becomes an introvert. because naturally, asking for advice is a humbling aspect. >> so you have some pointers for us that when we ask for advice, we can actually intervene on ourselves to do a better job. >> try to watch yourself while listening. second is you're rarely 100% speaking. stop talking and start really right all the time about a given subject. if you don't know the answer to a question someone is asking, don't be afraid to say, i don't know. i'm not sure. please ask somebody else. >> oh, my gosh, you never do that or you always do this. >> the famous therapist says avoid musts, shoulds, have tos. they'll always get you in trouble. and show that you actually care. when you care about someone, you don't preach to them, you don't mer memorialize, you don't