excel in the gate nor news of symbolism in its particular way of operating was very rich and also the way before the battle you know you would be informed by the way which stupid is sure to lead off the talks because you can be killed and you will see shortly it was no stranger to many rooms also before the bethel talking to people singling people out and seemed like that the people felt special to death i mean there were levy usually create a community of people as still the case like you have any to fish the famous bottle of ashen coeur theres the famous speech there and he and he singles are all this media people so if you dont feel committed it will fight till the end youll do anything if theres someone that you think is a great model of a great leader that corresponds todays reality in todays time. Who would it be can you name a president or a c. E. O. Of a company that you think sits perfectly the times and challenges of today i feel the medical has done a pretty good job. I think she has done a very good job is not an easy country to manage and she has been she made some mistakes reach share in your underestimate for example the influx of immigrants and the impact it has generated both. Pretty nice to have you have a woman a storm really as you look at some of the would mean. I was foolish to get some discount in a few countries men i am i am im more more reluctant at the moment so that optimistic note that era of the Women Leaders that is actually coming. I would like to say thank you manfred its been really a treat talking to you and i hope we get to do this again and maybe i can actually connect with you when im in paris and we can talk more about this because. This is a really interesting topic that has come more than ever in focus right now so thanks a lot for your tips and for your thoughts and insights. Thank you for having me thank you. A dark industry comes to life in los angeles every night. 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