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From under your pan changing times isnt that a bit of an oxymoron because history has never stopped evolving and the dynamics of personal development are such that everybody experiences a crisis at some point in our lives so other times i believe in the really so extraordinary well not at all thats exactly the point we always live in changing times we always live in times of the changing structures of our society we live in times that are changes for ourselves crises of understanding of believe the roadmap that we were following etc its just that we live in a particularly time of great disruption of what people thought were fixed beliefs fixed structures and fixed understandings of self and world so the real question is how does anybody personally survive. But also maintain a sense of Core Integrity during those changes that inevitably happen to us now i know that psych says psychologists and even psychiatrists often see crisis and conflicts as focal points when long story problems and grievances finally get a chance to be addressed when people and societies renegotiate the outdated terms of their coexistence doesnt that make crises not only inevitable but also healthy well to a degree yes some crises are brought about by traumatic events in history in our culture or in our personal lives many times we find ourselves having outlived our assumptions or not fitting within the structures of belief such as our family suggested to us or the Popular Culture around us so you know a good girl to ask the question once what what abides amid all this change so he was concerned in the late 18th century about change and the key is what is it that would within myself that allows me to maintain a certain consistency of a dennehy and purpose and an integrity of belief and action thats the key what do i carry with me in mid all the changes that happen around me and as far as i know you know also sad that any transformation demands as its precondition and being over world the collapse of an old philosophy off life but the people who have a stake in an old philosophy or who are doing well in an old world may find these not only deeply unpleasant but also threatening and sometimes they fly tooth and nail to to force the old to change do you find it effective do you think one can stop or slow down a transformation once its sat in motion no we really cant set back change nor should we because its a natural evolutionary process but just to give you a quick example when i was a child there. Very strong and fixed beliefs about what it meant to be a woman what it meant to be a man and all of thats been changing being being constructed over the last few decades and a priest people up but its also frightening to people who dont have a sense then of who am i what are what are my scripts what am i supposed to do and b. And so forth and there are many other of those kinds of categories all of which create in a sense a shift that is occurring from the 1000. 00 century in particular to the president of the authority being vast in residual institutions such as church and state and so forth and the family life to the shoulders of the individual which is freeing on the one hand but intimidating and a burden to many others at the same time let me ask you a question about one particular institution that we can see behind you because over the last couple of years it experienced a major change a dont know a chunk was elected as a president of the United States and hes a very unusual president who doesnt feed your typical stereotype you often talk about the importance of embracing your shadow the part in you that you would drive in the lets see doesnt feel action of trying to qualify as such for the american politics and American Society isnt trumping the very young in terms of shadow has a long way to to come into the open well youre absolutely right in your description and the great Cultural Divide that were experiencing in our culture is precisely between those who have sought to sustain the old values the old traditions the old structures and those who have found them constructive and that conflict has deeply divided our society and trump is in many ways a symptom of that divide i know that many people in the United States find trump ugly for the lack of the better world but i think hes also authentically ugly he doesnt protect. To be badder than he is he is not positioning himself as whole or holier than thou which i think is very common in politics at all around the world. Im not sort of asking you whether you like him annoyed but whether theyre having and nonconformist like him is good for the system in the long run and hes by the way not the only one to be we have these type of politicians coming to power in many other countries in india some would say in russia in Great Britain for sure so do you think having politicians like these that we may personally dislike. Some bad if its for the system well anyone who challenges the received order is going to cause conflict thats understandable thats always been the case at the same time there are many in our country who believe mr trump in particular has departed from in some cases the rule of law and the balance of powers which the founders of our nation thought desperately to try to maintain so the effects of this presidency is something that will be analyzed by historians for a very long time to come again it speaks to the importance of the individual understanding who am i in this situation and what are my call to embrace what values how my to conduct my actions and what are they in service to inside of me thats the key dr hollis you mentioned a moment ago that historians will analyze the legacy of this present i hope psychoanalysts bill do that too and i know that you personally are a big admirer of carl young as i am and i heard you describe young as a fallible man who could also be a self aggrandizing at times who like Albert Einstein had had extramarital affair is including one that with a russian lady by the way but who in his field made a lasting contribution when people feel. Focus on