Change habitat destruction pollution species extinction loss of biodiversity the collapse of ecosystems all of these things are accelerated by our rapidly growing population growing up i never really was planning towards having kids but i think somewhere in my mind i always thought i was going to have kids that i was going to find a wife get married and having kids when i 1st met lonnie she kind of told me that having kids wasnt something that she was really that interested in you know i thought thats fine im good not having kids and 10 years later 14 years later you know to me it was one of the biggest decisions that weve made no regrets really really happy to be childfree by choice raising a child can be stressful so from from our standpoint i think another one of the plus side in our relationship we get to spend more time connecting with each other and i think. Thats you know for us its really important relationship i dont know necessarily that one relationship or one style of relationship is going to be better than the other because i think theres you know some people that have kids and that is their whole life and that actually brings people closer together but then on the same instance theres people who have kids and it kind of draws drives a wedge between them because they dont get to have that quality time together and thats something which they valued before they had kids and no doubt that any kid to have that now so this is timbo tim is our 3rd child he was found by my husband in a parking lot he was about 2 pounds skin and bones covered in fleas with a big hole and an abscess in one of his rear legs and so he scooped him up and we took him to the vet and he had emergency surgery he had a really rough 1st 10 weeks on the planet but its been pretty sweet ever sent. Currently you were actually living through the 6th mass extinction of species so we are currently driving species to extinction at a rate thats about a 1000 times faster than the natural background rate of extinction and a lot of people are unaware of this. 5 major mass extinctions obviously the last major mass extinction on the planet was the one that took out the dinosaurs right now were living through what they called the anthropocene in anthropocene translates to the age of man its where the human impact on our planet is so great that were actually changing the fossil record of our future so you know i try and reduce my Carbon Footprint as much as i can i drive an electric car the house that were sitting in the spared by solar were in and thats great and there are more and more people putting up solar panels than buying electric cars and going began and thats all good for the planet but as long as were still adding a 1000000000 people to the planet every 12 years i dont think that those adaptations are happening fast enough. Sound sumo who really know who. We see most of. The new. Shows this to. Where. The. The only. Pull you. Down. For. Me. Right back to you is about my dog marty at the time who passed away he made me think about family more than in this us will sense he was a bad technically labeled a bad dog we got go and had a great relationship together and he became very happy and became a totally different dog and i kind of learned what love could do for something for someone and that was was kind of has projected me to where i am today in my life and that song is probably my Favorite Song ive ever written the greatest love song i think i could ever write i mean were happy and thats the thing and again it goes back to that whole idea that theres no reason or more kids world i feel like bringing children of the world is suffering in the world and when you take things that are in need love them youre. No use them its Something Else that you need to give the love to we do our own thing we enjoy our lives he plays music 4 nights 5 nights out of the week we like to sleep 10 yeah thats really i wish to have thats really meant you dont spend money on things its very convenient not to have it so its a very small part of it but it is very convenient and the kids are very lucky my parents are amazing people its occurrence so will give me so much load they still give and so much that its amazing. And i really didnt have that i had more of like. People telling me my mom telling me my grandma telling me like i dont have kids is the biggest mistake you could make you know and that probably think a part of it you know. I feel like. My own grandmother my own mom everybody you know that was generations before us didnt have a choice and they were pressured into it it was like you had to grow up have babies there was no other there was no other option so im going to take full advantage of busy having a choice and not feeling like i have got to have kids or theres no other way its a privilege really to be able to not be shunned for having this choice i know a lot of people they would feel incomplete if they didnt have kids and they get pressure from family and. Just pressure from everyone around them because everyone else is having kids so theres still a lot of places mostly like smaller towns are more concerned of towns thats all going to have a lot of babies. I think theres some return all instinct in women because i definitely quince in a while like feel this need to lake. Hold the baby bird like you know that baby fever thing i feel like thats a pretty hormonal thing and its emotional thing and its not super realistic you know theres this feeling that like the only thing you do with your life what you leave behind is your your child and the predecessors and all that and i dont i dont agree with that i think. Again everything you do has an effect on the planet around you the world the people and not having kids for me i feel like a better suited for that i feel like i bring more george World Without having responsibilities that im not really feeling fit to take her or fit to deal with i feel. More time to write songs to make music. I do i think it makes a difference and i think theres this community right here among them that if you. Have some friends really kind of the overwhelming the way that they feel about when we get together on the agency and. Thats so worth it to me. Thats hurt like 10 months old we were at a canyon lands sort of