You saw that document for the 1st story we listen to after world war saying your europeans go build you know at the stage of you we will not be with you we meet with global news makers and talk about the stories that matter just 0. With its tropical climate Natural Beauty and traditional culture thailand has long been a popular tourist destination. But now theres another reason drawing people here a Quiet Revolution in caring for the elderly the care system for elderly people in europe its not working anymore and its going to be a big big problem. In the west Horror Stories of abuse and neglect in care homes not to mention rising costs are driving families to look for alternatives forcing many to make difficult decisions i thought they were letters from School Friends of of my wife telling me im an idiot to bring her to dispose her here and turn your body. One no one east follows those who send their loved ones across the world for their final years. Yet not. Sure if. Its been a year since walter glore saw his wife. He and his daughter tania have flown more than 13 hours from their home in switzerland to see her but its a bittersweet reunion my is not sure who they are. We all have that this is bruce idea right yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah well yeah yeah yeah i know. d d d d d d why i was just 50 and running a michelin starred restaurant with her husband when she was diagnosed with alzheimers 9 years ago d d it was devastating for the family she knew. Whats whats coming and she was crying every morning. And one morning i remember i said to my oh no i promise you want to sing i would always do the best for you or worse for me not for anybody else just for you and she was kissing me on saying thank you so much. That she scared were you scared i will scared she was. My as home is now a villa at the bon cam one child aged care center in Chiang Mai Thailand her family brought her here 2 years ago when it became apparent she needed 24 hour to hand them rent them again it came with the simple ok you know you know your history. But this is going on for 10 years and it is slowly. Taking her apart from me slowly slowly this is like you know saying goodbye in slow motion. And thats just the hard thing about the disease now for us its worse in the beginning it was bad for her very bad for her because she realized that what happened but now wolf is false its false its very hard. To know about you know how you know mother. You know is what will. Your hobby still hope. Walter says bringing my eye here was the best option for her but back in switzerland not everyone agrees well i got the wrong letters from School Friends of of my wife telling me im an idiot to bring her to dispose her here to dispose her yeah. Well its its not nice if theyd just people dont know anything to have never even looked for half an hour in the internet what really happened results of operations and of course lots of people told and he brings her to thailand. You know get rid of her whatever the main reason was where is the best place for my own and we all agreed this is this place here we couldnt find anything by that so. I think she deserves to be the best place in the world. And not. Want to get married even in is also a long way from home here again from that meeting yes on how long. Were going to be looking for even going up im very very luck america oh ive been on things in the america that you know that. You want to. Say youre likely. To feel. Unsure of where she is and able to remember where shes been mary is also destined to live out her days in northern thailand cared for 24 hours a day 7 days a week to date shes visiting a local part of fly part of it at the nothing you can do. To get out of hand i want to go home. Mary suffers from dementia her family brought her here from the u. K. Almost 3 years ago we wanted about the gas. You know we have to get keys to all the neighbors in case she got locked out of the house which happened a few times that she you know yeah she got like i should change she would and should go out in the evenings with you know in a 90 a couple times and you know luckily the neighbors found her on board back into the house you know if you got her son michael and daughter in law emily looked at care homes in the u. K. We did take it to a cat home and sorry to have a look at a stream a nice high end facility but it was a facility. It was like a hospital ward the rooms were very nice but they were small and there was a whole hospital beds. You know how could a hospital signs up the exit signs you know you have that feeling the smell of of detergent. And a couple of gas asked us if you could help them leave. They feared me or you wouldnt survive in such a scale environment then they heard about a kid resort in thailand. What was marys reaction when you brought up the fact that perhaps going to thailand of course since we mentioned. Face and we showed her the pictures and the resorts and she has interesting features excited. Mary might now be far away but michael makes sure shes not forgotten so this is the picture of the day that granny arrived in england. From the middle east on the boat born in palestine the daughter of a british soldier mary later met and married an army officer herself she lived all over the world cyprus malaya singapore hong kong so she really had this international upbringing she did you know i think that helped shape you know she needed to be someone that could go into a new school into a new community and sort of integrate very quickly. You know shes used to living in different parts will. Today im visiting mary at her new home care resort chiangmai. Her villa is next to one of the 2 swimming pools. That you sit down you know you. Go