trumps moral character instead of lets say his Economic Performance or the substance of his policies isnt the same as looking at death psychology or the theory or realty t through the prism of their founders lifestyle choices. Well yes its a very interesting point you make we dont judge a persons body of work their accomplishments with their personal moral life in this particular case really referring to the american president that moral life spills over into his politics in a very explicit way i think we could say of einstein for example whatever his relationship to his marriage they didnt affect his capacity as a mathematician and as a theoretician as a physicist the same would be true of young his body of work continues to help us find ways to access personal authority and find the thread of of our passage through these complexities even though at times i think he was not was certainly a reprehensible individual i dont want to focus on trump but let me ask you one more question because i find him very interesting especially in the light of what you have been writing in your books and ive heard you say many times that we are all recovering children and perhaps that applies to trump more than to anyone else he is the 1st public figure i think to have a negative image over child attached to him and you may recall these you know trying baby balloons that hes critics like like to fly their rallies what do you make of these african infantilized the president in the public consciousness do you think its justified do you find it helpful do you think its bill bringing out something good in him well i think its certainly true from based on his actions ive never met him of course but based on his observable actions he suffers from a deep narcissistic wound which is speaks to a deep in insecurity this is why he attends constantly to what people are saying about him now i dont think any of us are particularly amusing to what others think about us but he seems particularly wired to what people are thinking and saying and so forth and turns to the aggressive response. Whenever he finds something not to his liking. I think underneath that is a very insecure and sort of unstable sense of selfhood and that doesnt that doesnt bode well for a pop Foreign Policy or consistency of policies either thats a psychological statement not a political statement absolutely but you also make a point often in childhood most of us want to fit in and please others and trump exhibits none of that in fact i think he believes that hes calling in charge of his own path in ignoring they say areas in discarding conventions in trying. New ways i mean isnt that the kind of individuation both carl jung i mean you preached in so many of your books well it depends of course when when he makes changes and facts hundreds of millions of people and i dont want to comment further upon the effect of those changes im simply saying its a country thats deeply divided and for every admirer there is are probably about 1. 00 of those who dislike him intensely so he is not a person who commands majority majority approval in this country despite being in power and so forth and mask of the last question not about charm but about. The intensity of the hatred because its i live in the United States i started there i have many friends there and i have to tell you that i have never experienced that there way it is right now where the without this the the russian angle i mean like they have bill of all of polarization is simply mind blowing. Do you think these intensity these see the boiling hatred of trump says anything about people who hate him isnt that also a kind of projection well of course that is of course that is again i think this gray. Divide is ok jand by the forces of change and the forces who wish to permit preserve rather a status quo and again the nature of our lives the nature of our culture is constantly changing so that conflict is present in all societies at all times its just that the nature of the change has brought a lot of our institutional values expectations role definitions into question which causes a wave of anxiety running through people and through the culture itself and the reactions to that are very very pronounced on both sides of the divide well dr hollis may have to take a very short break now but we will be back in just a few moments stay tuned. Social and i was initially. To do yes and. I think. You know which worked improved for. Me because. It was because the global was go out to those who sees it in your voice you. Must have looked a little bit in this part of. Me and youre fighting with the left for the left. From the left. About 4 to 6 months because in the south. Welcome back to worlds apart with dr james hollis a Prominent Union psychoanalyst and author of the upcoming book living between 2 worlds finding personal resilience in changing times dr hollis and now for bella trump lets talk about your books the notion of personal responsibility and accountability for their lives leave and leave the essential to you all your work and i heard you say that the main difference between my journey and postmodernity of was this shift the 430 from the collective to the individual on the whole are a people a rarity to shoulder such a burden such a weight. Well thats exactly what i was referencing before that the psycho social shift of the summons to personal authority now that is to say what is true for me how my to understand myself and my assignments in this world and from whence comes that authority is it in residual institutions is it in the collective is it within myself in my field paradoxically one of the clues to this is what we call psychopathology when we are acting in such a way that is contradictory to our own nature it always shows up symptomatically and thats one of the ways in which we find ourselves able to discern when what im doing is not necessarily the right way for me even though if its indorsed by those around me know the words why am i depressed when ive done all the right things why this panic attack those are the kinds of questions that arise out of the conflict between