Now all around the weald the cobe in 1000 crisis caused a dramatic increase in Domestic Abuse cases in south africa however these claimed that reported cases fell substantially some have link this to the countrys ban on alcohol lets take a deeper look. You know alexandra outside john as the 4 activists from gun free south africa lobby in full fuel fire on and ill call sales around 7 women each day in south africa and femicide violence against women has been declared a National Crisis the ban on alcohol has made the streets safer believes mariam something and i can alcohol doesnt make people do things it gives them the courage to do things and i think a lot of people can agree with that the 3 of us when we were walking down to the school we didnt know a bunch of men and they didnt even look at us funny and make us feel uncomfortable and so i think those are the type of changes that i hear and i think especially for young women thats something weve been longing to see in response to the cold but 19 pandemic the government totally banned alcohol sales reports of crime rates fell Domestic Violence dropped significantly went down by 70 percent as did Emergency Hospital admissions however helplines reports of the officers there has been an explosion in coal seeking help regarding gender based violence and alcohol abuse is a huge problem in south africa. We thank you ted this time im going to. The controversial golf ball a church in southern johannesburg is comprised of an old those who claim drinking is a sacred activity we are using and it. Knows that we have you ever i want to hold a 2nd time and im going to go to the im going to run. Pulling im cool being an informal bomb and does not believe alcohol abuse drives violence in south africa. That. I dont believe its because of. If someone is planning to do something. I dont know why because. You are only. Making in. Some. Alcohol sales of big business in south africa the local industry claims 117000 jobs have already been lost due to the fact entrepreneur. Is south africas 1st black female brewery oh no shes invested about a 1000000 euros into her machinery limiting the industry will not sold south africas social ills. To get something coming out of the lock down that is an industry where we need to spend more effort on educate people more about the dangers of going abuse and promote more moderate drinking you know which would. Would would minimize some of the social ease that we have. While the gun free south africa activists dont support a total ban on alcohol they certainly welcome restrictions on liquor sales. I think the training is just beginning to change and making us more comfortable making us feel more safe making us feel like i can actually really. Well and alcohol ban may have affected Violent Crime statistics many remain skeptical of whether these numbers reflect the actual reality of violence against women in south africa. Sadly violence against women is widespread in many african societies on our Facebook Page d. W. Africa we asked you guys to tell us how deeply sexual on gender based violence is rooted in your society now lets go check out some of these comments my re louise from cannot create says the authorities are trying their best to fight such crimes but social pressure and prejudice often defeats families who prefer to keep quiet or drop the charges of a comment from laos she from nigeria says the rip culture in nigeria has been treated for too long its evolution against women and Law Enforcement must do more to end these atrocities thank you guys for sharing your thoughts with us i nigeria women have had enough and we sent a wave of sexual on the gender based violence against young women lead to protest again on the streets and via social media in our street debate reporter needed to money talks to activist in nigerias capital abuja about how social media can be used to fight sexual violence. When the mitsu Movement Began online it started what cannot and will not be stopped a conversation about sexual and gender based violence that movement mushroomed across many parts of the world including right here in nigeria well today raina bludger and were trying to find out just how effective is social media in the fight against sexual and gender based violence and you know john i want to begin with the lady who actually started a movement here called out on me to our own meaning the northen part of nigeria for korea how did it feel when you started this hashed out what inspired you to do it and what was the impact immediately a young girl. Came on twitter and she she opened up about her experience of abuse 2 years ago and for me it was just a tweet made out of solidarity but i didnt know it was going to open up you know a can of worms because what it turned out to be was that people found a safe space in the hash tag so this is sort of the work that youre doing in the north looking at investigating but to clearly gender rules to what effect has cultural contributed to what were hearing here we have this culture of shyness you know its kind of like yes it in things you dont talk about we feel like its immoral to talk about sex to talk about you know how to handle yourself how to protect yourself in Rural Communities and communities so i used to believe that you know those people because they dont have access to education thats why you know the victims of this but then dario i mean to Movement Just open my eyes to the fact that even the most educated of us in the society also going through the same things so lets take a step back youre saying that social media opened up the voices of the people who are otherwise silenced mariyam away so is very popular now in the global scene she was arrested because of her campaign especially because of the so how bad is a problem people are willing to go above and beyond to silence those who dare to you know rebel to change the norm so theres a lot of danger i guess in doing that personal and otherwise apart from the online attacks who you know that are just never ending death threats. So yeah you know you could get arrested the rapist why not there are people there in a panic get raped who rush rush into a Police Station and the kind of reception they get you know its its another form of trauma right i was in a Police Station with minors who were raped and the police said she was a suspect and they were dragging her telling her to take of her shoes and they were going to put her in solitary confinement if i get raped god forbid theres no way im going to