about a year and a half in like 3 thats her mom karen this is when karens always came to live with me here in this house so it was 2 and a half from them. And they had lived here. For a half years now i do i do not have children i have never been married ive been single all my life im really not very relationship oriented i identify primarily as gay but even without like a sam not very relationship oriented and i just never felt very good about the idea of bringing children into the world because i didnt feel like things were in very good shape that a life was just going to be a lot of suffering for them d. N. A. Has made as very competitive by necessity thats just how species evolved in the strongest survive and oftentimes that involves unimaginable cruelty. I am sure that we need to stop it from continuing to grow because its like you put you. In a bath a warm water with a little bit of sugar and they just keep reproducing put it out alcohol and till they have polluted their environment so much that they die. Kind of sad that we dont have any control over our selves in our environment the. Store going to. Work in. My god i have taken care of since she was just a few hours old shes like the best thing that ever happened to me and my wife shes still a big part of my wife although she and her mother have gotten their own place to live. Life which was more planned always busy but you know after a few years of being here when they left that was a bittersweet moment bitter because you can become very attached to both of them my. First to. Be different. We have. Something new something in america something. To do all of these banks are complicit in. To do some serious. Ok lets see how we did. From that Money Laundering is highly illegal. As a record. In the very pain years since across america started 10 years i think its time to shake things up maybe change the branding maybe the format here is what ive been thinking about next season related episodes filmed on an island 10 experts fight it out for a trophy what do you think ok a more affordable option 25. 00 packs for. One red rose another suggestion geopolitical jeopardy parity no political cookout where we will literally wrote the elites. Late night show its a rare format these days and its cheap all you need is an old microphone in a printed banner. To leave me with one of my goals i can do this campbell after politics gone wild like music. Ok crosstalk is not about hype its about meaning 10 years of talk and still going strong. Peter if you want to change something why dont we get rid of the bow tie you know that is too much. Or used to ready before. That was weird. Would you were to her children i would not worry i dont in my childhood like me because in my childhood my mother my biological mother tried very very hard to be the best parent she could and to raise me to be the best person i could be and. I ended up not liking her and i dont like her as a person and. That and that fact has instilled a belief in me that even if i tried the hardest i possibly could to create. A nice individual. Foster. A valuable person to send out into the world. That they still would not. Like me as. Though. But all. We met in 2001 in the United States at work 1st. So its 17 years i decided not to have children when i was in my early foodies my q. E. Or didnt do the right we. My spiritual search continued and i wanted to have more time to change careers to find balance in life to find happiness and to find some spiritual answers for myself so i thought that paving the child would be an obstacle rather than help. These are all willing to just. Like you to. Go. I still love you of course. That is. The 3rd world but still a matter of survival a person must have many children in the order for some of them to take care of him or her one day old in a well developed world and a well developed country as there is a very good social support system so you would have your retirement the government will take care of you and you would be much about their own for the children you could retire earlier you would have more savings. It was so i think its a lifestyle and its very you dont sweat expensive to raise a child human states if you want to get a good indication its a list of 1000000. 00 and even. I think of the so that not to have children in my twentys when i realize that life was thought. That suffering in some form was a guarantee to everybody well happiness is not and just did not want to bring a new life into this world. I dont know that i regret it. We always have a thought that perhaps im missing out on something. And certainly my father says he thinks id be exceptional mother and me being exceptional parents but i think its harder today to not work as a. Because i think the cost of having some much but it was covered to be punished no part of course covert completely completely you know would you stay home and raise children potentially i think based on my experience working with children and the children that have a one parent home seem to be a lot more what better behaved better communicators just seems to be a little more balanced i think because they had a parent theyre highly involved long story short we just kind of kick the can down the road if you will you know maybe later later just never happened for us but whether it was careers or. Where weve had a lot of ups and downs with careers and pauses and unemployment or career changes and geographic location moves and kind of all those things just delay delay and next thing you know youre here in your upper fortys and youre in your happy with your spouse and where you are i would say that most of our friends if they dont have children whether theyre married or single most of them have dogs or cats for the most part dogs and we find that all of us think that our dogs are like our babysitter i do think people are as theres more and more people theres more more traffic theres more more congestion theres not as much opportunity to be out in open spaces and finding those things that i think really help us relax. For me its being with my dog its being outside every day and if theres less and less Natural Resources if we lose the National Parks if we lose those open spaces that i think are key to human balance i think you