our external conditioning forces of which there are so many and our own nature and our own nature has a certain autonomy which resists and rebels in the face of the 0 pression of whatevers going on around it now you know you are also a world renowned expert on the midlife crisis is this period anywhere between 30 and i guess 50 years old when many of us are proud few on learn or at least bring into the open the patterns up taishan defenses thats been learned this children and when we finally get a chance to become adults and accept ourselves in in our entirety of both pleasant and unpleasant sides and i find it that for many people accepting their shadow accepting their sides is even more difficult nowadays than before why do you think that is. Well its a very instant question because everybody receives a set of marching orders if you will from your family of origin your Popular Culture your education maybe religious background or whatever your cultural influences and again if they are in accord with my inner life then i will feel a sense of belonging and harmony when theyre not awful that discord and often what we call the midlife crisis is where a person has left home and had the world created relationship created jobs etc etc but all of those things do not accord with or line up with what is wishing expression within myself and therefore that conflict once again a merges as symptomatology it shows up in our dreams shows up in our bodies it shows up in our symptomatology s. Such as depression and self medication and so forth those represent a summons to a question what does the psyche want of me what is the soul means soul is the literal translation of the greek word psyche what is the soul mourning of me thats a whole different matter i know what the world demands of me what is my own soul demanded me and that collision is what produces human suffering what i find fascinating about the time well leave in is that this dynamic that you describe it happens on there on a personal level it is also occurring on an International Level and we have many countries we mentioned the americans but it also happens to the russians to the indians to the british to the chinese we are all debating who we are as americans russians etc and as fascinating as it is i think that it could also be dangerous well of course of course but you know its healthy to have that kind of debate at the same time again i believe that the crisis that happens force individually and the crisis that happens to every culture is whether one can abide and sort of integrate the inherent chain. Does that have to happen in every culture and every persons life you see every passage is the death of something all passages involve some kind of conflict in between where one is trying to reconstitute the old way of doing things but it doesnt work and as a therapist im often working with people and those in between times and we live in inbetween times in history we live in inbetween times in our psychic lives as well so again the key is how do i find my path through all of this and where do i find and its in those moments we have to start beginning to trust what is coming from within the nature of our dreams which comment about 6 times per night on how our life is being conducted what about my feelings that there are in discord and conflict and what about the energy when im doing whats right for me the energy is available when im doing whats wrong for me i have to force it into what leads to burnout and depression and so forth and most of all is the question of meaning the most elusive but most important of all is what im living meaningful to me the goal of life is not happiness then its meaning quite a different thing happiness is a transitory byproduct of being a right relationship to ones soul at that particular moment and when im im not in that accord that i will 6 periods that as a form of conflict and suffering speaking about conflicts you know as i was preparing for this conversation i rewashed carl young 959 interview with the b. B. C. Which among other things discussed youngs accurate prediction back and in thirtys of. That the 2nd world war would take place and im going to ask you this same question the b. B. C. Interviewer asked if young do you think a 3rd world war is likely given this midlife crisis is that their world seems to be going well. Jung said that he could see in the psychological material of his patients these collisions occurring and he feared that they would be small into the collective actions we know as war i would have to say those same collisions are occurring around the world in the psyche of individuals today will that lead to war i hope not no one knows yet i fear the instability of those politicians who are also caught up in these crises of change and their own stability and their own capacity to negotiate that and so you know its certainly true that what is not addressed inside will tend to sort of spill into the world through me which is a scary proposition none of us rises in the morning and says well today im going to do the same stupid things ive done for a long time and we will because there are often forces within us that are operating autonomously and thats what creates our patterns one obvious thing that struck me in dot interview that i mentioned with the b. B. C. 959 interview is how much vitality of curiosity even mischief c. G. Young child adventure a bull age of a few for you you dont see that kind of almost childlike authenticity much these days. What is it about our times that seems to d. Energize people sometimes because individually as you often argue we have more power more freedom done at any other point in history and yet so few people make distant use of it well thats exactly the point we live in a time of unparalleled pop prosperity at least in the western world for most people not for all of course but but your own was energized by something that was meaningful tory and thats why i was suggesting if what im doing is in accord with the reality of my my souls intent i have plenty of energy im im im charged with meaning. Im going to be 80 very shortly