Sexual violence. I mean men lend how 3 pounds. Now all around the world the club in 1000 crisis caused a dramatic increase in Domestic Abuse cases in south africa however when these claimed that reported cases fell substantially some link this to the countrys ban on arkell lets take a deeper look. Alexandra outside johannesburg for activists from gun free south africa a lobby in full fuel fire on and ill call sales around 7 women each day in south africa and femicide violence against women has been declared a National Crisis the ban on alcohol has made the streets safer believes mary im not there live and i just alcohol doesnt make people do things it gives them the courage to do things and i think a lot of people can agree with that the 3 of us when we were walking down to the school we didnt know a bunch of men and they didnt even look at us funny or make us feel uncomfortable and so i think those are the type of changes that i hear and i think especially for young women thats something weve been longing to see in response to the coke at 19 pandemic the government totally banned alcohol sales reported crime rates fell Domestic Violence dropped significantly went down by 70 percent as did Emergency Hospital admissions however helplines reports at the offices there has been an explosion in coal seeking help regarding gender based violence and alcohol abuse is a huge problem in south africa. We thank you terry and this time im going to. The controversial gabala church in southern johannesburg is comprised of an old those who claim drinking is a sacred activity we are losing and the good lord knows that we have you ever found our lives 2nd time and oh no we dont want everyone. Pulling in cool being an informal bomb and does not believe ill call abuse drives violence in south africa. Before. I dont believe its because of. If someone is planning to do something. And. I dont know why we. Only. See. How coal sales of big business in south africa the local industry claims 117000 jobs trouble ready been lost due to the fact entrepreneur. Is south africas 1st black female brewery oh no shes invested about a 1000000 euros into her machinery limiting the industry will not sold south africas social ills. It is something coming out of the lock down that is an industry where we need to spend more effort on educate people more about the dangers of abuse and promote great drinking you know which would. Would would minimize some of this which are essentially. While the gun free south africa activists dont support a total ban on alcohol they certainly welcome restrictions on liquor sales. I think the genie is just bringing a change and making us more comfortable making us feel more safe making us feel like i can actually really. Well and alcohol than may have affected Violent Crime statistics many remain skeptical of whether these numbers reflect the actual reality of violence against women in south africa. Sadly violence against women is widespread in many african societies on our Facebook Page d. W. Africa we asked you guys to tell us how deep the sexual on gender based violence is rooted in your society now lets go check out some of these comments my re louise from konar creek says the authorities are trying their best to fight such crimes but social pressure and prejudice often defeats families who prefer to keep quiet or drop the charges of a comment from laos she from nigeria says the rip culture in nigeria has been treated for too long its evolution against women and Law Enforcement must do more to end these atrocities thank you guys for sharing your thoughts with us i nigeria where men have had enough and we sent a wave of sexual on the gender based violence against young women let to protest again on the streets and via social media in our street debate reporter can money talks to activist in nigerias capital abuja about how social media can be used to fight sexual violence. In the me too Movement Began online it started what cannot and will not be stopped a conversation about sexual and gender based violence that movement mushroomed across many parts of the world including right here in nigeria well today raina bludger and were trying to find out just how effective is social media in the fight against sexual and gender based violence and you know who i want to begin with a lady who actually started a movement here called out on me to our own meaning the northen part of nigeria for korea how did it feel when you started this hashed out what inspired you to do it and what was the impact immediately a young girl. Came on twitter and she opened up about her experience of abuse 2 years ago and for me it was just a tweet made out of solidarity but i didnt know it was going to open up you know a can of worms because what it turned out to be was that people found a safe space in the hash tag so this is sort of the work that youre doing in the north looking at investigating but to clearly gender roles to what effect has cultural contributed to what were hearing here we have this culture of shyness you know its kind of like get it in things you dont talk about they feel like its immoral to talk about sex talk about you know how to handle yourself how to protect yourselves i was in Rural Communities and communities so i used to believe that you know those people because they dont have access to education thats why you know the victims of this but then dario i mean to Movement Just open my eyes to the fact that even the most educated of us in the society also going through the same things so lets take a step back youre saying that social media opened up the voices of the people who are otherwise silenced mario is very popular now in the global scene she was arrested because of her campaign especially because of the so how bad is a problem people are willing to go above and beyond to silence those who dare to you know rebel to change the norm so theres a lot of danger i guess in doing that personal and otherwise apart from the online attacks who you know that are just never ending death threats. So yeah you know you could get arrested while the rapist may not you there are people there in a panic get raped who rush rush into a Police Station and the kind of reception they get you know its its another form of trauma right i was in a Police Station with minors who were raped and the police said she was a suspect and they were dragging her telling her to take of her shoes and they were going to put her in