on. With looked at but if you want to be careful mary will come on come on. If only that from. A photo of her family sent is filled with pages of a life that is lost to her. Was that for this. Is. My. Look at this tweet that. She has for dedicated carers who work rotating shifts around the clock ensuring she is never left alone i heard that you were a good dancer. Your son told me. This. But. I cant remember not to remember. But. The care was all that they were mockable i mean they yeah you know theyre like her daughters and i think she has more comfort and pleasure from their presence than ours i think we stress around you know shes supposed to remember things about us but she does that mean stresses. So its a 45 minute drive there one hour drive by peter brown is a british hotelier who bought this Holiday Resort 11 years ago. It was appalled before he transformed part of it into a Dementia Care facility after realizing how badly his mother was looked after back home in the u. K. I went to visit my mother in an english care issue within 15 minutes id called the ambulance. 3 months what happened she got cancer of the throat. She was dying in a carriage or. Im not going to go to that one place the same philosophy of not enough. Catch stuff after 6 oclock at night no question youre on your own if you have trouble for god. I personally believe that care helps people have a better life its not about how long youre going to live its how much you can enjoy your god. If you take a disease like dementia you probably got at least 8 years to live so it becomes quite important quite enjoyable not locked in a room treated like a child. Ok this one opened your hand. So i want you to do things a little bit differently i couldnt do what i want to do in the u. K. Because of the cost of stuffing so tom daschle advantage of being cheap and also to advantage of the ation respect for the elderly makes a big difference here is how we get. 6 weeks after building into the same resort its already making a huge difference for. A former journalist for the Washington Post he reported from moscow in the 1980 s. This summit is in many ways a great boost to mr gorbachev of no matter what it was a time of huge historical upheaval. Its also where he met his wife and fellow journalist luis hes a lot older than me and he was the best journalist in moscow and he helped me on a lot of stories introduced me to a lot of people it was very exciting because he opened a whole new worlds for me. Helping me understand so. That was sort of how we fell in love. The 1st time. Thats right looking very. Worried about how you. Look are tiny. Ok you. After a life abroad the couple settled near washington d. C. They wrote books together but everything changed about 2 years ago when dust go suffered a massive heart attack and brain hemorrhage i was working i was i was doing the remote job as an adult i finally had to get that and the thing about caregiving is it happens very slowly he lost abilities very slowly so by the end of last year i dont think i quite realized how much i was doing for him my son came and took care of him for a few days and he just lets me mom dad should have been in the system living months ago you cant do this and. I was by that point i was. Saving him dressing him. When you looked at care homes assisted living in the state what did you find i couldnt see it just go in there he didnt want to go and. He would not want to be sitting in a sitting room with other people staring at a Television Screen which a lot of people do not simply because they didnt you know they dont able to do anything else and just a light no went off my head i thought im going to google assisted living overseas which i did and i found this resort. Sounded too good to be true but i thought well ill go and take a look the minute i want to hear i i fell in love with it it was just so beautiful. More importantly she says moving to thailand meant they could Stay Together something that would have been impossible in the u. S. Weve all talked all and im slowly starting to make friends here so i can see that was going to be sort of a life where i can be with him a lot. Working on this book right now so i spend much of my day of. Writing but always when he comes to lunch or dinner i can join him and i feel its the right compromise for me because i dont you know i yes its its my life is still circumscribed by being here with him but i i have a lot of freedom to go out and do things and make new friends and to be a person to be a wife again. Was. The of. Us across town back at my as care home its also party night. Its less a resort and more a community for dementia patients and their families and so. On the remember journey. We have heard these are receding as again Martin Woodley opened this center in 2003 his father had just taken his own life because he couldnt cope with his wifes dementia. There were a few care options for his mother in their native switzerland so martin brought her here to chiang mai he found full time cameras for her and realized he could help others to disease or experiment this is something new but its the way maybe we have to fighting new models of care because the care system for elderly people its not working anymore and its going to be a big problem or let others of the problems already so long and he now has 14 patients with round the clock carers living in 10 different villas. Or dont want their own. Residents meet up for meals. And outings are a range for those who are able to go. Today visiting an Elephant Park you see. There youre ok. Number of my you know tell me about the caregiver that you brought in here and there are. People with the major disease they love them they respect them and i mean this