who did your lips. she said, nobody. these are my lips. we talk about how white people in suburbs who have not been exposed to color ask those questions because they have had no interaction with people different from themselves, and to be patient but correct them. >> interesting part of the solution or part of the process for vocabulary was being with your husband's family and extended african-american community. i wonder if that's part of the distinction between parenting black children who are adoptees versus children in the context of interracial relationship. my mom sent me a text about my dad who is african-american. your dad used to freak my out so much about whether you were eating watermelon in public, so turned it into melon balls. he had angst in the south, stereotyping. consistent relationship and communication with an