will see a lot more aggressive behaviors in irritability and impatience the more dense the world gets the more angry i think people get and thats unfortunate for me personally i. Regretted not. Children i think really you know have a good bond ourselves and were able to strengthen put time and energy into each other without having to. You know needing to protect children as well. My name is Laura Carroll and i have a masters in psychology and. Ive been writing nonfiction and researching the childfree choice and 2 books ive written related to that topic. And the 2nd one is called the baby. I dont have any regrets because its not having children has allowed me. In my life to create the life that i want and have the adventures that ive had the career that ive wanted to pursue i think ive been able to do so many more things i think than i would have been able to do if they really had been at the central focus of. The. Title is the fact or fiction childfree couples are happier than a couple of kids. Used to be. A big debate. There isnt one answer thats my. Asking the question why does find the child free choice so hard to accept that have led to my book the baby matrix and 2 assumptions and beliefs that Society Holds that judges the child free choice where where i landed was a set of believes that have been with us for generations and its collectively called. And listen just means the x. Saltation of parenthood. Motherhood birth and putting it on a pedestal and our society has been doing that you can go back to the roman times that its been pushed into our brains and our like our social and cultural hardware of what were supposed to be and supposed to do that people think these beliefs are true 3 powerful assumptions is if you dont have the desire to have children theres something wrong with you as a person theres something wrong with you psychologically something wrong with you in terms of you havent figured out your 1st specially for women your female identity somethings wrong there theres also the assumption that were biologically wired to want children theres absolutely no evidence to support that so there is of course evidence that we have biological processes going on if for pregnancy at the time of birth but no biological processes innately that create this somehow desire to have children and a 3rd powerful one is that by raising children thats when you find true fulfillment in life. Theyre all myths. In my research one thing i continue to notice is that theres pressure so its not so much a fear the childfree have as much as the experience from others who want them to do what they did so they others loved ones their family members they can put different kinds of pressure on a childfree couples for example to make them feel guilty for not bringing grand kids onto the sea not doing what they did so that they will have a bond of even closer bond because they will have this thing called parenthood when i was researching the baby matrix i looked at the issue of what if youre old and you have no children will you be old and lonely what will life. And what ive found from reading what has already been study is what people find in their golden years or their elder years in terms of their well being whats most important that helps them have a positive well being is that they are financially secure so that when theyre retired they basically have enough money to live and also that their partner is alive so it didnt really rest on. Depending on their children for them to be happier in their older years. I decided to change my mind to try to become a mother for a number of reasons of course one reason it was a lot of pressure from it was also. Really one. Major change in my life. I started feeling she would want to be at least one good reason for me to create another school in this world into this world. To me im. A person so to speak a new generation i wanted to raise my child just from the mainstream i wanted to be. Parents. And i wanted to share with my child only spiritual things. Me and my husband. And why they see each with a lot of struggle i want to share this information with my child. Or. I think. Thats very special actually thats unusual decoration and creates previously i used to leave mostly for myself and now i get the chance to you to the child to give advice to give. My wife. Im going to be through with you just to get. To help people so i came to this world to be useful. Because taking care of her and provided for the family. With me because. Of a lot of happiness and lots of fun. There is. Much more loft in our house right now when we left at once shes the most precious thing ever and. Yes i feel the same. During the Great Depression which are old enough to remember that it was most of the family were unemployed working. There wasnt it was bed you know much worse objectively today but there was an expectation of the things were going to get better. There was a real sense of hopefulness there isnt today todays america was shaped by the turn principles of concentration of wealth and power. Reduced democracy attack so low down to engineer elections manufacture consent and other principles according to no on. One set of rules for the rich opposite. Thats what happens when you put her into the. Narrow sector of will switch is dedicated to increasing power for chills just as youd expect one of the most influential intellectuals of our time speaks about the modern civilization of america. The barbarians the vandals of wall street are now actively plundering your bank account with a negative interest in astronomy canonic policy there and theres no economics behind it that would cue to any school of economics that has ever existed as dr michael has said since the bronze age its just out right barbarianism. Im. Going to give you. Just a day or moscow in some of the top stories the last. United states could potentially be smuggling tons of weapons and ammunition that ends up with militants in the middle east according to leaked documents obtained by a bulgarian journalist i. Dont think they are. Britains Prime Minister had a turbulent week suffering a string of humiliating defeat deal to the gender of parliament. By minister should simply follow his could
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