and i feel inside 30 my body feels 90 but my psyche feels 30 i look forward to the dialogue with my clients my patients i look forward to seeing whats coming up in their dreams and so forth i look forward to the changes in the goshi ations they have to make with the outer world and when that time changes i will have to change with it but for now its been energizing and purposeful so if what were doing is right for us our psychological Systems Support us and when what were doing is not in accord they oppose us what my fear is that young was able to. Retain this childlike authenticity precisely because he allowed go of his childhood defenses and his childhood complexes and you point out in the living between 2 worlds that the child is almost bound to interpret the insufficiency of his circumstance be the troubled Family Member or. Disadvantage social categories like raise Sexual Orientation gender etc as a statement on hes or her Inherent Force is that true cross culturally and Cross Generational mentally or is it primarily a western phenomenon the reason im asking is because i read somewhere that the dalai lama when he was asked about the crisis of selfworth in the west had major trouble understanding the concept is that primarily and western malady and by west i also include russia by the way well i think its fair to say and i have Great Respect for the dalai lama that hes operating out of a whole different understanding of self in the world and its one designed to manage anxiety and give him a sense of peace and detachment for most of us were thrown into this world and we find ourselves wrapped up and caught up in those conflicts of which you describe and yes its certainly true the child within us often governs our behaviors and our responses to people but underneath that again is a core nature that is seeking some sort of rapprochement some sort of accord with us our choices if i can align my choices with that inner life i will feel the purposefulness even thought my life is caught up in the world of conflict and so forth as a as a psychoanalyst i live in a world of suffering its not my egos choice to do that but i find that it is such a privilege an honor to share the journey of meaning and the journey of suffering with individuals its not something i would imagine as a child that i would ever do i want to be an airplane pilot or Something Like that but along the way my own psyche began to express itself and to say all right this is the this kind of conversation that you have with individuals is is what you find most meaningful other people will find. In other ways theres no single path but the point is can you find your path and can you also find a way to live that in the real world where you have to earn a living deal with your family and your children and people who need quite legitimately your your services well now the most stereotypical image of psychotherapy is lying on a therapists couch and blaming your parents or other adults for things that you did or couldnt do when is it helpful when is it understandable and when do we become our own abusers by nursing our traumas too much and still blaming it on others well i would say thats a misnomer i mean thats almost literally a cartoon these days. The question really is as faulkner said the past isnt dead its not even past we have to recognize that the stories and experiences and tapes and scripts that we received early on are still present and theyre still working were either servicing servicing them or were running from them so we can never ignore the past but were always focused really on the present what is spilling into the world through you wheres that coming from you what is driving us whats the hidden agenda here were really present oriented we dont lie on a couch and just read regress we try to say ok this happened yesterday at work what if that touching you what it that set off its far more interactive far more psychodynamic its not passive and finally if i may very quickly a few years ago i heard you say that c. G. Young remains under appreciated do you think thats still the case given the popularity of you tube preachers like Jordan Peterson who mansions young and almost every lecture some of which were viewed by millions of people carly young seems to be in vogue because they are not well more and more people are finding that young as discoveries. And his tools are able to their lives and thats a wonderful thing ive spent most of my last few decades in young education unfortunately the academy the teachers psychologists and the psychiatric world has no regard for young whatsoever theyre interested in external behaviors theyre interested in cognitive process and theyre interested in biological process all of which are true and important but you put them together you still dont have the human being what is missing there is that we are meaning seeking meaning suffering individual and unless we address the task of meaning we havent really touched the core of what it means to be a human being well dr halas its been a great pleasure great privilege for me to talk to you thank you very much for your time im pleased to be with you and thank you and thank you for watching see you again next sunday on a while to party. But. Hes gonna demystified so political space if you werent clear before like these folks are no better than us so you know i you know you can reach out to friends say you know take responsibility maybe run for office at the end of the day you know i dont see how we roll out a system where these people get away with you know misrepresenting us why not step up and do it yourself. The biggest stories of the week here on are to International Nations worldwide closed borders and to businesses and livelihoods suffer as the coronavirus is officially declared a pandemic. Stocks and Oil Prices Take a major hammering as severe travel restrictions are more widely imposed we look at the ramifications. And russia and turkey carry out their 1st joint patrols along a highway in syria and a move to prevent terrorist activity that may harm civilians

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