go to the Police Station and id rather come on social media so obviously by no standards does it sound ok and i was reading that right here you know there were women who were collected taken to put up Police Station on suspicion of being prostitutes and some of them came out with stories of being raped and your Police Superintendent said well women are not supposed to be out in the streets anyway how are women supposed to trust you when this sort of behavior has been perpetuated by police officers. Yeah. Weve had. Several complaints right now we have agenda desk they have been going for special training how to receive such cases but. Now lets go back to the. Even to social media wont help because. Maybe 14. Who does she go to she does have a mood social media exists so she goes home price to home present. This. Youre about to get married if you do that its about you she just keeps quite even if you talk to. Any confirmations of people whove been arrested whove lost their jobs as a result of this movement the person that i outed as a rapist got you know sacked from his job as far as im concerned that is a consequence that you cannot go anywhere that men are being forced to say oh my god im hanging out with this girl today im i going to. Up to a hash tag im i going to be unable to show my face in the mosque and that is a consequence that has to start somewhere but obviously there are limitations to social media and id like to hear from a gentleman because i often hear men see that theyre now scared what happens if a woman makes an allegation about him online and theres no evidence to support it i guess some people do feel that because of the lifestyles they lead because of gray areas and constant and how we communicated sometimes they do feel that through it i suppose but speaking about the limitations of social media so that some people in society here believe that social media is not to be trusted the internet is genuinely a space to be treated with some level of course i want to come to the office of because this challenge is directly affect your work you know when somebody comes and says this is the claim that i made how do you go about collecting evidence when the situation has started online thats why i wanted to mention to them movement is ok but i would advise they get a lawyer you mean to tell me that if i come to a Police Station and i tell you that my husband has beat me up youll send me to find a lawyer yeah i would invite a husband is that it is it a one time affair why should that matter thats what we said back to cultural we like it or not when they look at me straight im trying to accomplish from him he sees. Hope thats what i want to put right so we believe no we have to hear from him. And see if there are evidences weaknesses on everything we can work on thats why i want to understand the social media not everything its brought out is actually true so as a rule of thumb you do not believe the victim unless theyre witnesses and often gender based violence happens in isolation they usually no witnesses on any kind of crime the 1st one is the confessional the 1st one everyone we have to go around and find out how and why when and we ok i really want to talk about solutions what needs to be done even from 20 down to an individuals level. So the conversation as sure as the limitations of social media which is that we can highlight a problem but you need systems to prosecute but when people know that when big commit a crime they can get away with it because prosecution rates are really low so you understand that this is a reflection of a broken system we have to be able to you know understand the gaps that exist in our society and beyond awareness and you know beyond the laws they need to be implemented for them to work thank you so much i have to admit that it has been very tough very very tough the things that was said here were not expected but im glad that were winding up to the sound of the maghreb in the background hopefully the prayers will cleanse over our societies so that we can speak of something much lighter and much better thank you for watching from a buddha. A well that was definitely an intense and revealing debate thanks to all the brave women for speaking out and sharing their personal stories with us now if you want to watch the longer version of the debates just press that you tube channel we amend our response. Support for this culture of silence so its our duty to help break the cycle we must encourage victims of rape to report crimes and seek justice so criminals can be convicted now if youve been a reef victim and wondering how to deal with it and breed we our very own sex relationship experts cows has some advice for you. Hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything sex and relationships for those of you that have been following us and sending us in your email firms up to you remember if you have a question please feel free to send us an email at the email address provided below todays episode is a little bit sensitive and i do urge that if you do want to share your opinion please be kind and sensitive our email today comes from lola and it reads cat as i write this email with tears in my eyes as i have no idea what to do about a year ago i went to a party with some friends we had a few too many drinks and i vaguely remember one of my close guy friends trying to take advantage of my situation cut to the next morning i wake up and hes sleeping next to me theres blood on the sheets and im sure he took advantage of me as i slept. I did nothing about it at the time but its eating me now and i want him to pay for causing so much trauma in my life this year what should i do its these conversations that cause me so much anger and grief and i really hate that its something that you have to deal with conversations around consent are still going over the heads of so many men its disgusting do better but anyway lets focus on you so 1st things 1st youre going to have to report it at the Police Station closest to where the incident happened in kenya for example there are spaces that are run by women inside the Police Station that are created specifically to make women feel safe your next step is to contact a lawyer who specifically deals with gender based violence if you google some of the law firms in your area you should be able to find somebody who is even willing to take your case on pro bono your lawyer will then advise you on the best way forward keep in mind youre going to have to keep recounting this