solitary confinement if i get raped god forbid theres no way im going to go to the Police Stations id rather come on social media so obviously by no standards does it sound ok and i was reading that right here you know there were women who were collected taken to Police Station on suspicion of being prostitutes and some of them came out with stories of being raped and your Police Superintendent said well women are not supposed to be out in the streets anyway how are women supposed to trust you when this sort of behavior has been perpetuated by police officers. Yeah. Weve had. Several complaints right now we have agenda desk they have been going for special training how to receive such cases but. Now lets go back to. Even to social media. Because. Maybe 14 being raped by these 3 men who does she go to she does of social media exists so she goes home price to home doesnt force present. Wife. To get married if you do that its about you she just keeps quite even if you talk to. Any confirmations of people whove been arrested whove lost their jobs as a result of this movement the person that i outed as a rapist got you know sacked from his job as far as im concerned that is a consequence that you cannot go anywhere that men are being forced to say oh my god im hanging out with this girl today im i going to. Up to a hash tag im i going to be unable to show my face in the mosque and that is a consequence that has to start somewhere but obviously there are limitations to social media and id like to hear from a gentleman because i often hear men see that theyre now scared what happens if a woman makes an allegation about him online and theres no evidence to support it i guess some people do feel that because of the lifestyles they lead because of gray areas and consent and how we communicate it sometimes they do feel that through it i suppose but speaking about the limitations of social media so that some people in society here believe that social media is not to be trusted the internet is genuinely a space to be treated with some level of course i want to come to the office of because this challenge is directly affect your work you know when somebody comes and says this is the claim that i made how do you go about collecting evidence when the situation has started online thats why i wanted to mention to them the movement is ok but i would advise they get a lawyer you mean to tell me that if i come to a Police Station and i tell you that my husband has beat me up youll send me to find a lawyer yeah i would invite a husband is that it is it a one time affair why should that matter thats what we said back to cultural like it or not when one juror look at me straight im trying to accomplish from him he sees. Hope thats how i want a part right so we believe no we have to hear from him. And see if evidence is a weakness in everything we can work on. The social media not everything brought out there is actually true so as a rule of thumb you do not believe the victim unless theyre witnesses and often gender based violence happens in isolation they usually no witnesses any kind of crime the 1st one is the confessional the 1st one everyone we have to go around and find out how and why when and we are ok i really want to talk about solutions what needs to be done even from 2 went down to an individuals level. So the conversation as sure as the limitations of social media which is that we can highlight a problem but you need systems to prosecute but when people know that when big commit a crime they can get away with it because prosecution rates are really low so you understand that this is a reflection of a broken system we have to be able to you know understand the gaps that exist in our society and beyond awareness and you know beyond the laws they need to be implemented for them to work thank you so much i have to admit that it has been very tough very very tough the things that was said here were not expected but im glad that were winding up to the sound of the maghreb in the background hopefully the prayers will cleanse over our societies so that we can speak of something much lighter and much better thank you for watching from a buddha. A well that was definitely an intense and revealing debate thanks to all the brave women for speaking out on sharing their personal stories with us now if you want to watch the longer version of the debates just visit you tube channel were men. Support for this culture of silence so its our duty to help break the cycle we must encourage victims of rape to report crimes and seek justice so criminals can be convicted now if youve been a reef victim and wondering how to deal with it and breed we our very own sex and relationship expert scouts has some advice for you. Hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything sex and relationships for those of you that have been following us and sending us in your email thumbs up to you remember if you have a question please feel free to send us an email at the email address provided below todays episode is a little bit sensitive and i do urge that if you do want to share your opinion please be kind and sensitive our email today comes from lola and it reads cat as i write this email with tears in my eyes as i have no idea what to do about a year ago i went to a party with some friends we had a few too many drinks and i vaguely remember one of my close guy friends trying to take advantage of my situation cut to the next morning i wake up and hes sleeping next to me theres blood on the sheets and im sure he took advantage of me as i slept. I did nothing about it at the time but its eating me now and i want him to pay for causing so much trauma in my life this year what should i do its these conversations that cause me so much anger and grief and i really hate that its something that you have to deal with conversations around consent are still going over the heads of so many men and its disgusting do better but anyway lets focus on you so 1st things 1st youre going to have to report it at the Police Station closest to where the incident happened in kenya for example there are spaces that are run by women inside the Police Station that are created specifically to make women feel safe your next step is to contact a lawyer who specifically deals with gender based violence if you google some of the law firms in your area you should be able to find somebody who is even willing to take your case on pro bono your lawyer will then