is this wonderful thing in thailand is the way they approach they go closer to the people but still with respect. Respect is something eileen chubb says its often missing in Nursing Homes in the west the former care worker in the u. K. Now runs a nonprofit that investigates abuse in homes across the country are dont blame people like say for looking to board i dont blame them but i do think its a damning indictment on this countrys care system. This is a private moment their partner is a big. Big profits. For decades her hidden camera has captured helpless cases of unsanitary conditions and abuse in both public and private care homes in the u. K. People were left with bed sores to the bone so when you walked on to the unit you could smell dead flesh people were screaming in agony people were pushed. Spat they had their wedding ring stolen we had one case where a lady had maggots in a wound maquettes people just been ignored and people just seemed so praying and crying in a corner but the family didnt see thailand may provide better care options than these u. K. Homes but aileen still has reservations number one qualification to pick a are you have to have communication and if you havent got that you know even if youve got compassion you cant translate it cant translate to the person and show them how you can make them feel safe and believe me its the best job in the whole world. Im sorry if you can if you cant communicate with somebody then you cant care for them my young son back in high land walter disagrees what do you think about her carers these young women who look after her she has 3 beautiful women taking care of her this be calling the shots which is nice to talk to them all so they can explain to me the. Story. Perfectly she has a really good team you. Know. One of my full time carer is najat. Paulo you. Dont have to. By name and i. Call why. By the way. In a small Mountain Village about 3 hours north of chiang mai. She makes the trip back here to see her own parents once or twice a year. Her husband 2 sons and told. Her they can go let the people that call her also let. Them live here in the. Stated. Lauras parents are still fit and healthy and living on their own but shes already thinking about the future. And young at. That. Moment in the year you know. One of the long. Run they. Are. Looking after your elders is a vital responsibility in thai culture but even here things are changing she says she wont rely on her son who will take care of you when you and your husband. I didnt. Know how. But for now lars can soon. Present and future. At a memorial back in chiang mai she joined other guests and killers to mourn residents she knew and cared for who have passed away. When they wouldnt. You know i would never. Sour head. On the. Looks that i may miss that much. So kate this was where granny lived its beautiful its not the beautiful old house rises so much character so much history can you imagine moving here when she was 8 years old. And every family that sends a loved one to a care home has already grieved the loss long before the decision is made i think everyone so many people are struggling with this and were certainly not the 1st incident of the last trying to figure this out its a personal journey that you have to go through and you have to think he was right. For the individual and this was right for from. Having a Pretty Healthy here. Is that hard to come to terms with the fact that hes probably not going to be that the. Now weve made weve discussed it and. He wouldnt want to go back. Just so this is this is it and hes happy hes happy and hes comfortable yes yes because you know. Its going. This is for me it is for me. This is for me we are your body for your myopic. Because you dont like ice cream so i eat ok and i would always take care of my own whatever happened this is for me this is still this is normal she would do the same thing for me. She said unbeliever person and you should have met her here 20 years ago she was certainly. The best person i have met i. Hope you. Get a lot of insert a small amount of my own. That. Im not here all for. Im going to go off. While im alive for the ferret out. Thousands of nepalese children the traffic from the human rights and girls to staying in a legal future. When i want to follow is one girls journey hard to the remote village. On aljazeera. One day i might be covering politics in the next i might hear of microtargeting from serbia in the hungry whats most important to me is talking to people understanding what they are going through so that i can convey the headlines in the most human way possible. Here it is either we believe everyone has a story worth hearing a city defined by military occupation theres never been an arab state here at the capital of jerusalem everyone is welcome but this depot structure that maintains the can only project thats what we refuse it was one of the founders of the settlement with this and the story of jerusalem through the eyes of its own people segregation occupation discrimination injustice this is apartheid in the 21st century jerusalem a rock and a hard place on aljazeera. Hello there i missed with the headlines on aljazeera 2 major Southeast Asian nations are taking tentative steps to lift coronavirus restrictions now thailand and malaysia have both spent weeks and locked down bombs at the start of the working week thailand is allowing restaurants cylons and pet shops to reopen no new deaths had been reported there in days but all incoming flights have been banned until the end of the month or malaysia is letting the majority of businesses reopen but large gatherings still arent allowed and schools and universities are
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