incident over and over so i urge muster all the courage that you can because youre going to need it for this phase which brings me to my next point therapy its so easy for us to get lost in the myriad of thoughts that could be unsafe and even cause harm you need an unbiased voice of reason thats going to guide you through this difficult time especially if you feel it might get too much a professional is the perfect person to create support and safety and you are doing great your courage is helping so many people who are going through similar situation we wish you the best Going Forward and know this we support you and we stand by you and finally a warning to the perpetrators of these heinous crimes rape is about power and control and is never justifiable under any circumstances you will be found and justice will be served stop raping women stop sexually abusing women lets make this world a better place and dont be a part of the problem from me kaz. Thank you cause for useful information. To help make this world a better place now talking about the rule of men lets take you to where some men are heading back to school but the subject is not about School Grades its about how to become a better husband. These 2 men find themselves in a school class once again but this time its a little different this is a has been school. Teaches the men how to become better husbands together while the subject to domestic grip and violence is not only to be in sierra leone just a few d. S. Motivation to run this has been sweet its a very personal. Why so one was ripped he said of the. Support. To. The all around. Limmy had that he was volunteered because of all. The course on how to become a good has been takes about half a year with 3 sessions per month and the message seems to get across. No. Mistakes. In. The 1st session and just of pedia direct a role playing session the idea men put themselves in their wives shoes around 200000 women were victims of gender based violence during Syrian Civil War from 1009 to want to 2002 in 2019 president martyr bill declared read a National Emergency after a young girl became paralyzed after being raped the deer believes the mens behavior is a consequence of these countries violent past. Thats. Are you sure that somebody took you somebody else in mind. But do classes like these actually affect the relationships in families. But in the has been strong 2 years ago. While. This woman and i used to. Parents i used to brave the children of food i had had them at the time i joined the school training. Has been school hadnt come here my husband would still use violence against me and. Im like cities these limited access to radio stations newspapers or television improvements. In state information finds its way through engaging directly with the community. The mindset. Which i do believe that its possible for all values and we are talking about. Big young man we need in the Community Free from. This. 42 has been. Believes changing the mindset of future generations with changing the mindset of a single mind. Schools dedicated to making men better. I think thats a beautiful concept because clearly what men do not understand the huge responsibility it is to be we have to learn to be better. Now that im sure has settled in there i want to introduce you to cab driver lee at the age of 5 she and her family left her hometown hog asia and moved to canada but condra always knew one day she would return home and she did as a manager of ha ha in somaliland capital gave her cab driver is empowering women and young entrepreneurs this. My name is ali i was born here and had a gay son and i left here when i was 5 years old. The time we left we were told like dont forget where we come from the only kind of temporary you going to come back and so i was one of those kids who would get my vision board right like. Going to go back and do great things there i always kind of knew thats what id do. When i was in canada i remember growing up having multiple identities being muslim being so all the being female and the spaces that i was entering whether it was the mosque the message the school or just that whole i felt like each one of those spaces kind of. Didnt consider my experience few years ago i saw impact and so this is kind of my dream i was really interested in what they were doing and went to conferences have certain expectations where before it was this is where youre from your carious and i really got passionate about space. To help manage her head. And face the 1st. Started. To look for grounds a lot of our Digital Design Academy was in the location young people get to learn physical Design Skills like Graphic Design Motion Graphics and coding were happy to host them in the space i mean the space was really with them in mind im so fulfill this kind of role working. Working. In a hub like best where its so dynamic never get bored i love that connecting to so many factors in times like creating more employment giving more attention and access to finance to having a fun especially for young women and i know i often get. A lot of people are more encouraged by that and im hoping i will create policies or an environment that really does work for. What i would advise anyone who is interesting. Returning back to their country is the open minded and all that hard work youre putting it into here and. I believe that. What im inspiring story i think its always great to have members of the diaspora investing in development projects. But hey guys sadly weve already come today and off the show but hey lets keep the fight for Women Empowerment going you can hit me up on twitter at the mike or just send a mail to 77 d. W. Dot com its always lovely to hear from you and it seems only fitting to end this episode with the powerful female voice let me be a single songwriter shani it has song minority she pleads for equal rights for all people regardless of religion gender sexuality or skin color goodbye for me but over to you society. Many. Treatment for. The big will be love me again. But be. Done with me wanna be. A big disappointment maybe maybe you can change the way below. Me look at me tell me what. Seems. To. Be. Landed in the blood. In latin america silver and letter dumping ground to every. Piece of Mining Operations are taking a heavy toll among russia some even pay in return while. Those. Long as International Demand for resources future rises south americas mining boom will continue. In 15 minutes on d. W. 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