advise you on the best way forward keep in mind youre going to have to keep recounting this incident over and over so i urge muster all the courage that you can because youre going to need it for this phase which brings me to my next point therapy its so easy for us to get lost in the myriad of thoughts that could be unsafe and even cause harm you need an unbiased voice of reason thats going to guide you through this difficult time especially if you feel it might get too much a professional is a perfect person to create support and safety and you are doing great your courage is helping so many people who are going through similar situation we wish you the best Going Forward and know this we support you and we stand by you and finally a warning to the perpetrators of these heinous crimes rape is about power and control and is never justifiable under any circumstances you will be found and justice will be served stop raping women stop sexually abusing women lets make this world a better place and dont be a part of the problem from me kaz. Thank you cause for useful information. To help make this world a better place now talking about the rule of men lets take you to where some men are heading back to school other subjects its not about School Grades its about how to become a better husband. These 2 men find themselves in a school class once again but this time its a little different this is a has been. Just teaches the men how to become better husbands today and one of the subject to domestic grit and violence is not only to be in sierra leone just of p. D. s motivation to run this has been sweet is a very possible. Why one was for it he said of the. Support. To. The off. Limits had that he was volunteered because of. Course on how to become a good has been takes about half a year with 3 sessions per month and the message seems to get across. No. Mistakes. In. The 1st session and just have pedia direct a role playing session the idea men put themselves in their wives shoes around 200000 women were victims of gender based violence during sera leon civil war from 1900 to 2002 in 29 to president model below declared read a National Emergency after a young girl became paralyzed after being raped idiot believes the mens behavior is a consequence of this countrys violent past. Thats. Took him somebody is in mine. But do classes like these actually affect the relationships in families. But in the has been strong 2 years ago. This woman and i used to. Parents i used to brave the children of food i had had them at the time i joined the school training. Has been school hadnt come here my husband would still use violence against me and. Im like cities these limited access to radio stations newspapers or television improvements. In state information finds its way through engaging directly the community. The mindset. Which i do believe that its possible for all values and we are talking about. The. Big young. Man we live in the community we have from and. So. Forth to has been. Believes changing the mindset of future generations with changing the mindset of mind. Schools dedicated to making men better. I think thats a beautiful concept because clearly most men do not understand the huge responsibility it is to be we have to learn to be better. Now that im sure has settled in there i want to introduce you to had dryly at the age of 5 she and her family left her hometown highgate and moved to canada but cabrera always knew one day she would return home and she did as a manager of high in some money lands capital. Is empowering women and young entrepreneurs. My name is ali i was born here. And i left here when i was 5 years old. By the time we left we were told like dont forget where you come from the only kind of temporary going to come back. So i was one of those kids who would have been my vision board right. Going to go back and do great things there i always kind of knew thats what im. When i was in canada i remember growing up having multiple identities being muslim being so all the being female and the spaces that i was entering whether it was the mosque. The school or just that whole i felt like each one of those spaces kind of. Didnt consider my experience few years ago saw impact and so this was kind of my dream i was really interested in what they were doing and whats a few conferences have certain expectations where before it was this is where youre from your carrier and i really got passionate about space. On the how to manage her head. Against the earth and from the start. To look out of our Digital Design Academy this is the location young people get to learn physical Design Skills like Graphic Design Motion Graphics and coding were happy to host them in this space i mean this space was really with them in mind im so phil and this kind of role working. Working. In a hub like best where its so dynamic i feel like i can never get bored i love that connecting to so many factors in terms of like creating more employment giving more attention and access to finance to having a fun especially for young women and i know i often get the you need the space a lot of people are more encouraged by that and unfortunately good policies are an environment that really does work for. What i would advise anyone who is interesting. Returning back to their country is be open minded and all that hard work youre putting over there you can put it into here and see it 10 times i believe. What im inspiring story i think its always great to have members of the diaspora investing in developmental projects. But hey guys sadly were already come to the end of the show but hey lets keep the fight for Women Empowerment going you can hit me up on twitter eddie mike or just send a mail to 77 d. W. Dot com its always lovely to hear from you and it seems only fitting to end this episode with the powerful female voice maybe a single songwriter shani it has song minority she pleads for equal rights for all people regardless of religion gender sexuality or skin color goodbye for me but over to you society. Many. Dont treat them of mine for. You big youll be lucky to get a little bit in the moon. But. They believe the man with the me want to eat only through a big boom and maybe maybe you can change the way up be looking. At me look at me tell me what. Borne illness seem. To be. Better but isnt bad for our health. 5 telecoms technology. So how does it differ from other pleasure. 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